Thank you for sharing your story. Yes when you start this journey finding your own truth it can be quite amazing and confusing all the same.
Take it easy with your wife and let her come at her own speed. I have faded since 2004 after realizing that I could not believe a God would be so happy to kill every man, woman, and child for not being a Jehovah Witness (as the assembly speaker so proudly annouced) that was the beginning of my search and finding the literature I had read confirmed it all (in one ear and out the other just have your butt in that kingdom hall seat to prove your spirituality). I have found that worldly people are very kind and realized how in my zealous years I was really quite arrogant in thinking I knew so much about the bible when in fact I knew very little other than the snippets feed through the Watchtower. Now I do like researching religions and spirituality, although I will never be a member of any organized religion I have a deeper spirituality and I am a more giving person than I was ever in my 20+ years as a witness. Also my marriage is so much better and stronger, my husband was the patient one after all.
I truly believe it is important to keep up on the changes as I use the information to bring out points and ask questions should I run into a JW, but of course my home is a do not call and they do leave me alone. Never did they seek to help me as a lost sheep other than a little at first and when I had my questions and JW literature it really did scare them away. The ones that I cared about came and we talked but they could not refute what I showed them and it really came down to they did not want to make waves in their own lives so they just faded away from me. You know they are really the ones with a foundation built on shifting sands.
It will get better just keep a positive attitude, keep in prayer and build on your own spirituality wherever that may lead you. Some friends and family will follow in due time, maybe not at first but you will see your move will move others as well, the ones important to you will be watching your example, try to stay away from anger (very hard to do at first when you really realize how we were lied to) but be firm and read the many books and sites that you will find here.
Peace and love