Posts by bigmac

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Advice Needed

by HeyThere in

so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

he is a full believing dub.

bigmac

this is a perfect example of why the cult is against marrying out of the--"truth" ( lies )

a man in your husbands situation is of little value to the cult. he cant very well be given any "privileges" if he has---what used to be called---an "opposed " wife.

he still has to provide for you--by the cults rules. and give you your wifely "dues" so really--all he can do is attend meetings. till he goes inactive again. isnt that the result you want ?

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Advice Needed

by HeyThere in

so my situation is changing and i am trying to figure out the best way for me to handle this.

i am an unbaptized publisher married to a dub who was inactive when we met and when we married and during the course of our marriage, and just went back active a year and a half ago.

he is a full believing dub.

bigmac

why dont you just call it quits completely ?

whats the worst thing that could happen ?

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Liar, liar your pants are on fire...

by new hope and happiness in

i remember as kids we would say " liar, liar your pants are on fire" and they wern't were they.

so that in itself was a lie.. but is lying always so bad?

i mean for example at an art class as a kid when i had to commented someones work, rather than be nasty, at a picture which was terrible and traced as well !

International Convention...Same Message, Same Emotional Manipulation

by HeyThere in

well, of course nothing else would be expected, but it passes me off.. for example, they show this short video that shows a child dying, shows her father crying as he visits her grave...and then she is reunited with her family in "the new system" and then it shows a handicapped girl who is sad she can't ice skate with friends...fast forward to tns, she can skate!!!

then an elderly couple is shown happily young again.... .

and of course the end is "so close!

bigmac

We are staring the Great Tribulation IN THE EYE.

which one--?----the nether-eye ?

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The people i least get along with are EX- J.Ws

by new hope and happiness in

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friends

i am not talking about posters here on this board ( otherwise i wouldn't be here would i) but in general.. si i am talking those ex j.ws in my community and we just dont get on.

well ok its a bit of an exaggeration to say i don't get on with them, we just dont associate.

this botherd me at first as i thought we would have much in common, but it wasn't so, and it's just the way it is.

bigmac

ive been totally out of the cult for more than 30 years now. in that time--ive come across a surprising number of ex-dubs. i certainly never knew them when i was in it...and i have moved address a lot.

usually its something thats said in conversation that gives a clue. i think there must be many more e'x's who are ashamed or embarrassed about their past involvement--and dont want to reveal anything.

it should be born in mind why some adults are attracted to the cult in the first place---and when they leave or get kicked out---they are still the same person as before.

it also interests me how many were on this site back at the beginning. most have long moved on--and no longer post. this site seems to operate like a revolving door--look how many new posters over the last couple of years.

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How We Come Across On The Board

by minimus in

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friends

most people here have never met you.

we converse, discuss, argue, laugh, agree, question, share our lives..... quite often, you kind of get to know what a person is like.

some people, we tend to gravitate to and others, we shy away from.. how do you think you come across to other people?

bigmac

i'm nothing like this in real life.

i have no friends. drunks and druggies avoid me. i pull legs off spiders. i'm famous for my meanness. a total mysoginist. i'm arrogant and totally self-centered.

i would make an excellent elder----if only i could find a congregation that could afford me.

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Kate Wild

by quellycatface in

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friends

i've been given permission to post news of our friend.. kate hasn't been very well.

not well at all.

i think much of it has been a delayed reaction to her df'ing, the general fallout when leaving the wtbs and family issues.. i just wanted to give you guys the heads up and give you a chance to show how much we care about her.. thanks for listening..

bigmac

we-re all here for you Kate xx

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Thoughts of summer and ummmmm

by new hope and happiness in

maybe i still have the j.w mentality, but i am seriouse....why on hot summer days do the youngsters wear such gloomy colors?

it makes little sence,.. o.k maybe they are rebelling, and there hearts are in the right place, but why can't they rebel in cheerful bright orage tea-shirts, especially during the summer months.

but there you go ugggg beautiful girls in such dark and gloomy colors ...its summer girls make an old man feel glad.. .

bigmac

young women in skimpy clothes just make this old man feel--even older

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shepherding call

by DesirousOfChange in

you don't say why you are inactive.. if you can control your tongue and not blurt out anything you have learned about ttatt, then perhaps no harm in agreeing to a visit if you feel the need to be polite and cooperative.

no doubt, they will inquire as to why you are inactive.. don't you know it's the truth(tm)?.

don't you know the end(tm) is close?.

bigmac

sure---meet with them why not.

tell them youre going through a bit of a difficult time----financially.

ask them to lend you some money--to tide you over.

watch what happens.