LaurenM

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  Finally "they" have reinstated me! that was easy!!!

  by Prometheus in

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  it was rather quick one.

  in just few months and after attending all of their meetings and giving them a nice show, i'm back to the org!!!

  (what a relief-sarcastic laugh) .

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  LaurenM

  Why?? For family?...Also, it makes me sad that they're promoting college now. I turned down a full scholarship because of them. And that was only three years ago! The stupid doctrine changes makes me sick!!
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  How do you deal with depression?

  by BlackWolf in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm currently going through a bout of depression and my eating disorder has gotten worse.

  ever since my parents actually told me that they are going to kick me out when i turn 18 i've felt kind of hopeless about my life.

  my parents won't take me to the doctor because the psychiatrists won't have my "best interests" aka jw crap in mind, because really that's the root of all my problems.. i'm wondering if any of you guys have any advice with dealing with depression?

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  LaurenM

  I struggle with depression too..but once you get out on your own, start making new friends & discovering yourself it gets a lot better :)
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  Being a Socially Inept ex-JW

  by LaurenM in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships.

  i had barely any friends at all growing up a jw kid & absolutely no interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

  i have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but i'm so clueless!

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  LaurenM

  Thanks everyone for your input! Informative and encouraging like always!! And yes, I was going through a rough patch, but am doing better. I think this transition is certainly a difficult journey, but not an impossible one, especially with forums like these :)
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  Being a Socially Inept ex-JW

  by LaurenM in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships.

  i had barely any friends at all growing up a jw kid & absolutely no interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

  i have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but i'm so clueless!

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  LaurenM

  So I'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships. I had barely any friends at all growing up a JW kid & absolutely NO interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

  I have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but I'm so clueless! Am I calling him too much or too little? Am I being too clingy or too distant? How do relationships work? How do relationships work? How do people stay together?

  I have this fear that this will end because that's what I've always been told: "worldly guys will use you and loose you" so I keep almost breaking up with him, just to speed it along..I might still do it.

  It makes me incredibly depressed, but I think I'm just better off alone. It is WAY too stressful trying to figure out how to interact normally with other people--"worldly" people--especially romantically, when you are a socially awkward child-like idiot...has anyone else suffered from being socially isolated as a JW?
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  The Way JW Females Act

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the more i interact with non-jw men and women the more i notice that i still behave like a jw woman.

  when i interact with people (men especially) i find myself being super submissive and docile.

  acting like i don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own.

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  LaurenM

  Thanks everyone for your imput!! Very insightful as always.
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  So Thankful

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i was just sitting here on this beautiful saturday afternoon thinking about how thankful i am that i left the jws.

  do i wish i had woke up and left sooner, sure.

  but i'm definitely happy that i'm out period, and for so many reasons but i just will share a few.

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  LaurenM

  I love this! Bravo. And you're lucky to have a husband too. It's scary getting out of a cult by yourself. But definitely worth it.
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  The Way JW Females Act

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the more i interact with non-jw men and women the more i notice that i still behave like a jw woman.

  when i interact with people (men especially) i find myself being super submissive and docile.

  acting like i don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own.

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  LaurenM

  The more I interact with non-JW men and women the more I notice that I still behave like a JW woman. When I interact with people (men especially) I find myself being super submissive and docile. Acting like I don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own. Giving so much up just to please them. Like, I do everything to please them without thinking about whether it makes ME happy. But that's the way we've always been taught over and over: Women must be submissive to the man taking the lead. But I feel like this is a bit backwards & excessive in this day and age. Do any other exJW woman find themselves acting this way? How did you learn to stand up for yourself and not always bend to what others tell you to do? I think I've become an easy target for people looking to take advantage of others.
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  Disturbing how Christians Feel about Non-Christians

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so i posted a question on yahoo answers asking about what christians feel god feels about non-christians.

  the overwhelming answer was that he feels they must convert to christianity or risk hell/death/distruction (john 3:16).

  i just don't understand how this could be!

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  LaurenM

  Yes, true. But it seems like ALL Chriatian denominations (well all that I've encountered) teach the exact same thing :(
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  Disturbing how Christians Feel about Non-Christians

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so i posted a question on yahoo answers asking about what christians feel god feels about non-christians.

  the overwhelming answer was that he feels they must convert to christianity or risk hell/death/distruction (john 3:16).

  i just don't understand how this could be!

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  LaurenM

  That's very true! And each person believes their own belief is true and everyone else's is false.
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  Disturbing how Christians Feel about Non-Christians

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so i posted a question on yahoo answers asking about what christians feel god feels about non-christians.

  the overwhelming answer was that he feels they must convert to christianity or risk hell/death/distruction (john 3:16).

  i just don't understand how this could be!

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  LaurenM

  So I posted a question on Yahoo answers asking about what Christians feel God feels about non-Christians. The overwhelming answer was that he feels they must convert to Christianity or risk hell/death/distruction (John 3:16). I just don't understand how this could be! If God is love, how could God destroy, for example, the 1.6 billion Muslims in this world who are devout, love their families, want to be happy and could not dream of leaving their faith. Why would God do that?

  But if you believe in the bible, you have to believe that he would, he'd also kill all homosexuals too by that matter

  I'd like to believe in a higher being, but how could an omniscient God be so prejudice and narrow minded to think that "righteous" and "unrighteous" can be judged based solely on the premise of whether the person thinks Jesus is their savior and lives accordingly. There are good and bad people of every path and faith. Logic 101!

  What do Christians/non-christians have to say about this?