Fade away hell makes me want to offload the details of my ludicrous life, I hope soon that I will no longer need to talk about it all so much!
Things will be so much easier once I have moved out of jwville!!
Oh I've been there. I was fading away while still living at home with my parents. It was rough, and this was a great place for me to vent my frustrations, concerns, and fears.
Once I finally moved away I was able to make my fade complete and really let go of the fears of being "found-out" etc.
It will get better.
As far as you making "too much" out of relationships - don't worry about it. Honestly I know a lot of non-witnesses who do the same thing. It's hard to get excited about someone when we first meet them and want to be close/exlusive with them -- after all they're so new, and exciting. You really seem like you have your head on your shoulders about this whole thing. It will get easier the more you get out there and just date. Meet people, make friends, explore possiblities - but always be true to who you are and what you really want and you'll be just fine.
Eventually, at least for me it was like this, the JW thing becomes and less and less of an issue. My boyfriend knows my past, we've talked about it a lot...he's even met my parents now. Sometimes some things about my past belief structure still come up. It's always a revelation to him how messed up things were for a while, but it's definately not something you need to lay out like a biography or psychological analysis of your past - when you meet the right guy he may even help you sort things out you forgot you were even still holding on to.
Best of luck - if you ever need dating adventure stories -- oh I have lots! LOL