Posts by Lostwun

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update on my divorce situation

by depressed in

i'm shocked!

if you remember my experience, in a nutshell, basically my ex-bethelite ex pioneer husband cheated on me with an older "worldly woman" from his job and left me suddenly.

i had no idea that we had trouble with our marriage, however, when i discovered the love letters from the other woman, he moved out, and a week after that, i received divorce papers.

Lostwun

Damn, I remember reading this when i was still together with my husband thinking what a f*cked up type of situation this was for her to go through. I felt so sorry reading her story. Now I'm living her story, her nightmare minus the excessive emails being sent in rage. I am guilty of sending at least one email to his parents and elders with alot of evidence i was hoping would get his ass disfellowshipped, but at the end of the day it did nothing but only satisfied my wanting revenge to hurt him the way he hurt me yet I still hurt and the verdict of public reproof still stands.

Seeing my soon to be ex husband get off the hook so easily for all the damage he caused hurts like hell but i appreciate reading all the timely advice given to the original poster because it's helping me to try to put things into perspective and learn to let the anger go for my own wellbeing and move on and be thankful for this blessing in disguise. Still the pain of betrayal is a strong thing to let go of so easily.

Depressed, I pray that you are in a better state now then when you written this post 9 years ago.

Take care.

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RC Was Worse Than I thought...

by JW_Rogue in

i was visiting with my family and it seems the rc was worse than i thought.

now they all seem to think that "we are so close to the end" and that the "brothers are really preparing us for the gt".

some even saying that soon our message will change to a judgement message for mankind and talking about how we need to improve "everything we do".

Lostwun

GB= Decepticons!

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Any here who didn't rebel as a teenager and were a goody two shoes instead?

by purrpurr in

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friends

when i was a teenager in the borg i was a dyed in the wool, goody two shoes, squeaky clean,"spiritual " sister.

alot of my peers around me were rebelling and going off the rails but not me.

i was constantly praised for this and even felt a little smug about it ha!.

Lostwun

I was very much the goody goody elders daughter growing up almost so much that i resented the title. I felt like i never fitted in with my jw friends because of it.

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Just wondering who on this board has a spouse that is fully in and your awake?

by goingthruthemotions in

i am just curious who on this board is in the same situation has i am?

a spouse that is fully brain doogled in and you are awake to ttatt.. without going into serious detail and no names are given.

i would like to possible talk with one of you all, it's just so helpful to communicate with someone in the same situation as me.. i am located in the southwest united states..

Lostwun

Gttm I understand your situation well. Pm me if you ever need to talk privately.

My hubby is semi-awake but still not fully out as family pressure tends to keep him somewhat on a leash to their demands. He's been skipping out on meetings but once his parents come back soon from their missionary work, im afraid he is going to cave and start attending again because of pressure from his dad. Maybe he'll surprise me but I doubt it. We'll see....

just want you to know that I can fully relate to your ongoing struggle. Hang in there man.

Lost-wun

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Got a call, my dad is in hospice...

by dubstepped in

our last conversation was him yelling at me because i "loved the gays".

translation, i pointed out that nobody chooses their sexuality.

i've been shunned since daing last september, and really for a year or so after visiting my df'ed brother.

Lostwun

I hurt for you dub. I'm sorry to hear about your fathers passing. I don't fully know your family dynamics but allow yourself to grieve in your own way. I'm sorry that once again your remaining family have pushed you away. I do hope you can heal from this and move forward which you seem to be doing already.

In the words of one of my favorite artist Lauryn Hill : "Forgive them Father for They Know not What They Do."

Forgive them for their ways because unfortunately they are captives of WT ideology.

Sending Big hugs your way MAN! Enjoy your trip this weekend enjoy the nature and clear your head.

Lost-wun

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Circuit Overseer Coming For Lunch – Everything Has to be Perfect

by SAHS in

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friends

we have the circuit overseer’s visit this week, and my folks are having him and his wife over for lunch today.

of course, i’m making it a point of hightailing it out of there to have my lunch elsewhere.

when my mom asks me “why don’t you stay and meet him,” i just say, “well, he’s just a man like everybody else.” she says, “well, of course.

Lostwun

OUTLAW- There motto is "DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO!

Hypocrisy at its finest.

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Circuit Overseer Coming For Lunch – Everything Has to be Perfect

by SAHS in

jw
friends

we have the circuit overseer’s visit this week, and my folks are having him and his wife over for lunch today.

of course, i’m making it a point of hightailing it out of there to have my lunch elsewhere.

when my mom asks me “why don’t you stay and meet him,” i just say, “well, he’s just a man like everybody else.” she says, “well, of course.

Lostwun

Oh yea, I remember how everyone in my old congregation used to be grumpy as hell every meeting yet when it was CO visit time the same people would act all chipper and joyful out of the blue. I found it funny too how the same people and elders who would never speak to you any other time would suddenly come out of the woodworks and start speaking like normal and acting all happy while the CO was around.

Its amazing how i saw through the fakeness of the whole visit even before learning the ttatt.

ALL FOR SHOW!

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Kingdom Hall Attenders: Consider Stopping the Use of Loaded Language

by OnTheWayOut in

it's been a long time since i attended, but i understand that many of you still go to the kingdom hall for your various reasons.. a huge thing that helped me in my mentally breaking from their beliefs was to stop using their terms that put you, virtually automatically, into their thought mode.. using terms like "the truth," jw's feel special about themselves and this helps them separate themselves from "the world.

" by incorporating loaded language, jw's learn not to think, but merely to memorize words and phrases instead of analyzing a situation.. the reasons someone misses meetings is because they are "spiritually weak.

" they might be involved in "worldly thinking.".

Lostwun

Nice post otwo I concur.

Island man- you phrased that whole scenario so well I coukd could just picture it automatically in my head lol

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I have tried really hard to be worldly, for ten years, tried to get worldly friends, and get back with family.

by Sledracer in

i am so bad at being worldly, it's not like i gave it a good try, we are just not good at it my husband and i, i see him light up as he has started to read the bible again.

i'm good at being a witness, i am accepted, and hold the same beliefs, i have tried to find somewhere else, if there is a place, why hav'n't jehovah and the angels directed me to it?

thank you for all the loving posts, some of them have been just what i needed.

Lostwun

At the end of the day, Its you who determines your own happiness. Its not our place to judge or criticize you for your decision despite not understanding why you would ever go back to that.

Hopefully from what you have learned from being on both sides will help you not to become a judgmental witness again judging those who no longer share your same enthusiasm for the religion.

Best wishes

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My sister who is still in is going to Costa Rica as a missionary

by time2keepmoving in

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friends

i left the organization in 2011 and never look back.

i left behind my sister and her two daughters by mid 2015 both her daughters (both are in their early twenties) were disfellowshipped and left the organization.

she has decided to go to costa rica as a missionary (i guess that's what they are still calling them, unless that has changed, been gone so long i don't know if they came up with a new term for it).

Lostwun

It's called "serving where the need is more fun"

Pete said it best. As a former need greater myself this pretty much sums up what its really all about when serving in a foreign Caribbean land.