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  Welcome back YKNOT!

  by VampireDCLXV in

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  i must be said that a whole bunch of us were wondering and worrying, thinking that evrything from bears to elders to cia agents got you, yknot.

  we're glad you're back; even me, the dark one, who was a bit nasty at times and stung you.

  welcome back!.

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  Libelle

  Welcome back yknot! I hope to see you around here soon!
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  The classic features of a JW wedding are:

  by highdose in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  firstly a wedding/sales talk that mostly features heavily on how the woman should behave (hint, doormat) and lightly brushes over the fact of the husbands bevhaviour ( oh yeah he should treat her well).

  the reception normaly at some crummy comunity hall with yellowed ceilings and chucks of damp plaster falling off the walls.

  the seats normaly arranged facing eachother all around the edge, so that theres a huge unused space in the middle and everyone is climbing over everyone elses legs to get to their chair.. a big spread donated by everyone, normaly an ode to food poisoning.

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  Libelle

  Right on. Yeah, all the JW weddings I've been to were about the same. Wow, is there no creativity? Dry reception - one was outside at a no frills park in freezing weather, and the couple did not make it clear that the reception would be outside. Way to go. Man, the Catholics party it up much better - there's always confession next Saturday if you partied it up too much. haha
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  JW ADVANTAGES vs DISADVANTAGES

  by DesirousOfChange in

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  2. friends

  this earlier topic [why do it feel bad about my children leaving jw religion?

  ] is what causes me to ask this question:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/208031/1/why-do-i-feel-bad-about-my-children-leaving-the-jw-religion.

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  Libelle

  Just because they play up morals in the literature, does not mean they act on them. In fact, in my own experience, I find those who are the loudest about the evils of the world often engage in them, fueling their fire to preach.

  Also, if they tell people, young kids, to ignore, suppress and even hate their true selves (I'm thinking esp when it comes to emerging sexuality), then no, there is no advantage. Just setting those individuals up for a difficult life at best.

  And yeah, you can find decent people in most other groups, not just JW. JW are among the most false-fronted people I know.
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  Checking in

  by Libelle in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just popped in to say: i left my husband.

  we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).

  i couldn't take it anymore.

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  Libelle

  Hahaha NomadSoul, you're a bit of a haul from me - you being in TX and all. But as far as I know Friday's free. haha

  Thanks V665 - I missed you too! Yeah you are so right, the former JW has to be completely done with the group. I didn't realize how consuming the cult was when he first mentioned it to me, and since he didn't practice it for our first 5 years together, it seemed ok. But yeah, it's rough. This transition will be a tough go, but once it's all settled, should be ok.

  MS, As for custody, I'm told that this state seems to be big on 50/50. I'm ok with that, well, if it had been his original STBX-self, but I don't know what's going to happen with his new cult-self. Especially now that I worry I've totally solidified him by leaving. (that was another worry of mine - if I leave will that just underscore his commitment - but so would staying huh?). But I do feel worry about him potentially turning a blind eye to godknowswhat in the org. sigh. I'm really uncertain about this at this point. Whether I can do it, and all. But every time I hear him say "do I have to take you to the bathroom?" my gut twists in knots as I just cannot imagine using threats like that. And we have some varmint kids, but man, aren't the adults supposed to be the bigger people?

  Thanks Blacksheep and wasblind.

  WifetoJW - oh girl, I feel that difficulty. It's such a hard haul. I'd try to "live and let live" but then he'd read something or expand upon something in the daily text, or some awful stuff would come up in their family study ("young people ask", anyone?) and I just can't be around that without speaking up. I understand your desire to leave. I've almost done it far too many times since the baptism. Do you have kids?

  So the long haul comes now. And I have to sort of the parenting stuff too.
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  Checking in

  by Libelle in

  1. jw
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  just popped in to say: i left my husband.

  we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).

  i couldn't take it anymore.

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  Libelle

  Gotta go for now, I'm at the library.. Just noticed sister stick-her-nose-in-other's-business walked in. I'm walking out.
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  Checking in

  by Libelle in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just popped in to say: i left my husband.

  we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).

  i couldn't take it anymore.

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  Libelle

  Thanks Sab! :) And yes, allt hat negativity, and then he asks me (regularly) why my beliefs are not strong enough to give me peace? Because he's actively destorying in my house, TYVM!
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  Checking in

  by Libelle in

  1. jw
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  just popped in to say: i left my husband.

  we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).

  i couldn't take it anymore.

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  Libelle

  Just popped in to say: I left my husband. We're still workign out the details (as I only did it this past weekend). I couldn't take it anymore. No more all our problems are because I won't listen to the truth, no more attempts to scare me into it by showing how everythign in the world is going wrong as a sign of the end of this system of things. Don't know what will happen to my stepchildren, but at least my daughter will have a safe place to grow up in, even if it's just half the time.

  And know what? I'm really looking forward to having a new home established (living with my mom at present). And decorating for holidays... maybe even keeping my own paganish books and other thigns around in my own house without keeping them hidden from sight. I feel liberated in lots of ways. IN many ways, I feel I've already grieved the loss of him.

  -Libelle.
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  It's amazing how perceptions change over time...

  by MrFreeze in

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  a few months ago, there was one day of the week i hated above all else.

  you probably know which i'm talking about... the day of the tms and sm.

  i don't know which day you had yours on, but mine was always on thursday.

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  Libelle

  yeap, my boy is actually starting to "get sick" nearly every Thursday. I do not wonder why.
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  is there more women involved with the jw's than men

  by not a jw in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i keep seeing hints thrown around on this site that tends to say that they are more women involved in the jw's than men .is this true?.

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  Libelle

  I agree with Zid and Heaven, but I do go to a UU (which consists primarily of athiests, and some pagans) church, and it's mostly women there too. I think church also fits an emotional/spiritual need that maybe our culture kills in men.
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  While Screaming Bible Passages, 'Ugly Betty' Actor Kills Mother With Samurai Sword

  by leavingwt in

  1. social
  2. current

  while screaming bible passages, 'ugly betty' actor kills mother with samurai sword.

  police say an "ugly betty" actor held his mother hostage and then murdered her with a samurai sword while screaming bible passages tuesday in brooklyn.. .

  neighbors identified the suspect as haitian-american actor michael l. brea, who has had roles on the tv series "ugly betty" and movie "step-up 3-d." he was also the face of a campaign for the energy drink coca-cola: full throttle, according to haiti internet movie database website belfim.com.. .

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  Libelle

  The jacked up things people do on account of religion. May the poor woman rest in peace.