Posts by Lostwun

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To Fade or Disassociate

by Jules Saturn in

hello to all, so i did want to talk about this topic because i think it is very important to me.

i have a grandfather who faded several decades ago.

he occasionally attends an assembly and the memorial but no longer attends meetings or goes on field service.

Lostwun

I'm faded now for 2 years. Quiet about my non beliefs yet lost many "Friends" after the spiteful ex i divorced spread rumors around that i was an apostate.

there are many witnesses that still speak to me and my immediate family have come around to accepting my faded status. Elders no longer harrass me. I live my life free.

there will be repercussions no matter what choice you decide. Expect to lose people regardless. Do what suits you according to your needs. As for me i still feeling fading was the best route. Those that still choose to talk to me can see that my life hasnt become a shattered mess and that i'm happy and thriving far removed from the borg!!

i hope the same will be true for you as well

lost-wun

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Shunning via Rumor

by NeonMadman in

jw
friends

well, i went back to the area of my old congregation yesterday.

my daughter's best friend amanda was getting married, and despite my trepidation, amanda had begged me to show up and to dance a dance with her.

my trepidation was twofold; first, my ex-wife was going to be there, and after our messy divorce only six months ago, i had no desire to be anywhere where she was.

Lostwun

I know this is an old topic but i just wanted to say thank you because you have validated everything i am currently going through right now. My ex husband the adulterer is running the exact same tatics that your ex-wife did to you and it amazes me the amount of people who you thought were friends completely drop you without verifying the facts.Its both disheartening and appalling. I enjoyed reading your happy ending, hope i get mines too :)

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Wife is Awake

by freemindfade in

following the news of stuckinarut2, over the past few months my wife has completely mentally woken up.

i've been meaning to post but haven't had the time.

i saw stuckins post and i figured i'd add my news too.

Lostwun

I'm so happy for you FMF. Great news! :)

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How to reply when someone asks about your spiritual health

by RodrigoGuerreiro in

first of all, sorry if i cannot correctly express the original expression used in my native language to ask for the "spiritual condition".. a few years ago some member of the family asks my wife directly how is her "spiritual health" (for me it's one of the many strange vocabulary used by jw like "the slave says...").

she was catched by surprise with the direct question and says that everything is ok... and luckily someone call them for lunch.. my question is: do you have any good answers for that question?

you can be ironic/use some humor because the question is a little bit anecdotical .

Lostwun

Onager I couldn't stop laughing at your post. 😂😂😂 too funny

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Just curious - is apostasy grounds for divorce?

by LifesNotOver in

i know only adultery is supposed to be grounds for "scriptural" divorce.

i'm a wicked apostate in their eyes, but my believing husband and i still can't get a divorce that would allow him to remarry.

we currently are separated - i have left him.

Lostwun

Same ordeal i was put through, except my husband did cheat and only got publicly reproved and not disfellowshipped. I got my "scriptural grounds" but its still a Crooked system.

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

Lostwun

Damn, I remember reading this when i was still together with my husband thinking what a f*cked up type of situation this was for her to go through. I felt so sorry reading her story. Now I'm living her story, her nightmare minus the excessive emails being sent in rage. I am guilty of sending at least one email to his parents and elders with alot of evidence i was hoping would get his ass disfellowshipped, but at the end of the day it did nothing but only satisfied my wanting revenge to hurt him the way he hurt me yet I still hurt and the verdict of public reproof still stands.

Seeing my soon to be ex husband get off the hook so easily for all the damage he caused hurts like hell but i appreciate reading all the timely advice given to the original poster because it's helping me to try to put things into perspective and learn to let the anger go for my own wellbeing and move on and be thankful for this blessing in disguise. Still the pain of betrayal is a strong thing to let go of so easily.

Depressed, I pray that you are in a better state now then when you written this post 9 years ago.

Take care.

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RC Was Worse Than I thought...

by JW_Rogue in

i was visiting with my family and it seems the rc was worse than i thought.

now they all seem to think that "we are so close to the end" and that the "brothers are really preparing us for the gt".

some even saying that soon our message will change to a judgement message for mankind and talking about how we need to improve "everything we do".

Lostwun

GB= Decepticons!

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Any here who didn't rebel as a teenager and were a goody two shoes instead?

by purrpurr in

jw
friends

when i was a teenager in the borg i was a dyed in the wool, goody two shoes, squeaky clean,"spiritual " sister.

alot of my peers around me were rebelling and going off the rails but not me.

i was constantly praised for this and even felt a little smug about it ha!.

Lostwun

I was very much the goody goody elders daughter growing up almost so much that i resented the title. I felt like i never fitted in with my jw friends because of it.

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Just wondering who on this board has a spouse that is fully in and your awake?

by goingthruthemotions in

i am just curious who on this board is in the same situation has i am?

a spouse that is fully brain doogled in and you are awake to ttatt.. without going into serious detail and no names are given.

i would like to possible talk with one of you all, it's just so helpful to communicate with someone in the same situation as me.. i am located in the southwest united states..

Lostwun

Gttm I understand your situation well. Pm me if you ever need to talk privately.

My hubby is semi-awake but still not fully out as family pressure tends to keep him somewhat on a leash to their demands. He's been skipping out on meetings but once his parents come back soon from their missionary work, im afraid he is going to cave and start attending again because of pressure from his dad. Maybe he'll surprise me but I doubt it. We'll see....

just want you to know that I can fully relate to your ongoing struggle. Hang in there man.

Lost-wun

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Got a call, my dad is in hospice...

by dubstepped in

our last conversation was him yelling at me because i "loved the gays".

translation, i pointed out that nobody chooses their sexuality.

i've been shunned since daing last september, and really for a year or so after visiting my df'ed brother.

Lostwun

I hurt for you dub. I'm sorry to hear about your fathers passing. I don't fully know your family dynamics but allow yourself to grieve in your own way. I'm sorry that once again your remaining family have pushed you away. I do hope you can heal from this and move forward which you seem to be doing already.

In the words of one of my favorite artist Lauryn Hill : "Forgive them Father for They Know not What They Do."

Forgive them for their ways because unfortunately they are captives of WT ideology.

Sending Big hugs your way MAN! Enjoy your trip this weekend enjoy the nature and clear your head.

Lost-wun