Dear it's_me!, we are all so happy you found this board! Yes, it certainly is a discovery, isn't it? We have all drawn lots of inner strength, comfort and good laughs from it. I'm not surprised you can't take your eyes off the computer these first days. Amazing to realize how many people had already felt the same as you, and we all thought we were alone or nearly! Feel very welcome here. All the best to you. Hugs, OLGA.
goldensky
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I'm new here!
by its_me! ini have been reading your posts for 2 weeks now, and i am riveted!
i spend every spare moment on this site.
it has become rather like a drug to me!
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Youtube on Birthdays
by OnTheWayOut inthis one does a great job:.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ge7hvd9zazu.
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goldensky
Done, OnTheWayOut. Thank you very much.
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Is this normal?
by iknowall558 inis it normal........after a year of being out of the org... and (to ditch everything in your life that made you feel worthless), is it normal, to still feel despair and a certain level of depression?.
i am going between extreme happiness and contentment ......relief and optimism, to a downright spiral of hitting the depths of somewhere dark and murky, that i know i dont want to be.
its scary and i dont like it.
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goldensky
Iknowall558, how brave of you to open up like this, revealing feelings that, as you say, many of us might hesitate to acknowledge in public! You are all the more to be respected for voicing them though.
Is it normal? you ask. In my opinion, it's definitely nothing to be ashamed of, but there's no reason why you should put up with those uncomfortable ups and downs that make you suffer emotionally. I agree with the other posters that you should seek help from an expert. More and more people do it nowadays and sometimes it works wonders. I'd give it a try, it may help you tremendously and permit you to remain in that state of "contentment" for much longer periods of time and the lows to be shorter and less intense (mind you, we all have our mood swings, so you'll never be totally rid of those emotional changes). I'd just make sure the help you get is not only professionally competent, but also compatible with your personality.
All the best to you.
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goldensky
Dear Iknowall558, I'm so sorry you had to go through all that... But so happy you seem to enjoy life nowadays.
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goldensky
What a thought-provoking question, Paul! I love it! OK, this is what I would say to myself, "Dearest Olga, believe it or not, I'm you in 29 years' time. I'm about to give you the best pieces of advice anybody could ever give you, so listen to me as attentively as you possibly can: first of all, JWs DON'T have the truth, so get out graciously and redefine your whole set of values and beliefs by informing yourself about as vast an array of philosophies, religions, and points of view as you reasonably can. Work whole-souled at understanding every person you meet and contributing to his well-being. That's the key to your own happiness. I know you firmly believe in not ever having children, but there's no greater source of joy and completeness, no words can describe the tenderness and energizing feeling of responsibility you will derive from them, so don't wait until the age of 38 to begin a family. You will be in love many times and it will be magical, the closest to naturally being high on drugs, but it will only last a few months each time, so enjoy it to the full for as long as it lasts and don't feel something has failed when it's over. The day will come when you will realize after the magic is gone there will still be a lot of love, deep love left for a particular man, not because he is perfect, not because your heart skips a beat when you see him, but because he loves you with all his heart, because he's a hard worker, courageous, and because he is a friend that will never let you down. He will be a great father too. Be a team, be forgiving and flexible. Enjoy one day at a time, marvel at the world around you. Surround yourself by humble, intelligent, cheerful people who make you feel good. Ignore those who envy you. Look after your health, love your body. Enjoy the miracle of life".
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It's official--I'm out.
by sd-7 in"sd-7 is no longer one of jehovah's witnesses.".
i always imagined this day would come.
i'm not sure exactly how i knew.
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Dear Sd-7, there's not much I can add to what everybody has already said. I just want you to know I'm thinking of you and wish you strentgh and inner peace. Love, OLGA.
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GROUP HUG!!!
by snowbird inanyone wanting or needing a hug, check in here!.
quickly now, before the supplies run out!.
sylvia.
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goldensky
I wish I could give each one of you a real hug, not a virtual one, and receive one in return... It's sad and frustrating to think I may never meet any of you in person. Because I owe you all a lot guys.
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Why are we repulsed at the though to consuming human milk?
by Elsewhere ini saw a story this morning about a guy who is making cheese using his wife's breast milk.. i checked a poll and 80% of people think this is gross.
i must admit there is a part of me that is repulsed too.
my scientific "geek" and curious side is intrigued and would want to try it... but then the repulsion kicks in again.
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"Were sisters allowed to nurse in the main auditorium in your halls?
I remember quite the ruckus over one sister who breastfed her toddler in the main hall. She just flopped that tit right out and Junior climbed right on...in front of Jehovah and everybody."
Undercover, that made me laugh!
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Youtube on Birthdays
by OnTheWayOut inthis one does a great job:.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ge7hvd9zazu.
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Dear OnTheWayOut, I'm very interested in sending this link to my JW sister, but I don't know how to make it clickable for her. Do you know how to? It's very, very good. Just yesterday we were talking about birthdays and I think this could contribute a lot to her seeing it more clearly. Thank you very much.
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Please add to this story ...
by compound complex inbedtime story.
bed is sweet and safe.
warm and comfortable, too.
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goldensky
I like your ending, Flipper!