I had visits by elders until I STOPPED going to mtgs....haven't heard from one since.
babygirl30
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How many DF'ed on this board have actually had...
by tenyearsafter inhow many disfellowshipped ones on this board have actually had follow up elder visits "encouraging" them to return to the meetings?.
i have been df'ed for 15 years now, and i have never had one visit (i am not saying that is a bad thing!
) from an elder encouraging me to return to the organization.
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Did you feel embarassed explaining the Memorial to people?
by lepermessiah ini did...... by the time you were done, they looked at you like you were from another planet.. it was the "you actually believe all of this?
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babygirl30
I remember "explaining" this to a young man and he said, "This is something thought up by a White guy, right?"
DAMN!!! You don't know HOW many friends/family have clowned me about how JW's were a 'white' religion...LOL!!! Actually even though i was DF'd last yr, i went to the Memorial and also took friends of mine. We spent the entire time TALKING. Well, actually, we laughed through most of it...but it was at all her questions about the Memorial. That made me realize that I really wasn't there for the 'right' reasons and didn't need to go back.
For the record, I'm NOT going tonight either. This here black chick has things to DO!
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babygirl30
CofC made me CRY and also hot with anger! Not that I was angry with RFranz for what he said, but I was angry that what he said was TRUE and that it was so plain and simple that only someone seriously 'mind controlled' could not make sense of it...broke my heart that I had been involved in such a group for so long and didn't see it! But the tears really were because of that 'aha' moment that book gave me.
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I called my mom.
by lisavegas420 inafter more than 20yrs without a relationship....after more than 5yrs without hearing a word from her, i called.. out of the blue, i just called.. me: hi, mom, it's me lisa.
mom: oh, hi.. me: well, it's been a long time, i just wanted to check and see how you and dad were.. mom: we're fine.. the conversation ranged from, the weather, my husband, my children and grandchildren, (whom she's never met) my animals, gardening.
we talked about how dad was doing now, (after a stroke) how he walks with a cane, and uses an electric wheel chair when they go to walmart.
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babygirl30
I'm happy for you - that you were able to talk to your mother. No matter how general or short the convo, it still was probably NICE just to have her attention for a few. Hope you can have another convo with her!!!
**Side Note*** It's really sickening how a religion that cries such 'love' between it's members can TELL a family NOT to speak to their other relations and to be 'cold' towards them. Makes no sense and is disgusting.
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Introducing myself
by drose ini have been around for a long time especially since simon was running his site.
just came back.
had an ex-husband who was a meth-head but claimed to be a jw for many years.
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babygirl30
Welcome!
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I'm sick
by doublelife inthree weeks ago i had a middle ear infection.
i was all better but this morning woke up with a soar throat and runny nose.
:(.
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babygirl30
AAAWWW! Sorry you don't feel good
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Being raised as a witness did you ever get the chance to choose your own personal religion?
by make yourself inwith me it never actually was the case.all i remember and still hear is make sure you stay with jehovah....sometimes you just get tired of the same terd getting shoved down your throat..
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babygirl30
I was NEVER EVER given a choice - and for that very reason alone - I find 'fault' with the org. It was made clear that my father was NOT going to have any grown unbaptized kids living in HIS house! So my constant need of approval from my parents is what motivated me to get baptized and join the crew at 14yrs old!! (oh and the fear of getting kicked out). It was burned in my mind NEVER to question anything cause that meant you thought more of yourself and didn't trust in jehovah. So I just jumped in head-first. what else could I do?
Of course NOW that I'm out, I see the error in that 'push' for kids to get baptized and join the fold. It's seriously flawed!!! You can't research the religion (for real), only using their info provided. That's like buying a car and only reading the manufacturers book...NOT unbiased reports and reviews. And then to allow a young person to join and be LOCKED into that dedication despite them gaining knowledge and actively using their 'free will' when they become adults!
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At the risk of sounding egotistical...
by Gregor inas of 11:19 pm pst last night i am a great grandfather!.
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babygirl30
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!
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I'm going poo-less
by rebel8 inno, this is not my annual march colon cancer awareness thread!*.
a certain poo-less poster here has inspired me to stop using shampoo.. according to various hippie types, shampoo forces your scalp to produce extra oils and it takes a while to adjust.
sudsing detergents are bad for the environment too.. plus they have carcinogens and flying spaghetti monster knows i don't need any more of those.. so....have you gone poo-less?.
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babygirl30
Honestly, the silicones are HORRIBLE for hair (frizz tamers, wax, pomade, shine liquids) all because 'cones' tend to dry OUT hair int he long run. They only COAT your hair, not actually moisturize it. So the book says to find conditioners w/o cones - and the BEST one I've found (this may sound cheap as hell) but it's Suave Coconut Cond! $1 a bottle, but it works AMAZ?ING with my curly hair. Oh,and no Treseme Naturals has come out with a cond that is silicone free....I use that too.
Also check out this site - it gives hair advice all the time www.naturallycurly.com
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Here's my story! (Long one!)
by its_me! inhere is a quick version of my life in the org.
i was born and raised in it.
my father was physically and mentally abusive to my siblings and i. he was inactive from the meetings and service for much of my life.
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babygirl30
Welcome, welcome, welcome!! Such a heart-wrenching story you shared, but its good to get it OUT there, isn't it?
Sadly, I FEEL all that you said. I was raised in an emotionally abusive household, and so when I grew up, I continued to choose men to 'date' that were abusive just as my father was (even though I swore I never would). Unforunately, accepting abuse is a learned behavior - and I had it so deeply ingrained in ME that I didn't recognize it till it was too late. I actually almost married a JW man who was physically abusive, and thank God I ended that before it was too late...but I also used that situation as a motivation to mentally get myeslf together, and therapy has helped! The elders, well, your situation is like SO MANY other you will read or hear about...it's not about helping the flock, it's moreso about beating them down and disposing of them - that seems to be much easier then readjusting someone. Learned it, went through it, and was DF'd just like you with that accusation that I was not 'humble' nor repentant (mind you I had visible bruises on my body from that JW man's assault AND I had court documents protecting me from him which I brought to show the elders). IT's painful to be told you don't matter when you're at your lowest point and really NEED a positive word or action - isn't it?
I wish you the BEST and hope that you keep reading and keep posting. You will hear from a LOT of nice and encouraging people here!!!