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  Couple of questions for the Christians here - CO's talk mentioned some things that I want to understand

  by Doubting Bro in

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  this is a question for all the christians on the board.

  i sat through the first co talk last night which was basically a plea to not give up preaching.

  one of his main points was that no one else had "the truth" and every other person that claims to be christian is in error.

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  So true JeffT. I actually thought I had studied other religions thoroughly, thru the WTS publications that is, completely misrepresented!
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  My Grandma's dying...I found out by way of an impersonal text message.

  by petitebrunette in

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  yesterday at work i received a text message from my sister that my 91 yr old grandmother is unconscious, her organs are shutting down, and they're just keeping her comfortable.

  she said that they moved her to a group home, and gave me the address.

  i thanked her for letting me know.

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  Thank you all SO much for your comments, it helps a lot! Yes I'm DF'd, but not HEAVILY tattooed...lol...none actually. I can appreciate the revenge thing, I think about that everytime I go into a store, thinking I may see a witness. I try to look my best, and very happy, which I am! I'm sure they think I'm miserable and lonely. It's amazing how much I am at peace despite not speaking to my family for the last year.

  My Grandma did shun me also, so I don't feel right showing up at either the group home, or the memorial they'll have for her. I like your suggestion Pam of having my own memorial and way of remembering her. And Willyloman, I will donate to a charity in my Grandma's honor and let the family know. That way they won't think that I'm just being disrespectful.

  My boyfriend has been really affected by all of this as well. I know he's completely frustrated with the shunning, and I'm afraid that he'll express that to the family. They, being the ones in the right, will try to convince him, and it will be a mess.

  You've given me different ways to look at it, thank you!
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  My Grandma's dying...I found out by way of an impersonal text message.

  by petitebrunette in

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  yesterday at work i received a text message from my sister that my 91 yr old grandmother is unconscious, her organs are shutting down, and they're just keeping her comfortable.

  she said that they moved her to a group home, and gave me the address.

  i thanked her for letting me know.

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  Yesterday at work I received a text message from my sister that my 91 yr old Grandmother is unconscious, her organs are shutting down, and they're just keeping her comfortable. She said that they moved her to a group home, and gave me the address. That's all. I thanked her for letting me know. I thought maybe I'd get a phone call from my Mom, no such luck. Why would I go there when the wouldn't speak to me if I passed them on the street? Plus everyone would be uncomfortable, including me. If I don't, they'll read into it, and I'll be judged for that! When she does pass, I have no intention of going to her Memorial talk. Is there any reason I should go? I don't see that it would serve any purpose.
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  Couple of questions for the Christians here - CO's talk mentioned some things that I want to understand

  by Doubting Bro in

  1. jw
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  this is a question for all the christians on the board.

  i sat through the first co talk last night which was basically a plea to not give up preaching.

  one of his main points was that no one else had "the truth" and every other person that claims to be christian is in error.

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  In all the years I was a witness, I never heard that reasoning about Adam wanting to sin to go to heaven. Kooky!

  I attended my first Easter Sunday last year at a community church. The whole thing was about Jesus sacrificial death, and what it was for Jesus and his Father to go thru. I expected it to be completely about his resurrection, but they never talked about it. I'm curious to see what the service will be like this Sunday.
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  You just gotta read the story, Fade From the Truth, A Tale of Learning Then Unlearning the Beliefs of JWs

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  every once in a while there's a story so well told that it deserves lots and lots of kudos and plugs.

  here's that 124-book length story which is the first one linked from "exclusive autobiographies" on the home page of www.watchtowerdocuments.com.

  read it free!.

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  Thank you for this article. I started reading this a few months ago when it was sent to me. I read it off and on. The last year has been a difficult one, after my disfellowshipping last April. I've just been trying to heal and process what happened. Last night I received a phone call from my older sister telling me when the memorial was. It followed with a long conversation that left me feeling worse than not speaking to her at all. All the things I said, she followed up with the pat answers I would have given a few years ago. I will never change her thinking, and I don't appreciate being tagged as a worshipper of Satan now. My Father has been inactive for my entire life (45 yrs). He started going back to meetings a few years ago, but has expressed certain doubts to me. My sister told me that he said he doesn't want to be in "paradise" if I'm not there. I'm breaking her heart, and other guilt inducing comments. I know she means well, without a doubt. I'm just so frustrated. I really appreciated finishing this article. I know my story is like everyone elses, which I draw a lot of comfort in not being alone. I thanked her for calling, no one else had the thought to call, email me or anything. None of my family would even call me to say goodbye when they knew I'd be disfellowshipped.

  My sister and I'm sure all my family and former friends have come up with their own reasons why I would allow myself to be disfellowshipped and not come back. It's probably a coping mechanism for them, but frustrating to me. Alan had to deal with the rumors going around about him, and we all do too I guess. It's easier to just not think about it, until it hits you full force in the face like last night. I wouldn't tell her, but I will not now nor ever go to another memorial for the rest of my life.
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  Cheating in the Congregation

  by EXMS in

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  how often does anyone see cheating happening throughout the congregation?.

  reason that i ask this is because it happened to me.

  in this three years things seemed to go great.

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  EXMS: Sorry for your experience. I don't understand how you could be reproved for a relationship you didn't know about. How could they do that, and why? Obviously no one else in the congregation knew about her other relationship, so why the reproving? That's just crazy!
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  Stayed up all night, see it is a cult now.

  by gutted in

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  i really needed to find a place to write this as i don't believe i can talk with anyone else about my account, perhaps it is similar to a lot of yours.. last night for whatever reason i said i would go online and look up information on jws.

  i have been raised as a jw all my life and baptized the last few years.

  i looked at www.freeminds.org and www.sixscreensofthewatchtower.com and couldn't believe how easily the whole of my lifes teachings were refuted.. i can't stop my brain from running, bs just in regards to theology alone (1914, paradise earth, celebrations etc.

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  I just want to thank everyone for their posts, they're helping me immensely! One question I have...when you first started to find out about the truth of the organisation, did you still have doubts? Did you feel like you were seeing things clearly then revert to believing it still was the truth? I read Crisis of Conscience and am reading In Search of Christian Freedom. I will order the Stephen Hassan books. I'm confused sometimes and don't know what to believe.

  To exjw2418: I really appreciate your thoughts. I've been attending a non-denominational church, and totally enjoy it. I never wanted to attend meeting at the KH, but want to go here. Its so refreshing. I'm still trying to read my Bible and see what it really says and stop judging all other religions. Its going to be quite a journey. I appreciate all your comments.

  I'm also a born-in, ex-pioneer, family in Bethel all their adult life, etc...Also all my family is in, I'm the only one out of the org.
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  Question

  by is there help out there in

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  is there any food jw are not allowed to eat besides muff burgers..

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  And though it may not be a food item, be very careful about licking envelopes closed! There may be blood in it! Once that was hinted at, my Grandmother won't go near an envelope unless she had her little sponge.
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  What's your Favorite TV show of all time?

  by serenitynow! in

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  if you can't tell from my username, i am a seinfeld fan.

  seinfeld is the best show ever!

  law and order is second.. jada.

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  I'm loving the new Modern Family...very funny!
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  1st Post-DF'd Encounter with JW in Ministry

  by sd-7 in

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  i was waiting for the bus this morning (which didn't come until i decided to drive, then it showed up, naturally, after i already got on the road) when a jw approached the two people next to me, offering a tract.

  she showed them psalm 83:18 first--same old, same old.

  but hey, at least i admire her courage in sharing the scriptures with people, even if that particular scripture is, apparently, more important than any message from the christ that could possibly be shared with people.

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  I feel for you Sd-7...I'm recently df'd myself. I just finished reading C of Conscience today with a mixture of emotions, anger, hurt, frustration...I'll never be able to tell my family the real "truth". It was a very sad day for me, but I guess there will be some of those. I appreciate the freedom I have now though, that means a lot to me. I don't have the fear and guilt I lived with all the time.