Thanks for all the comments so far... and the "Hypothetical" is because this is not about me. I'm questioning for someone else actually. And the reason the DFing is needed on the faded ex... is because the person in question wants to move forward with their life and (unfortunately for them) wants to remain in the organization. The faded ex is a very deceitful and vengeful person... so they will NEVER come forward to say yes... I'm living with someone so let's all move on. Sigh...
Posts by JBean
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by JBean inhi everyone... i have a "hypothetical" situation... here's the issue: i have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the jws)... we got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex.
same mailing address, single family home, etc.
is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping?
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Assistance requested before someone ends up spending mucho $$$$!
by JBean inhi everyone... i have a "hypothetical" situation... here's the issue: i have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the jws)... we got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex.
same mailing address, single family home, etc.
is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping?
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JBean
Good for you Linda! It probably was heartbreaking (on SO many levels) at the time, but it seems you've pulled through and moved on and are happier now than then... hopefully!
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Assistance requested before someone ends up spending mucho $$$$!
by JBean inhi everyone... i have a "hypothetical" situation... here's the issue: i have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the jws)... we got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex.
same mailing address, single family home, etc.
is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping?
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JBean
I am looking forward to hearing responses to this for sure. I am getting the feeling that it indeed depends on the congregation, personalities of the elders involved and pretty much anything else they want to throw into the mix before a decision is made. Unfortunately, my gut tells me that in this type of situation, hiding in a bedroom closet would probably do the trick. But then the victim would probably get arrested and get DF'd for that!
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Assistance requested before someone ends up spending mucho $$$$!
by JBean inhi everyone... i have a "hypothetical" situation... here's the issue: i have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the jws)... we got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex.
same mailing address, single family home, etc.
is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping?
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JBean
REALLY? How weird! What did they think, they you were continuing to sleep together after you got divorced? Is that why? Supposedly PROOF is needed that there's a sexual relationship going on. No?
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Assistance requested before someone ends up spending mucho $$$$!
by JBean inhi everyone... i have a "hypothetical" situation... here's the issue: i have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the jws)... we got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex.
same mailing address, single family home, etc.
is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping?
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JBean
Hi everyone... I have a "hypothetical" situation... Here's the issue: I have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the JWs)... We got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) Said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex. Same mailing address, single family home, etc. Is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping? or do I really need (as some JWs have insinuated) to have more "proof"... do I need to hire an investigator to take photos of them in the bedroom for pete's sake???? Any thoughts/ideas would be most appreciated. Thanks!
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The fade is over, talked to my parents last night. (very very long)
by Paralipomenon inthere would never be a good time to have this conversation.
quite different from most people raised a witness, i have very few horror stories about my upbringing.
my family was just a family, my mom and dad fought and argued, my siblings and i misbehaved and got in trouble.. .
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JBean
Wow, Paralipomenon ! You are so strong, so strong. Your post made me cry, as what you related is EXACTLY what I feel! I never did have to have the "talk" with my folks though... just have been fading... slooowwwwllllyyyy... for years and I believe they actually "get it", but don't wish to discuss it. Your post will remain in my thoughts for a long while... many blessings to you and your family! T.
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Stinkin Dorito's!!!!!!!!!!
by megsmomma ini bought some for my husbands lunch.
they are in snack size....so i don't have to handle them.
well, problem is hubby doesn't want them at work cause it will give him "dorito breath".
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JBean
Cheese Puffs!!! Not the crunchy ones... those are yukky ha!
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An update
by Frequent_Fader_Miles inthanks so much for the really warm welcome.
just a small confession .. my last post was actually written a couple months ago before i'd gotten the nerve to post.
i copied and pasted it ... and forgot to update it.. my wedding came off in december 2006, and my mom did attend.
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JBean
Hi! Don't get to log on too often... so just reading through this now. MANY congratulations to you on a wonderful wedding! Just had to write to let you know that I was in the same situation... got married in 2005 to a FABULOUS guy! But was nervous at first to broach the wedding to my folks (LONG time JWs) (I've been fading like for-ever!!!)
They did attend the wedding, had a BLAST, and now they just love their son-in-law! Amazing. I shouldn't have waited so long (many years we dated) prior to introducing him to them... but old habits die hard I guess. Jbean
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LOOK AT WHAT I ORDERED!!!! :)
by kittyeatzjdubs ini've lately become addicted to amazon.com.
especially when i found out that you can buy used books as low as $2 to a penny.
anyway...so i was surfing around and i thought, ''i wonder if they have any instruments...'' and they do.
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JBean
Hey!!! Pretty beautiful!!! I used to play the flute back all through high school... just looking at your pictures brings back some pretty fine memories!!! I think I'll dig around in my closets to see if I can find it... maybe start playing it again... who knows?! Thanks!!! Jbean
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My Dad died this evening
by Mulan ini thought i would let you know that my dad, passed away a little while ago, tonight, january 23. they called me at 6pm to tell me.
he had been failing rapidly for the past month, and had completely lost his hearing and was totally blind.
the dementia was extreme too, and he still knew me on thursday, but didn't wake up to know me in the following days.
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Very very sorry for your loss. My wish is that he lives on in your heart and memories. God bless... Jbean