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Feeling sad and completely drained

by feenx in

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bluecanary

Everyone feels sad sometimes. It's ok to feel sad. It's one of life's experiences. Try to feel the emotion without becoming the emotion.

I haven't done any creative writing about my experiences, but I did start a journal about a year before I left and have continued it. There is a lot of confusion and angst in the entries before I left the JWs. A lot of rationalization and self pep talks for activities I hated doing but felt were necessary. There are some I don't want to read and I don't know when I'll feel ready to go back and read them.

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Do you like yourself

by is there help out there in

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when you were a jw did you find you did not like your self.

when you left the truth did you find that you liked yourself more and enjoyed life..

bluecanary

I've always liked myself. I'm amazingly egotistical. I have a high self-esteem problem.

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telling jw's your findings about the cult

by AwSnap in

i'm finding that if you ask a jw a question as though you are completely confused (its got to be "sincere", not aloof), dumb, pondering, unsure, unconfident (that's the biggie), they will listen to what you have to say.

if you ask things with even a *hint* of cocky attitude or a 'let me show you what you don't know' attitute, their minds will shut off instantly.

just speaking from experience.

bluecanary

Exactly. That's the advice I try to give to people who want to get their spouse or family members to wake up. Don't be confrontational. Don't make it about you and what you've learned. State things in such a way that it might have been a question that floated up from their own brain.

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I Don't Have to Be "RIGHT" Anymore.

by OnTheWayOut in

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for the record, i don't believe in the god of the bible, and i find it hard to believe in the god of any religion on earth.

i am closest to atheist in my beliefs if you want a traditional title, but i prefer "rationalist.

" i will do god's will for me when he directly tells me what it is.

bluecanary

There is no Invisible Pink Unicorn and you are a moron for suggesting there is.

He is purple.

Great post OTWO. I love not having to be right anymore.

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JW since you were small....did your parents expect too much?

by wantstoleave in

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a couple of other threads made me think about this.. do you think that jw parents expect far more of their children than non-jw parents?

even if we discount the religious side of things, do you think you were more answerable to your parents?

you had fears of disappointing them?.

bluecanary

It's an individual thing with parents. I have a wonderful mother who was always happy with us. And I had a lousy stepfather whom I was never good enough for.

The religion itself is a different entity. It's like the third parent for whom you are never good enough.

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Wierd nativity scenes--why?

by rebel8 in

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http://hotmesssundae.blogspot.com/.

bluecanary

rebel8 good to see you!

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Introducing Cthulhu (though a bit belated)!!

by Cthulhu in

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in the last year i actually moved to the camp grounds and spent 10 months living right there where i worked.

bluecanary

Thanks for sharing your story Cthulhu. I assure you it's not boring in the least. And no pressure on the rest of it.

BTW, when you paste from word program, there's a little icon for it on the message menu, just underneath the bold, italics, underline options. It's a folder with a W on it. If you paste using that function you won't get all the gobbledy gook at the top of the post.

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Circuit & District Overseers That Made An Impact

by minimus in

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we have a lot of new ones on this site as well as some who have been here for years----i know this subject has been brought up before, but were there any memorable cos or dos that you can recall?.

co arnie scneider was my last co when i was an elder.

he was a very sweet man..

bluecanary

We had a CO I just loved. Rick White. He was my CO in VA back around 1997. He married while in our circuit. April White. I always wonder what became of him when he left our circuit.

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An Elder wrote anomously...

by Butterflyleia85 in

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i realize as an elder that i am speaking out against the very organization i try to faithfully represent, but i personally think that the governing body is wrong by teaching that only what they teach us, as printed in the watchtower publications, should be considered to be the truth.

theyve made the expression of any personal opinions or group debates over their official versions of biblical truths subject to disciplinary action often leading to someone being disfellowshipped.. .

that is why i feel that i must keep my own identity somewhat anonymous.

bluecanary

Ever hear of the inter-library loan? Geez, give us a break!

Why are people getting so snarky on this thread?

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An Elder wrote anomously...

by Butterflyleia85 in

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i realize as an elder that i am speaking out against the very organization i try to faithfully represent, but i personally think that the governing body is wrong by teaching that only what they teach us, as printed in the watchtower publications, should be considered to be the truth.

theyve made the expression of any personal opinions or group debates over their official versions of biblical truths subject to disciplinary action often leading to someone being disfellowshipped.. .

that is why i feel that i must keep my own identity somewhat anonymous.

bluecanary

babygirl, welcome to the forum

butterfly, thank you for posting this

JimmyPage, lots of grown women in their 20s and beyond refer to themsevles as girls, myself included.