Funny thing happened yesterday. One of the guys at my job came in with some paperwork for me and he tried to give me a bible tract, not JW. I told him no religon on work time. I also said I was an ex JW and I did not discuss religon anymore. He got very excited at this. Turns out his brother has been a JW for the last 20 some years and he has been trying to get him out for all this time. So I shared this website and Ray Franz's book information with him. I think I just became his new best friend. So yeah, I did discuss religon at work.
mamamo
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Do you ever "out" yourself?
by exjehovah inin the 22 years since i have left the jw religion, i have come across some precarious situations that i wanted to share and hear how other people handle it.
for the record i forced the hand of the jw and they df'd me.
i didn't care and i still don't, except for the family thing.
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Do you ever "out" yourself?
by exjehovah inin the 22 years since i have left the jw religion, i have come across some precarious situations that i wanted to share and hear how other people handle it.
for the record i forced the hand of the jw and they df'd me.
i didn't care and i still don't, except for the family thing.
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mamamo
I have worked with one and made sure I didn't let him know. I didn't want the hassle of him not supposed to talk with me. There are about 2000 employees where I work and they send out death notices when we have a close family member die. My father died a year ago and I didn't disclose that his memorial service was going to be at the KH so anyone who is a JW would know either I am or was. However, I did find another ex JW in the same office that I work out of. Actually, he worked with my father way back in the 80's and didn't know that he was JW, too. But then my father was DF at that time for smoking. And I moved an hour away from where I grew up!
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How did you leave?
by stuckinamovement inonce you realized the organization is simply a religious corporation, how did you leave?.
did you fade?.
were you forced out?.
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mamamo
I moved away from my parents house when I was 22, actually moved about an hour and half away. For the first time I had some freedoms, went to R rated movies, read the books I wanted to. When I moved back to my hometown I started to try to fade but my mother would have none of that. So I DAd myself. I had been working at the same fast food restaurant for 5 years and had formed some close friendships. They saw me through. With in two years I was married and a mother. Eight more years, divorced, but happy. Not going back, not happening.
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I found my cousins
by noni1974 ini found 3 of my cousins who are not jw's on facebook and i have friend requested them and two of them have accepted so far.
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mamamo
Congrats! I found mine about a year ago after my father died. I am at least 7 years older than they are. I left when I was 25 and between my 2 cousins and 2 step cousins, they were all DFd within a week when they were 19-16. Facebook is great but I wish it hadn't taken this long.
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Did you DF yourself on purpose?
by Evidently Apostate inlately i have been thinking about saying something apostate to my elder father in law.
he is an uber witness and actually believed that god interveined and saved him when he had a heart attack and kept him alive, until he told me that and i asked him why jehovah allowed jws in nazi concentration camps to suffer horribly and die but he loved an alcoholic more than them.. i havent been to a kh in 6 months or in service in years.
i grew a beard and basicallyhe avoids talking to me.
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mamamo
I DA'd back in 1990. I don't regret it for a moment. I told them to take a hike, they didn't tell me. You will get the same guilt trip from the family, I do if I communicate with them. I do feel bad because my mother is 70 but she always starts crying and saying how hard it is on her since I left, do I think I will ever come back, etc. So since that mentally diseased article in July, I said screw it, I have tried. She has my number and my son's, who wasn't ever a JW, if she needs something.
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What was the first thing you did...
by OneDayillBeFree inwhen you left the man-made organization currently known as the wtbts??.
and for those still "in" but mentally "out" what have you started doing thats against the silly, stupid and non-scriptural watchtower policy/law/rule??.
i know the question has been made before on another thread but i couldn't find it and also there's been quite some growth in new ones here to jwn, so just wanted to see if we could all share some lovely/funny/random experiences.
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Had sex for the first time
Got my first Christmas tree and had a blast decorating it and the house
Told someone Bless you when they sneezed
Got some "up to there" "down to there" clothes (Due to the stress, I lost a lot of weight and looked damn good in the skimpy outfits)
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Awake!: Sometimes You Just Have To Pick Your Jaw Up Off The Floor
by metatron inah, deception must be so-o-o-o-o-o- easy when you can deal with people who have no critical thinking skills.. an amazing example?
the past november awake magazine !
the cover asks, "is belief in a creator reasonable?".
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mamamo
Thanks Drop, that was going to be my comment. Of the 5 JW baptized in my graduation class, including myself, only ONE is still in, 29 years later. To me that is a lot more than 10 percent. Of course, I can name a lot more than just us 4 that has left to add up to a greater percentage. They must be doing some creative math and the sheep are too dumb to figure it out.
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Changing plans...
by OneDayillBeFree infading,.
ive been going over it so many times in my mind.
it seemed like a great idea before but things have changed, i have changed.. the more i learn and the more awake i become, the more i feel like fading is becoming less and less of an option.. the only reason i wanted to fade was to keep communication with my family, mainly my parents, but i've come to realize that they would shun me either way.
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mamamo
I disagree, Black Sheep. I wanted them to know I rejected them, they did not tell me I was no longer one of them, I told them I didn't want to have anything to do with what they believe and was going to live my own life. If I had just left sooner or later I would have been DF, their decision, not mine. I walked away with my power.
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Changing plans...
by OneDayillBeFree infading,.
ive been going over it so many times in my mind.
it seemed like a great idea before but things have changed, i have changed.. the more i learn and the more awake i become, the more i feel like fading is becoming less and less of an option.. the only reason i wanted to fade was to keep communication with my family, mainly my parents, but i've come to realize that they would shun me either way.
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mamamo
I had already moved out on my own which was unusual for a female JW, especially back in the 80s. Slowly I started doing things like going to R rated movies, but not close to where I lived. Then when I was 25, I just decided that wasn't the way I wanted to live my life and after I had had one elders visit about being inactive, I said screw it and DAd myself. My mother still hasn't gotten over it and would give me a hard time until I finally said screw that too and I haven't called her since July. Basically, I told my mom I had done my research and I wouldn't be back because I now knew too much. Yep, I came out as an apostate.
Good Luck to you! I hope everything works out for the best and you don't find yourself on the street. My oldest son did ask me yesterday what would happen to a JW youth that didn't want to attend meeting and all that stuff. I told him it would depend on the parents, but I knew that my parents would have kicked me out, if I hadn't been living on my own already.
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Our latest "Gee it's great not to be a JW" moment. Share yours!
by Open mind inrecently my son had a minor injury that required a trip to the emergency room.
the admitting nurse asked us a ton of questions and then this:.
nurse: do you have a religion?.
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mamamo
Openly buying whatever book I want to at the book store. Seeing any movie at the theater, etc.
Finally Awake
Enjoy the books and the Wizarding World. It provided me the goal to lose weight before they made it so more people can fit on the ride. Really funny in 90 degree weather to see the buildings with "snow" and all the tourists running around in wizard robes.