SD-7, I'm sorry for your pain. I think you are on the path to healing, and it's a very good thing to seek out a therapist. I can't answer any of your questions, but I wish you peace and healing on this journey.
-Libelle
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I've been "a proverbial saying and a taunt" for awhile now...
by sd-7 in...amongst both jws and ex-jws, i'm sure.
i'm planning to get back into therapy to deal with my self-esteem issues, and to stay the heck away from emotionally abusive women.
which, given my apparent magnetism to them, logically means all women by extension, as i can't seem to see the train until it's two feet in front of me.
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What Birth Sign Were You Born Under ?
by flipper indidn't know if this has been addressed before , but it's kinda interesting.
when we were witnesses we were always told,oh!
don't look at horoscopes or read anything about your sign because it's demonized !
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Virgo here.
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Who is your favorite Greek/Roman god or goddess and why?
by poopsiecakes ini'm partial to aphrodite and bacchus - who seem to go hand in hand rather well.... .
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Libelle
I'm partial to Artemis and sometimes Dionysus.
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Welcome back YKNOT!
by VampireDCLXV ini must be said that a whole bunch of us were wondering and worrying, thinking that evrything from bears to elders to cia agents got you, yknot.
we're glad you're back; even me, the dark one, who was a bit nasty at times and stung you.
welcome back!.
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Welcome back yknot! I hope to see you around here soon!
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The classic features of a JW wedding are:
by highdose infirstly a wedding/sales talk that mostly features heavily on how the woman should behave (hint, doormat) and lightly brushes over the fact of the husbands bevhaviour ( oh yeah he should treat her well).
the reception normaly at some crummy comunity hall with yellowed ceilings and chucks of damp plaster falling off the walls.
the seats normaly arranged facing eachother all around the edge, so that theres a huge unused space in the middle and everyone is climbing over everyone elses legs to get to their chair.. a big spread donated by everyone, normaly an ode to food poisoning.
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Right on. Yeah, all the JW weddings I've been to were about the same. Wow, is there no creativity? Dry reception - one was outside at a no frills park in freezing weather, and the couple did not make it clear that the reception would be outside. Way to go. Man, the Catholics party it up much better - there's always confession next Saturday if you partied it up too much. haha
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JW ADVANTAGES vs DISADVANTAGES
by DesirousOfChange inthis earlier topic [why do it feel bad about my children leaving jw religion?
] is what causes me to ask this question:.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/208031/1/why-do-i-feel-bad-about-my-children-leaving-the-jw-religion.
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Libelle
Just because they play up morals in the literature, does not mean they act on them. In fact, in my own experience, I find those who are the loudest about the evils of the world often engage in them, fueling their fire to preach.
Also, if they tell people, young kids, to ignore, suppress and even hate their true selves (I'm thinking esp when it comes to emerging sexuality), then no, there is no advantage. Just setting those individuals up for a difficult life at best.
And yeah, you can find decent people in most other groups, not just JW. JW are among the most false-fronted people I know.
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Checking in
by Libelle injust popped in to say: i left my husband.
we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).
i couldn't take it anymore.
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Libelle
Hahaha NomadSoul, you're a bit of a haul from me - you being in TX and all. But as far as I know Friday's free. haha
Thanks V665 - I missed you too! Yeah you are so right, the former JW has to be completely done with the group. I didn't realize how consuming the cult was when he first mentioned it to me, and since he didn't practice it for our first 5 years together, it seemed ok. But yeah, it's rough. This transition will be a tough go, but once it's all settled, should be ok.
MS, As for custody, I'm told that this state seems to be big on 50/50. I'm ok with that, well, if it had been his original STBX-self, but I don't know what's going to happen with his new cult-self. Especially now that I worry I've totally solidified him by leaving. (that was another worry of mine - if I leave will that just underscore his commitment - but so would staying huh?). But I do feel worry about him potentially turning a blind eye to godknowswhat in the org. sigh. I'm really uncertain about this at this point. Whether I can do it, and all. But every time I hear him say "do I have to take you to the bathroom?" my gut twists in knots as I just cannot imagine using threats like that. And we have some varmint kids, but man, aren't the adults supposed to be the bigger people?
Thanks Blacksheep and wasblind.
WifetoJW - oh girl, I feel that difficulty. It's such a hard haul. I'd try to "live and let live" but then he'd read something or expand upon something in the daily text, or some awful stuff would come up in their family study ("young people ask", anyone?) and I just can't be around that without speaking up. I understand your desire to leave. I've almost done it far too many times since the baptism. Do you have kids?
So the long haul comes now. And I have to sort of the parenting stuff too.
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Checking in
by Libelle injust popped in to say: i left my husband.
we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).
i couldn't take it anymore.
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Libelle
Gotta go for now, I'm at the library.. Just noticed sister stick-her-nose-in-other's-business walked in. I'm walking out.
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Checking in
by Libelle injust popped in to say: i left my husband.
we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).
i couldn't take it anymore.
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Thanks Sab! :) And yes, allt hat negativity, and then he asks me (regularly) why my beliefs are not strong enough to give me peace? Because he's actively destorying in my house, TYVM!
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Checking in
by Libelle injust popped in to say: i left my husband.
we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).
i couldn't take it anymore.
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Libelle
Just popped in to say: I left my husband. We're still workign out the details (as I only did it this past weekend). I couldn't take it anymore. No more all our problems are because I won't listen to the truth, no more attempts to scare me into it by showing how everythign in the world is going wrong as a sign of the end of this system of things. Don't know what will happen to my stepchildren, but at least my daughter will have a safe place to grow up in, even if it's just half the time.
And know what? I'm really looking forward to having a new home established (living with my mom at present). And decorating for holidays... maybe even keeping my own paganish books and other thigns around in my own house without keeping them hidden from sight. I feel liberated in lots of ways. IN many ways, I feel I've already grieved the loss of him.
-Libelle.