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  Im disfellowshipped

  by newcomer1982 in

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  think it was announced yesterday that im disfellowshipped.

  will these feelings of guilt and panic ever go away?

  my head is so messed up.

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  May 15th WT - Wives Should be Obedient, Submissive & Not Disagree

  by flipper in

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  once again we received the may 15th " witness only " wt from our lurking jw friend.

  even though i've been out for over 7 years and haven't attended in that long - i never cease to be amazed at the arrogance of this patriarchal man pleasing wt society in it's dismissive attitude towards women .

  it's horrible.

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  I HATE these people

  I still take out my anger towards this "headship" arrangement that I was taught from birth onwards, on my poor husband who has always treated me equally. Unfortunately being brought up by a controlling father means that I am super careful not to ever be "submissive" to the point of being aggressive don't really know how to fix that yet...
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  Need help combatting disfellowshipping policy scripturally

  by stuckinlimbo in

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  hi i need some help to show that the scriptures used to uphold the disfellowshipping policy are actually only meant to apply to those that deny the christ blah blah.

  not for me but someone close to me.

  parents have disowned her.

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  Thanks for all you answers. I really appreciate them. I think talking/writing to her parents would be like banging my head against a brick wall, from what she's told me, but I would be interested in that essay if you would like to send it to me Frank75.
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  The classic features of a JW wedding are:

  by highdose in

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  firstly a wedding/sales talk that mostly features heavily on how the woman should behave (hint, doormat) and lightly brushes over the fact of the husbands bevhaviour ( oh yeah he should treat her well).

  the reception normaly at some crummy comunity hall with yellowed ceilings and chucks of damp plaster falling off the walls.

  the seats normaly arranged facing eachother all around the edge, so that theres a huge unused space in the middle and everyone is climbing over everyone elses legs to get to their chair.. a big spread donated by everyone, normaly an ode to food poisoning.

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  I actually re-wrote the outline, the celebrant gave it to me, he accepted my re-written outline but would not change the actual vows. It was actually pretty respectful to me as the wife when I'd finished with it! There is NO WAY you could do that now. But at the time I thought I did quite well. We were married at a park as I didn't want the ugly hall in my wedding photos and it was too small to fit all the guests anyway. Some thought this odd but most really enjoyed the spring day at the park and I had a "worldly" bridesmaid too
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  Your wedding day belongs to the elders

  by fade_away in

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  getting married means you get your own special day.

  a day where the couple getting married gets to call the shots and decide who is gonna be invited, who is gonna be the maid of honor, who is gonna be the best man, how you want everything to look and what music you want to play.....unless of course you're a j-dub.. i got married last year, and no matter how hard i tried, i couldn't decide anything on that day.

  i have an amazing friend who has always been there for me and my family.

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  I had my wedding in a park, officiated by a JW celebrant back before they wern't allowed to do so. The main reason is that our hall was ugly and too small and I wanted nice photos (those flouro lights always make for terrible wedding shots). I even got to rewrite the talk outline somewhat as I found it offensive (somewhat feminist I am). Wow did I get away with a lot. You'd never be able to bend them that far now

  Apparently quite a few people had a problem with my park wedding (I think they were just jealous, although I think some suspected we'd done something wrong) but this didn't seem to affect about 180 guests coming and most people seemed genuinely glad for the lovely outdoor spring wedding and told me so.

  Anyway I had a wordly bridesmaid, but she was allowed as it wasn't in the hall, but I think she would have been allowed anyway at the time as she was a Christian and well behaved!
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  Need help combatting disfellowshipping policy scripturally

  by stuckinlimbo in

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  2. friends

  hi i need some help to show that the scriptures used to uphold the disfellowshipping policy are actually only meant to apply to those that deny the christ blah blah.

  not for me but someone close to me.

  parents have disowned her.

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  Thanks NeonMadman that's exactly the type of info I was after!
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  Need help combatting disfellowshipping policy scripturally

  by stuckinlimbo in

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  hi i need some help to show that the scriptures used to uphold the disfellowshipping policy are actually only meant to apply to those that deny the christ blah blah.

  not for me but someone close to me.

  parents have disowned her.

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  Thankyou for your responses. I appreciate them. I will look up the 2009 July Awake. Thanks NVR2L8. It was very humble of you to leave and apologise to your child after 10 years of following the cult rules. You give me hope that maybe one day the same will happen with these parents.
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  Warning about possible artificial end of times

  by Joey Jo-Jo in

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  posted by benjaminmarch 28, 2011post text with the read more linkthe people of the world need to urgently take action against the cabal responsible for the nuclear and tsunami attack against japan because it is a sign they are desperate, dangerous and are speeding up their planned artificial end-times.

  the next attack is almost certain to take place on us soil and is expected to be far worse than what happened to japan, according to multiple cabal-linked sources.

  the cabal is also planning to announce a new global currency in the coming weeks but it will fail because it is merely a desperate bid by them to remain in control of global finance, according to sources in the british royal family and at the bis.. .

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  Watchtower Bethel Application from 2004

  by Marvin Shilmer in

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  watchtower bethel application from 2004. questions asked tell their own story.

  today i posted onto my blog the watchtower bethel application from 2004, available at: http://marvinshilmer.blogspot.com/2011/03/watchtower-bethel-application-from-2004.html .

  marvin shilmer.

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  and the amount of space to explain why you are divorced!!
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  Are You Going To the Memorial?

  by headisspinning in

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  i can't see myself not attending.

  i would feel horrible not to go.

  i don't know where i'm going to land and if i had to look back and think i didn't go... well, i would feel awful..

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  No. I weighed up whether or not to go the first time after I stopped attending meetings as I thought maybe I should just go to give my parents some peace of mind, but I realised after I went that by going I would be showing that I believed, and that I thought I should go, and this would make me accountable to them and the organisation. I haven't been now for five years. I would worry about conversing with people there and being asked questions for which any or no answer would get me into trouble somehow. I think everyone knows that i'm not just "weak", so I'm better off staying away and off their radar screens.