carpediem

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  What do you think happens when you die?

  by brainwashed-from-birth in

  1. watchtower
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  we were taught you are just unconscience in a grave "hell".

  no burning fires or wonderful heaven where all our dreams come true.

  i never feel like i am going to heaven.

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  carpediem

  Lights out - forever
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  What percentage would you say doubt their belief that are still in?

  by user10 in

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  what do you think?.

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  carpediem

  I would agree with emptyinside. The problem is that hardly anyone admits this. I was afraid to say I didnt believe in God/Jehovah/Creator anymore, for fear of repercussions. My husband knows and that it is. I dont think he has told anyone......yet.
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  Ever Felt Like Just Hugging Someone?

  by snowbird in

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  i feel that way today.. so, here's a (((((((jwn))))))).. sylvia.

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  carpediem

  LOL snowbird. Hugz back!
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  I know one thing.

  by mouthy in

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  how to tell the difference between a man & a woman.. but on here!!!

  i cant tell wheather they are male or female, .

  yes some have the identifying mark ....pink or blue.. but some dont.

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  carpediem

  Female
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  Ever Felt Like Just Hugging Someone?

  by snowbird in

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  i feel that way today.. so, here's a (((((((jwn))))))).. sylvia.

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  carpediem

  Not very often. I am not much of a hugger. I think I just got sick of being hugged by lots of two faced people down the KH who couldnt stand me really, but came up with that sickly smile and arms outstretched. Yuk
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  What's Your View on Tipping?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  typically, i give at least 20% on my total bill.

  if the service or the waitress is especially charming, maybe more.. i wonder, when you sit at a bar/restaurant and have a meal and drinks and then order a take out ( i do this for my mother quite often) are you supposed to tip on everything, including the takeout??.

  when i stay in a hotel, i typically leave 2 or 3 dollars per day for the maid.

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  carpediem

  It depends where I am as to how much I tip. Tipping isn't such a big thing in the UK, not like it is in the States or other countries. Service is mostly included in the vast majority of restaurants. However, if i have a good meal with good service I usually tip about 10 percent. I was really surprised when I went to America to find that tipping is an integral part of the the wage of many public service jobs. It seems everyone expected tipping - tourguides, bus drivers, waiters, bar staff. I spent a fortune on tipping (because I didnt want to seem like a mean Brit, and also think its important to do what is acceptable in whatever country you happen to be in). I would much rather pay more for my holiday for those in working in the service industry to get a better wage, than have to tip. but as they say 'when in Rome......'
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  Were You Proud To Be A Witness?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as a kid, i was.

  whenever i recieved "persecution", i knew i was doing something good for jehovah.. "worldly" people about my being a jw.. were you proud or ashamed as a witness?.

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  I was proud to be a witness and to be known as one. Now I cringe with shame if anyone says Im a witness, and I just say 'actually I WAS, Im not now'.
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  Psychology of Losing Faith

  by daniel-p in

  1. jw
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  i found this a very interesting article, concerning the psychological stresses involved in losing ones' faith (the title doesn't really do it justice):.

  an atheist in the pulpitpublic identity and private belief are never more at odds than when a preacher loses his faith.

  by bruce grierson, published on january 01, 2008 - last reviewed on april 11, 2008james mcallister, a 56-year-old lutheran minister in the midwest, was working on his sunday sermon one thursday afternoon last summer.

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  Thanks so much for posting that. I dont really read long articles as a rule because I dont have a lot of spare time, but that had me captivated. It described many of the feelings I have had since leaving the org. A very honest and refreshing read.
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  Hello World...Mr. Monday Night here!!!

  by Mr. Monday Night in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello world...mr. monday night here!!!.

  i'm a newbie and i've been reading posts here for quite some time and i decided to join this network full of lovely people who understand where i come from.

  i was never baptized as a jw nor do i see myself being baptized.

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  carpediem

  Hello Mr Monday Night and welcome. Nice to have you on board.
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  Is it sexual harassment...

  by keyser soze in

  1. jw
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  ...if you check out a female co-worker from behind?

  according to a harassment class i attended for work it is.

  and if i see a co-worker doing this i'm obligated to report him to an hr representative.

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  carpediem

  As a female I don't think its harrassment. If I was looking at someone thinking 'nice' and they looked at me I would probably look away quickly. I think it would be harrassment if you started to make lewd remarks or suggestive face/body language.