does anyone feel threatened by outsiders of the jw world?
does it matter if anyone never has been a jw?.
what about those who have family members who are one, but not they themselves?
Yiz:
Sorry you had to go through that during childhood. I recall what it was like being bullied myself in high school so I can relate. I think I did not get over that until I graduated college in 2001 (at age 30). I guess my accomplishing that and finding myself as having outgrown my hometown boosted my self esteem.
I wish you and your wife all the best.
Married to one and have lots of in-laws who are devout.
were any of you really bothered/still bothered by the practice of field service reporting?.
there was an old post on here that got me thinking how the practice got started.. instead of simply being a tool to monitor the progress of the faith, or to see if the work was done "throughout the earth", it appears to me that it was just a tool used to keep the presses rolling and to see how much literature to produce - along with controlling the rank and file.
the average jw gives it no thought, its just another "blessing" from the organization when you hear the monthly reports, etc.. the organization is so statistics-driven that they make jesus out to be a ceo with people who need to meet their sales quotas.i'm sure he really wouldnt care if peter and andrew got 20 hours one month and john got 25. wait, maybe thats why john was "beloved" .
These are good tips that I may be able to use to help my wife with her field serve-us hours. I don't condone the activity but anything that I can suggest to make her feel like she is adequately counting her time while being able to spend a little more time doing things with the family is indeed a good thing.
Plenty of laundromats in our apartment complex. She can probably count at least an hour placing mags in each of them.
I've seen mags placed at a Wal-mart store. So spend two hours grocery shopping and place a mag, count up to two hours for field serve-us depending on how honest you want to be.
hey everyone, .
i have a question about being in a relationship with a jw boy.. we were friends since the beginning of our senior year in high school.
i called him oniichan ( older brother in japanese) so it'll just be for fun.
I guess I was a bit hasty in proclaiming Jehovah's Witnesses to be bad news but I must say that it will not be easy if you two decide to get together and he still believes this religion to be the truth. My wife and I met when she became inactive. She was not baptized at the time so it did not cause too much of an issue with our dating but there were problems. Her mother contacted the elders and told them about her relationship with me and this set off a lof of problems for their family. She was threatened to be kicked out by her parents, her mom's privleges in pioneering was threatened to be removed, and her dad's ministerial servant priveleges were threatened to be removed. In short, our love caused a rift in their family.
We decided to move out of the city so I could find another job. This made things easier for her parents as she was now out of the house. Of course, she lost her priveleges to be an unbaptized publisher. We started attending meetings in the new city but I was not too impressed with them. Never-the-less I permitted the studying to continue. While I considered myself Christian, I did not go to church regularly and she eventually became irregular in her studies and meeting attendance. She nearly became an atheist but was always afraid that she was going to die at the big A.
Long story short, she found nothing in the churches I attended that satisfied her. She still held fast to her religion alone being the truth, so she began studying again in earnest and started 'progressing in the truth.' This made me realize that I did not really have a faith at all and seeked to find the truth. But I later returned to who I originally was, albeit a little smarter. She, however, is now a baptized publisher. Things haven't been easy for us because just as others have stated she can be very sweet sometimes and a overbearing control freak in another. Reading the other's posts makes me realize that it is not her I should be upset with, it is the machine that is the Watchtower Society.
Now I am sure she wants to drag my daughter in, fearing for her everlasting life. I am going to provide resistance and assert the headship card as needed to prevent my daughter from being sucked into this emotionally abusive cult of a religion.
My advice to you is to think about any future kids you may decide to have with him. Are you okay with him possibly letting them die should they need a blood transfusion? What about the holidays? Do you think it would be okay to celebrate them? Do you want your kids to celebrate them? According to his beliefs, he is the man and the head of the household. He may not let you and I will guarantee you that he will probably not allow any compromises in regards to his raising the kids 'in the truth.'
Think about what your future with him will be like if he does not leave the Watchtower society. His not wanting to be with you is really a blessing in disguise.
does anyone feel threatened by outsiders of the jw world?
does it matter if anyone never has been a jw?.
what about those who have family members who are one, but not they themselves?
Yiz:
Wow, don't get upset with me over this. Personally, I am not here to judge but I have to admit that I was a bit perplexed when it was suggested that you had no connections to witnesses.
I've only been on this board for the past 5 months. I consider myself a 'countercultist' because I have to be. If I did not have to deal with cults and cultists, I wouldn't. But, some people want to help out cultists even though they have little to no connection with them on a personal level.
Outlaw:
Yeah, I was reading one of the older posts from 7 years ago.
does anyone feel threatened by outsiders of the jw world?
does it matter if anyone never has been a jw?.
what about those who have family members who are one, but not they themselves?
OUTLAW
Has this guy, Yizuman really been asking the board for money? I read his earlier post on Friday where he spoke of his wife losing her disability money.
Yiz:
What connections do you have with Jehovah's Witnesses outside of this message board. I mean, for me personally, if my wife weren't a witness I would not be spending so much time here myself.
i am an ex jw and happy.
my sister is an ultra jw married to an elder.
my non jw grandfather just past away and my sister has said for the last 15 years that she wanted nothing to do with that side of my family including me and especially my grandfather.
KICKED OUT
You could remind her that when she takes the money and uses it that she is touching the unclean thing considering its source.
Otherwise, unfortunately, the Bible actually speaks of wealth transfer from the wicked to the righteous. I certainly hope she does not know about that one.
In an interesting twist, if the so called 'evil' person is a believer in the Bible and is wealthy and decides to give out of the kindness of his heart to his 'enemies' who are witnesses. Both of them would be reasoning from the Bible in regards to the event. The 'evil' believer would be reasoning that he is loving his enemies while the witness would be reasoning that Jehovah is transferring wealth from the wicked to the righteous.
hey everyone, .
i have a question about being in a relationship with a jw boy.. we were friends since the beginning of our senior year in high school.
i called him oniichan ( older brother in japanese) so it'll just be for fun.
Personally, I would highly recommend backing off of this for a while. I agree with Black Sheep and that the best thing to do is run away. Until he realizes that he is in a destructive cult, things will not be good for either of you. You're only other option is to study and become a witness yourself. Again, I highly recommend that you do not do this. This religion is emotionally destructive.
I know that you are feeling like you love this guy but take it from me, if I new then what I know now about my witness wife when I was dating her, I would've left her alone. Jehovah's Witnesses are bad news.
having read a lot of threads on how difficult it can be to deal with parents who cannot understand why a child leaves the jw's etc, i decided to post about my mother.... mum joined the jw's in the early 70's.
she had 3 children, about 8,10 and 12. after divorce and remarriage she had two more (twins) when i was 15ish.
we three first children all left home, older brother d/f first, younger sister d/a years later and i left my wife and was d/f too.
I think we can add my mother-in-law to the list of reasonable JW's. She knows I don't agree with the religion and she and her husband were estatic when they saw their daughter, my wife, get baptised yesterday. But throughout the years, she has been at least somewhat reasonable with those who disagree. Including my sister-in-law who is thankfully still out.
remember when you were a kid and you saw the funny bits in shows about how someone hates their job and just goes to work to pay the bills.
i think i've reached that point in my life.. i hate my job.. i used to love the work i do... but the way a corporation crushes your soul and leaves you as an empty husk of your former self has finally taken its toll on me.. i used to look forward to the challenges of work... now i wake up, go to work, do what i have to do to get through the day and then go home.. .
it's totally absurd but i find myself literally fantasizing about winning the lottery so i can get my soul back..
While I don't hate my job, I can understand how you feel. Personally, I am at the point to where I just go to work, do what is required (and no more), get paid, go home, and feed my family. I think, right now, my daughter is the highlight of my life. Even my wife and I don't get much joy from spending time together anymore.
Anyway, sounds like we both need to shake things up in our lives.
