Posts by mamalove

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Christians, is it okay for women to read romance novels?

by asilentone in

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mamalove

I bet there are all kinds of sisters who read them and get off, whats wrong with it? Reading about love and feel good feelings? I have a brain, and a hoo hoo so why not use them both responsibly?

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Mentallyfree31 Would Like To Formally Introduce Himself

by mentallyfree31 in

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i have been absent on the forum for the past couple of months.

i have previously been known on here as "mentallyfree31".

i would like to take this opportunity to formally introduce myself.

Glad to meet you! I am interested how your brother steered you all in the right direction. I would love to be able to reach my sister or mother but they don't talk to me. If you have any tips, please pass them on.

Did you have any reprecussions in leaving, DF, crazy shunning, crap like that?

I assume you are relatively young, 30's? Don't you feel like you have sooo much more living to do? I too quit college to get f'ing married at 19 to a man 13 years older than me. Luckily I have a good full time job in corporate America, thanks to the grace of God. (snort). But I need to finish my degree! Tell me how it goes securing funding and stuff like that, I am probably going to go fo business because that is my career path anyway.

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How did you choose your screenname for jw.net?

by Voices in

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alright, i'm curious now cause i've been wanting to know how certain people go their screennames.

now some people have their names involved with makes sense and so forth.

but i guess i'll start out.

mamalove

Mine isnt too clever. But I am a mom, and love is number one to me. I guess I should have put something more fitting to this board.

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(If you ever were) Was getting DF'ed a relief? Did you lose patience with 'the fade'?

by Sapphy in

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i was wondering about this.. i'm doing a slow fade, i don't want to lose friends and family - but it's frustrating.

wasting time going to meetings etc when my heart and head isn't in it anymore.

it feels like a game played by everyone elses rules but mine.

mamalove

I am not sure you can have you cake and eat it too. A slow fade eventually turns into a full on, Where is Johnny? And then they will likely pursue you, especially if you were somewhat popular. That is just the way it is. Will your family still want you around if you are not going to meetings? They will do their utmost to get you back. So you might have to take a stand. You don't have to get DF'd, just quit going to meetings cold turkey. What can they do?

Sure they will call you and want to know what is going on. I would just avoid as long as you can, make new friends, those worldly people are alot of fun I am telling you! It depends all on your make-up and what you can withstand as far as starting over. But it is so much better after. If you need help and support, PM me anytime!

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BIG talk with teenage son today

by Aussie Oz in

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yesterday i got to ask my kids what they thought of the convention they just had.

response was 'really good'.

daughter liked the drama but could not say why or what the lesson was... so i figure she liked it because it was more interesting than the regular talks.

mamalove

wow that gave me shivers to read that! Good job dad! I think that you planted some seeds and he will digest that and think about it more than you realize. You are saving his life, just remember that. One thing I wish my DFd dad had done for me when I was a teenager (I am almost 31 now), is tell me that he would have my back no matter what. I could move out of my moms house and come live with him and he would be my buffer, my savior from my controlling mom who is ubber JW. If I would have known I had a place to go, I would have fled 17 years ago instead of making my exit a year ago. Keep up the good work!

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Were you Stalked or Chased After Once you Exited the JW's by Elders ?

by flipper in

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i tried to fade off the map by moving 30 miles initially in 2004 after i exited in late 2003 .

the first several years they didn't bother me.

i ran into a elder from my former congregation in late 2005 in an antique store - he tried telling me i was wrong for stopping attending meetings.

mamalove

I have not been called or asked anything. I am surprised. Although my ex has said they want to meet with me, and determine my status....I told him I have nothing to say.

But my ex has repeatedly tried to get me to out myself as an opposer in our divorce papers as the religion has played a huge role in the split and with the raising of the kids.

I think once my ex gets sick of masturbating, and desires a real woman, he will start the stalkervision and try to see if I am having my fancy tickled. But that could be a while. He really likes his hand.

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My kid gets it

by mamalove in

so last night my 6 year old tells me that her dad said to her while tucking her in at night "mama is going to die because she caused the divorce, and grandpa wanted mommy to divorce me all the days of his life.".

(my dad left the lie when i was 5, and i left a year ago... and subsequently am almost through with the divorce and the ex is a bitter, ignorant, crazy tempered jw).

so its all our fault, and i am going to die, makes sense.. last night i called up the ex and told him that he was nothing short of a mental pedophile, that you don't tell your daughter her mother is as good as dead, and he needs to knock it off and he is in violation of our anti-disparagement agreement that the courts have insisted on due to the religious and personal strife between us.

mamalove

I have an obligation to tell our mediator, which I did in an emial last night. I cannot limit his time with them. Already tried that. He is a "fit" father in the eyes of the courts, no drugs, porn or abuse according to them. I am quite confident that as the kids get older, they will smell the stink and go far away from it.

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My kid gets it

by mamalove in

so last night my 6 year old tells me that her dad said to her while tucking her in at night "mama is going to die because she caused the divorce, and grandpa wanted mommy to divorce me all the days of his life.".

(my dad left the lie when i was 5, and i left a year ago... and subsequently am almost through with the divorce and the ex is a bitter, ignorant, crazy tempered jw).

so its all our fault, and i am going to die, makes sense.. last night i called up the ex and told him that he was nothing short of a mental pedophile, that you don't tell your daughter her mother is as good as dead, and he needs to knock it off and he is in violation of our anti-disparagement agreement that the courts have insisted on due to the religious and personal strife between us.

mamalove

So last night my 6 year old tells me that her dad said to her while tucking her in at night "Mama is going to die because she caused the divorce, and grandpa wanted mommy to divorce me all the days of his life."

(My dad left the lie when I was 5, and I left a year ago... and subsequently am almost through with the divorce and the ex is a bitter, ignorant, crazy tempered JW). So its all our fault, and I am going to die, makes sense.

Last night I called up the ex and told him that he was nothing short of a mental pedophile, that you don't tell your daughter her mother is as good as dead, and he needs to knock it off and he is in violation of our anti-disparagement agreement that the courts have insisted on due to the religious and personal strife between us. He hung up on me when he realized he dug himself in a hole lol.

This morning I asked her if she was making it up, and she insisted she was not, and to ask daddy. So I told her I did, and he said he didnt say it, and why would mommy die? She said "at armageddon." So I reminded her that the lie has been spread for years that armageddon was coming and we are all still alive. She said "They just tell us that so we are scared." SHE GETS IT.

This is what keeps me up at night, the mental garbage my kids are fed at the hands of "loving christian family."

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