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Ambushed!!!!! Fam'ly Intervention!

by sd-7 in

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last night, i went to my parents' house to wash clothes--or so i thought.

apparently, someone's been talking.

so...i get slammed for listening to people on the internet.

Ambushed!!!!! Fam'ly Intervention!

by sd-7 in

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last night, i went to my parents' house to wash clothes--or so i thought.

apparently, someone's been talking.

so...i get slammed for listening to people on the internet.

You called your brother a 'thug and a bully' ... hahahahaha! I picture Tu-Pac with a bandanna on his head, fat gold chain hanging with a Jesus piece at the end with diamonds, and baggy jeans sitting in the middle of his butt with a wife beater on - telling YOU "How stupid can you be?" LOL!!!

On a serious note, you're right - no 'internet' person can comfort you the way a REAL person can, and I'm so sorry that you are going through this. But know that you are not alone and not the first to have to deal with the ambush of JW family. My beyotch nutbucket sister, who goes for bouts of inactivity for years at a time, had the nerve to try to tell ME off and say "you are dead to me. don't ever post pics of me or my daughter, as we want NOTHING to do with your debasing lifestyle". Um....yeah....ok. This SAME girl doesn't have a job, steals money, has affairs with married men, and has an illegitimate chid - yet she is baptized (all of which she forgets). The holier then thou attitude is TAUGHT to JWs (I was raised one). That superiority complex allows them to think and believe they are smarter, better, wiser, and enlightened WAY beyond everyone else.

I applaud your reasonings...they all are simple and make complete sense. But as I've learned, when someone gets confronted with the TRUTH, and they know it, they get defensive and do one of 3 things: #1 - throw out a 'whatever'....#2 - cuss you out...or #3 - start crying. The fact that your brother chose #2 (cussin) proves that he heard 'truth' in what you brought to his attention, but has no rebuttal. As my ghetto sister would always say when someone tried to rebutt her craziness "You can't argue with ME when you know you suck!" hahahaha

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Were you ever offered unconditional love by worldlies?

by dgp in

when you were in, or at the moment, if you are in, were you ever offered unconditional love by worldly people?

if so, what did you feel about it?.

thank you very much for your posts..

babygirl30

Even when I was 'in'...I maintained 'worldly' friendships...guess it was just WHO I am!

My parents used to get MAD at me and tell me that these worldly friends (coworkers, college classmates) were all Satan's way of diverting my attention from Jehovah and that I was NOT going to have this blessing if I continued to associate with these people. UGH!!! Inevitably, when I am DF'd - those same 'worldly people' ended up being the ONLY ones that had my back...when all those wholesome JW friendships fell by the wayside.

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The reporting of field service time

by lepermessiah in

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were any of you really bothered/still bothered by the practice of field service reporting?.

there was an old post on here that got me thinking how the practice got started.. instead of simply being a tool to monitor the progress of the faith, or to see if the work was done "throughout the earth", it appears to me that it was just a tool used to keep the presses rolling and to see how much literature to produce - along with controlling the rank and file.

the average jw gives it no thought, its just another "blessing" from the organization when you hear the monthly reports, etc.. the organization is so statistics-driven that they make jesus out to be a ceo with people who need to meet their sales quotas.i'm sure he really wouldnt care if peter and andrew got 20 hours one month and john got 25. wait, maybe thats why john was "beloved" .

babygirl30

I have always thought it was sad that people (who claimed to be family) and KNOW that Jehovah can read their hearts - no matter how much or little they did - would count people as a NUMBER (time in service...amount of publications sold...number of rv's)! It has never made a bit of sense to me because it's so impersonal. Corporate America recognizes people as 'numbers' - they don't care what your name is, how old you are, where you live or your personal situation. ALL they care about is how much money you make them! The society seems to be the same way...it's not about WHO you are, it's about how many hours and placements!

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Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

by fleshyheadedmutant in

i am quandry.

i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

babygirl30

Being born in, it has been and always will be this 'sore' spot in my heart. My family and so-called friends continue to shun me (on a personal level) like I have some type of disease and need to be quarantined or something. To explain the shunning process to anyone outside the org, they inevitably find it ridiculous and just shake their heads in disagreement...yet to a JW, shunning IS the best way to convince a sinner that they NEED the 'protection' of the group. The day I was DF'd, it felt like the rug was ripped out from under me: after being assaulted and abused by my ex-JW fiance, I was NOW losing my 'friends' and also eventually my own family! Not that it hurts as much as it did over a year ago when this all happened, but seeing shunning for what it is - manipulation - makes it all MUCH clearer for me. The fact that the 'love' JWs preach to everyone can be shut off like a light switch after 1 single announcement (Babygirl30 is no longer a Jehovah's Witness) is abominable!

Thankfully I have really done my research, learned more about JWs then I ever thought I would (especially since I was raised one), and finding REAL friends outside the org has completely changed my life and my thinking process. I'm now GRATEFUL for being DF'd and having the need to find out why I was treated in such a way and forced to be shunned...but on the flip side, will always carry that little sore spot because NONE of the shunning makes sense.

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Do you do any volunteer work? If so, what?

by Quirky1 in

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babygirl30

Work as a volunteer at the domestic violence coalition in my county...supporting women who have been abused.

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Finally Erased them OUT of my phone!

by babygirl30 in

it's been about going on 2yrs that i've been df'd and not even 1yr that i stopped going to the khall at all...but...i'm proud to say that as of last night i was going through my phone and decided that i needed to just cut out all those people that didn't matter anymore!

you know, the old jw 'friends' (use that term loosely) whose numbers i've held onto all this time and don't need anymore.

i mean, never going to bother with these people again.

babygirl30

It's weird how 'matter-a-fact' the whole thing was! Last year I looked at those same names/numbers and thought 'OH...can't erase them, when I get reinstated I will definitely want to contact them' - hahahahahahaha. yeah RIGHT!!! Those people don't give a rats about ME and who I am NOW (not the good lil JW girl they wanted me to be) so they don't deserve anymore room on my SIM card. FUnny the difference a year AWAY from JWs makes in a life.

Case closed.

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The moment I knew it was crap....

by Brocephus in

already had doubts from the time i got pubes... but i was about 15 and we were studying the revelation "book" for the upteenth time.

i realized for every actual bible verse they qouted there was 2-3 paragraphs of conjecture, assumption, faulty logic and just plain stupidity.

that's when i began to plan my escape.

babygirl30

All the explainations of the 144,000...1914...607BCE...Nissan 14...blood - NONE of it ever made sense! I am NOT the smartest at 'math' as it is, but to have an entire Watchtower study article on the breakdown of how the society came to those specific dates or decisions- it was all too much for me. Since when does a DATE or PRINCIPLE need that much explaining?????? UGH! I used to seriously tune out on those Sundays! -hahahaha

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Finally Erased them OUT of my phone!

by babygirl30 in

it's been about going on 2yrs that i've been df'd and not even 1yr that i stopped going to the khall at all...but...i'm proud to say that as of last night i was going through my phone and decided that i needed to just cut out all those people that didn't matter anymore!

you know, the old jw 'friends' (use that term loosely) whose numbers i've held onto all this time and don't need anymore.

i mean, never going to bother with these people again.

babygirl30

It's been about going on 2yrs that I've been DF'd and not even 1yr that I stopped going to the Khall at all...but...I'm proud to say that as of last night I was going through my phone and decided that I needed to just CUT out all those people that didn't matter anymore! You know, the old JW 'friends' (use that term loosely) whose numbers I've held onto all this time and don't need anymore. I mean, NEVER going to bother with these people again. So, I erased em!!!!

Just feels good to say...thanks for letting me share.

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'Talks That Inspire' looking back at where my mind was, I wrote about the time at the convention "Godly Obedience".

by Butterflyleia85 in

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my assignment was to write about a speach i heard that inspired me.

well being a jehovah's witness that was easy for we all had it three times a week then during our assembles and convention meetings.

written 12/11/2005.

babygirl30

Girl...those are some SERIOUS convention notes there!!! Man, do I remember sitting there in a DAZE writing and writing and writing....just wasting paper and killin trees.