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  In your experience how many DFd return to the WTS?

  by teel in

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  2. beliefs

  from the 11/15/09 wt study article: "it is heartwarming to know that a large number of such ones [disfellowshipped ones] later return to jehovah and his congregation...".

  this is a typical cult phrase, where they use a generic unverifiable statement to prove a point.

  so, since we're not likely to get an official answer from the wt, how many of the dfd ones in your vicinity has actually been reinstated?.

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  My best weight loss tip!

  by Newborn in

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  2. friends

  ...leave a sect and your marriage at the same time.... i lost 5 kilos in a month.

  tee hee.

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  Could the GB Perceive Preaching As Worthless?

  by metatron in

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  2. friends

  we're seeing a lot of changes that suggest that a drift in attitude may be occuring in regard to the "preaching" work.

  the latest info on having (real) love for your neighbor(i.e.

  charity) is just more of the same.. they cut literature, magazines - and distribution of magazines and pray, pray, pray and still the donations don't come in to allow them to do what they want.

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  Has anyone dealt with custody issues after leaving?

  by ~Jen~ in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i left my husband at the end of june.

  we were having a lot of issues in our marriage that i tried to talk about and he refused to see or even acknowledge.

  me leaving was the final straw but to him i just up and left for "no reason".

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  Do you have many friends since leaving the bOrg?

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i don't have many in my physical sphere.

  but the ones i have are good ones.

  of course we share no 'history', since i never had a 'worldly' friend until i left at 48.. in my cyberworld [and some would argue the credence of that] i have found many fine souls with which to commiserate, share, grow.

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  So you're out - first thing you did was.....

  by wantstoleave in

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  2. friends

  did you 'break the rules' full force?

  did you go celebrate a birthday?

  buy xmas decorations?

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  Question about your spouse or ex

  by bluecanary in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've noticed we have a few male posters here with wives who are still in the jws.

  and i can think of one female poster (cognac) with a husband in the jws (although things are looking up for her).

  of course we have a few spouses that came out together.. is it me, or does it seem like the women here are more likely to have divorced their jw husband--even before leaving--whereas the men are more likely to stay with their wives?

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  DO JWS REALLY WAIT TIL MARRIAGE???

  by sweet in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  do jws really wait til marriage to have sex?.

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  Were You Always Feeling Guilty As A Witness?

  by minimus in

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  i think the religion works on guilt.

  everyone is made to feel they're not good enough some how or perhaps they practice a "secret sin" and it gnaws at them.

  so they decide to pioneer or "do more", recognizing they can never really make up for whatever shortcomings they have.. were you a guilt ridden jw?

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  My Story

  by ~Jen~ in

  1. jw
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  i was raised a jw by very strict parents who, in my early teen years were physically and then later emotionally abusive all the while with my dad being and elder (and he still is).

  i didn't want to be a jw then but my life was all about making my parents happy which started with me being baptized at 13. my parents constantly drilled into my head that most things were "bad" and i was "bad" i constantly did whatever i could to avoid being bad.

  i had no life but then met a nice jw boy when i was 17. against my better judgement, i stayed with him and married him when i was 20. i didn't have a lot in common with him but he was really nice and was safe - he was a witness and even though i wanted to be in the world so bad i chose to be with him because he would keep me grounded, in the truth and away from where i really wanted to be because it was the right thing to do.. we were married for 7 years and have 3 sons.. for the past few years i've known that i did not want to be a jw even more and was sick of being fake.

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