Posts by jurs

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Officially Disassociated Tonight

by Princess in

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steve and i attended our very last meeting this evening.

i wrote a thread a few weeks ago about our elder visit and their decision to announce that we were disassociated.

they agreed to wait until we returned from our vacation so i could tell my grandma who still attends via phone link and so she wouldn't have to be alone in her devastation.

jurs

Princess,

Clap, Clap, Clap, Whewwheeeewwwwwwww (whistle) and lots of loud cheers for ya!!!!!! I am so proud of you!!!! That took major guts. I think its awesome that you attended.

jurs

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Birthday List

by nicolaou in

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c'mon guys, we can celebrate our birthdays!!!.

post your birthdate here and let us know how you want to get your 'birthday card' (email, post on the board, text message, soaped-up kyliegram!).

my birthday is october 16th and i'd be happy to receive any of the above.. .

This is my story

by Dolphin57 in

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someone every special to me referred me to this site.

i dont really know where to start so i will just go for it.

my name is laura and i am 20. i am married with no children (yet) i want to share my story.

How do I tell my family I'm no longer a JW?

by YellowLab in

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this subject has bothered me for 5 years now.. eventually the day will come where i'll need to tell my folks i'm no longer a jw.

my oldest son (who is 3) is getting to the age where he talks about everything from birthday cakes to christmas trees.

we were able to get away with birthdays and holidays so far, but now is becoming increasingly difficult to stop him from talking about them when the family's around.. should i write a letter?

I suggest before you say or do anything you need to get your attitude and priorities straight. Your a grown man with responsibilities of being a husband as well as father. You need to cut those apron strings! If your EXTENDED family (parents, brothers , sisters, grandparents ect.) shun you, your going to be ok. You need to base your decision and actions NOT on them or the punishment they'll inflict upon you but instead whats best for your family. Your family is your wife and kids. Do you really want your kids and wife to see you act cowardly by hiding celebrations and lying about why your not at the kingdom hall. I honestly couldn't respect someone fully if I saw them do that. I'm a firm believer in integrity and honesty. I really don't think anyone can be happy when they base how they live their life by living a lie. In my opinion your life isn't very truthful right now.

Before you tell your folks, and I'd do it in person,( it seems more grown up and respectful) You need to remember that YOU are not ending a relationship with your parents, YOU are not shunning them. YOU love them. How they react is nothing for you to fear or feel guily about.

Good Luck

jurs

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I am new here - sharing my story

by YellowLab in

i am new here and this is my very first post.

i've been following the message threads over the past few months and decided it was time to register.

(i couldn't decide on a unique username or else i would have done it sooner!).

jurs

Welcome Yellow lab,

I enjoyed your post. Its nice to get to know a little about ya! I wanted to point out that even if you do get DF'd , you wont loose your whole family. You have your wife and kids!!! That attitude may help when things get rough. I think you'll also find this place a comfort if you do get DF'd for having that tree. There is life after DFing or DAing and the biggest benefit is that you have freedom to do what you want to do without fear of the repercusions because the worst has already happened, (shunning).

take care

jurs

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Whats the dumbest reason youve been counseled?

by avishai in

my friend was counseled for having a bad attitude because he wore white socks w/ his suit.

jurs

A brother, whose wife was a non believer and myself , my kids as well as the brothers kids use to car pool to the kingdom hall. We lived close by each other and the hall was quite a distance.. Apparently that was a no no. Neither of our spouses cared and we had a total of 5 kids in the car but we had to quit car pooling. It was silly!

jurs

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New Here

by Stefanie in

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im new here.

there is alot of stuff to read.

its gonna take forever to catch up.

jurs

Stefanie,

WELCOME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jurs

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Hard work does pay off in the end :)

by WildHorses in

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i was just sitting here going over my finances and, if murphy's law doesn't come into play.. when i first started this cleaning service, i thought i would never get it built up, and a few times thought i would end up losing my home.

my mom, has on a few occasions, asked me to move to mn to live with her, because she knew my situation.

however, i was determined that i was going to make it on my own.

jurs

Lilacs,

Congradulations!!!

jurs

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How do you glue together a broken home

by Methof15 in

i'm 17. i was disfellowshipped almost two years ago.

i am the youngest of four kids and am the only left at home.

i live with my dad who has sort of faded from the jw scene.

jurs

Hi Meth,

I just wanted to welcome you to the board. How awful to be DF'd at 15 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Its funny how when I was a witness I never looked at that as child abuse. I do now!

jurs

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HELP!! SHE IS TRYING TO GET TO MY SON!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Jesika in

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i just got off the phone with my x-hubby.

his mother is sueing us for visitation of our son!!!!!!!!!

let me explain why we don't let her see him......................................

jurs

Jes, I just wanted to clarify that I wouldn't fight "visitation" . I didn't mean "custody".

jurs