GentlyFeral wrote:
"and raise the kids. "
Yes, that came later, two years into the marriage, when our daughter was born.
What I am talking about is the "I want to quit my job and stay home" speech I got - prior to our getting married. Which I let her do - trying to be a nice guy and all... even tho it put a strain on our already marginal income - from the very start.
As for the 'thin checkbook'...
After 20 years of marriage, I was finally making a fairly decent income - in spite of the ex's JW life-style - and we managed to pay off the house in 16 years (on a 30-yr note). This should have freed up a large chunk of change that _should_ have gone into savings... but it didn't.
Of course... she wanted to take all sorts of 'trips'... like to the Brooklyn Bethel/factory tour - which lasted a week. I was solo during that glorious time... whilst she was on a bus touring the countryside.
Naw... I _definitely_ got the better end of the deal in the divorce settlement. My freedom - from her... and that cult.
Regards,
Jim TX