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  Back Surgery

  by AuntieJane in

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  hi guys, i'm asking for your support as i face a frightful event...back surgery.

  excrutiating pain for about 6 weeks due to the l2-3 herniation.

  i have had problems only since.

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  jb

  Hi AJ,

  I had a ruptured disk (L5) for about 18 months. I woke up one morning and couldn't stand up straight. I was in severe pain. I saw my doc and he blew me off basically. Told me to lose weight and exercise. Sounded good only problem was I was bent over and was losing the feeling in my foot. So I pushed the issue with him and he sent me to PT. I went 4 times and left in more pain then I came with. Then my leg started giving out and I fell a few times. My doc finally sent me to a surgeon. First thing he said was "looks like you have a ruptured L5. Let's get a MIR and see." He was right. I had a steriod injection which did nothing and a few weeks later he told me I would need surgery. I was very affraid, near panic. I begged for another shot. He told me if the first one didn't work it would be a waste of time.

  So I had surgery. I'm not 100 %. But I'm standing up staight! I can walk without falling and now I can go and do things with my kids that I couldn't do before. It is a very big decision. My recovery was very slow. I had a lot of swelling and was in a wheelchair for a few weeks after my surgery. It wasn't easy but I am glad I did it.

  Just make sure you have a MRI and depending on what they tell you, get a second opinion. Do little things like sleeping with a pillow between your legs and use ice not heat. And keep moving. I hope this helps you out. Good Luck and my thoughts are with you.

  jb
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  Tick bite/Lyme disease...any experiences with this?

  by restrangled in

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  dear all,.

  my husband came back from a 3 day camping trip in northern il.

  he was fine up until last week.. suddenley, he was so exhausted, achey, and had a constant headache 2 weeks later.

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  restrangled

  I'm so sorry your husband is ill. I live in New England and we have ticks everywhere here. I was bit about a year ago and discovered it 4 days later. I went and they gave me a one day treatment of meds. And it never got worse. My monster-in-law had lyme and was very sick like your hubby. But she made a full recovery.

  I wish you and your hubby the best.
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  HELP!! ADVICE....Saying NO to pioneering

  by Kristofer in

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  i have a female friend who i've been discussing the religion with.

  she definitely has doubts about the org but isn't sure on leaving just yet as she has still got about 6 months to go being a minor dependent on the parents.

  lately, she's been getting heavy pressure to start pioneering.

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  I found myself in this situation as a young teen. My Father was an Elder and ALL my friends..boys and girls..entered into pioneer work after graduation. I followed suit.

  Well I HATED it. So I quit. Boy was that harder then just saying no to begin with. They wanted to know why so I told them I didn't enjoy it. At all. They were pissed. The C.O called me every day asking if I had changed my mind. I told him, nope.

  Bottom line is, they are going to label your friend as weak and all kinds of other names. She can tell them anything she wants, lie or tell the truth. It really doesn't matter. They will not even notice in a month or two when the next big gossip item comes along. IMOA

  jb
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  Facing Death-Change of Heart?

  by kojo in

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  hello, i'm new here and finally remembered what email i used to log in when i signed up.

  i wasn't able to respond to past posts ,so sorry if anyone asked a question and i didnt reply.

  my question this time is if anyone here has known someone or have themselves faced death ( a near-death experience, illness, old age,etc.

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  welcome back kojo!

  Yes I had a near death experience. It was the birth of my first child. I went into labor early and there were complications. I needed a blood transfusion. The doctor knew I was a JW and he asked me if I would consider a transfusion. He asked in front of my Elder father and my mother. I said no. They wheeled my in the operating room and he told me that if I wanted to take it he was legally bound to keep it private. He told me he would not even tell my husband. I was thinking to myself...Don't do it. You've screwed things up so bad already. This is a no-brainer. ( I had gotten preg. before I got married )

  So, I said no. The doctor looked at me and said "You could die, you really could die." I still said no. That was hard but what happened next was worse. After I was in the recovery room they told me my son was not breathing on his own. And that he may have lost blood and that he may need a transfusion. My whole family was there. My Dad ran out of the room and called Brooklyn and they sent an elder to the hospital that they were sending my son to.

  They didn't even ask me what I wanted. And to be fair, I'm afraid of what my answer would have been. Thankfully we didn't need to worry about that. He did not lose any blood. He was on life support for several days. I was very ill for weeks and one after another the JW's would come and shower me with attention. They were at my door 24/7.

  I had a "sister" who lost a child to SIDS tell me that I made the right choice not to have blood and to take a stand. She also told me she was glad my son was ok. She stated that had he died he would not have been in the "new system" because he was a "SIN".

  Well that was the last straw for me. If my baby, who was innocent and helpless, wasn't good enough then screw them. I never really looked back. My hubby and I made a fast fade. Then years later just told our family we were not coming back. And we have been free ever since.
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  DID YOU DO FIELD SERVICE IN YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD?

  by badboy in

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  one notices that some jws don't seem to do fs in their neighbourhood,is this common?

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  My Dad made us once...He took my brother with him to the Principle's house and told him it was his turn.

  Well my brother wasn't even close to wanting to be a JW. And on top of that he wasn't a great student. So when the principle came to the door he told the guy that because he was forced to go door to door he had little time for school work!

  Holy Cow was my Dad pissed!!! We never worked our area again.

  Even though there was a lot of yelling after that..it's still one of my favorite memories of my brother Scott. I lost him a few years after that. I miss him greatly. And I know if he was here today he would have helped and supported my leaving.
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  Do you consider posting here as "Therapy" for you?

  by JH in

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  is this place therapy for you, or just a place to mingle?

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  I have been here for a long time. I don't post alot. Guess I'm shy

  But it has helped me in so many ways.

  Best Therapy in the world!

  jb
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  Talking to my mother...

  by mrsjones5 in

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  i was talking to my mother last night and towards the end of our conversation she said "oh i'm tired so after i get off the phone with you i'm going to get in bed and study my watchtower.

  then i said "i know what you mean but i have to get the kids in bed.

  they want to go to church tomorrow but they dont want to go to bed and it's hard for them get up for church if they dont have enough sleep.

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  mrsjones5,

  I'm glad to see I'm not alone in this. I do the same thing with my parents. They are both very active in the hall. They feel the need to remind me of all the requirements they have to meet.

  They just had the CO visit and were very busy,too busy to call that week. I told her it was ok I was busy taking down my Chrstmas tree and decorations.

  hehehehe...it gets sorta fun to play with her!

  jb
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  How many did you "bring in"

  by slugga in

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  credit to

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  how many people did you bring into the truth, what was there reaction to you fading, daing or getting df'd and do you feel guilty about it now?

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  none....thankfully
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  eBay

  by alfie in

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  hi there from the rainy west coast of canada,.

  alfie here, as you know i don't get on the board often, but i do read comments occasionally and enjoy all of the things said.

  however, i'm needing some advice and have never seen this subject discussed.

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  My husband has used it a few times and has never had a problem. Hope you fine what your looking for.

  jb
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  Watchtower baptises mentally ill ?

  by oldflame in

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  does the wtachtower baptise the mentally ill ?

  it sure seems like it with all the new freaks here making claims of being prophets and jesus etc.....is this how low they will go to get their numbers up ?

  it really makes me wonder.......

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  We had several people who were mentally ill that got baptised in our cong. One of our elders was unstable to the point that he tried 3 times to kill himself. They still haven't removed him, they are afraid he'll take it bad!!

  jb