So similar it is what was my main trampoline out of ignorance. I read "Escape" by C. Jessop and was struck by the similarities. I know some Mormon's who have had similar shunning and JC experiences too. Very weird.
mamalove
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Even Mormons can become inactive.
by Quarterback ini recall recieving a visit from two young mormons.
these were elders, and had that title on their lapel badges.
while discussing a few topics with them, they mentioned that there were approx 10 million active mormons.
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Who would you have Lunch With? From JWN?
by AvocadoJake inthe last few years "warren buffet.
" has donated his time to the highest bidder for charity.
the ebay auction usually goes for $100,000 to spend lunch-time and pick his brain on his view.
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mamalove
I had dinner with Mocha Latte a couple of weeks ago.
I would break bread with just about anyone though! I value everyone on here for their perspective.
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Was The Internet The Clincher For You To Mentally Leave The Organization?
by minimus ini think it was for me.. i knew a lot of the history of the bible students, russell, rutherford and the "old light".
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once i could see all of the overwhelming evidence right in front of my eyes, there was no ignoring the reality..
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mamalove
Oprah did it for me...but then I used the internet to order a book I saw on her show off Amazon...which was about the FLDS. Their story stunk like the JW story and it was slowly downhill for me after that. But the internet fed my need for clarity and information. Now I am at the top of the mountain and won't ever go back!
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Divided Households... Can anyone relate?
by garyneal inas some of you may know, ours is a 'divided household.
' a term use by jehovah's witnesses to describe households where one spouse is in 'the truthtm' and the other one isn't.
in some of them (like mine) the 'unbelieving spouse' (ubm) may actually express a faith in the god of the bible and in christianity and perhaps even go to church.
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mamalove
My mom is a Jdub, dad not. Parents were divorced so that is different than your situation. I was exposed to both kinds of living, but my mother got orders from the court to control all religio us upbringing. So that was my path for a majority until I finally got the nerve to think about things and eventually leave.
Having a dad who was so loving, balanced, and kind and my mother being a sharp tongued, instantly angry type of person made me more drawn to my father and eventually he won the war...he lost many battles to my mom, but won the war.
So I think being the best dad you can be, and teaching kids the HUMAN element, not the religious label element goes a long way. Can you share how old your kids are?
All of that being said, although I am not married anymore, I struggle DAILY with JW indoctrination and trying to balance out my kiddos. Kids are really smart and can smell a hypocrite, so I mostly let the Jdubs trip over themselves and it makes my job easy with a few self answering points of discussion with my kids.
It is never too late for one of your kids to come around. Just do not give up and make sure you make it clear you will have their back and fight for them if they have pressure.
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How would you have handled this incident?
by garyneal inthis incident is past but reading a thread concerning someone wanting to invite her jw mom to her son's birthday party brought this memory back, how i handled the incident then, and how i would've handled it today knowing what i now know.. my wife and i had a family reunion a few years ago (at least 3, probably more) and it happened on my aunt's birthday.
my mom, being who she is, brought a birthday cake to the party and wanted to surprise her sister with it.
upon talking to my mother-in-law (a very devout jw) about it, as soon as my mom mentioned birthday she walks away.
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mamalove
Let them have cake! If people leave...then they do. True colors. I am not into changing for the majority because a minority chooses to make a big deal about stuff.
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Multiple Abuse ...
by talesin ini wonder how many posters here are not only in recovery from spiritual abuse (jws) , but other traumas,, such as sexual and physical abuse,,, or rape as a young person (ie, child or teen).. .
how many of us are recovering from double - or triple - trauma ... ?.
anyone want to share?.
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mamalove
This thread is heartbreaking. ((HUGS)) to you all.
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Any updates on the SPY network at the I.R.S., F.B.I., and other agencies for Watchtower Bible and Tract Society?
by Balaamsass incurious, with almost 25,000 members here.
network of j.w.
does anyone have any up to date info on the status of the volunteer "spies"?.
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mamalove
Seems like an offense that would get one in a lot of hot water. Not surprising at all though.
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Woe is me...
by gutted ini need to get this out and this is the only place i know that it will be ok to do so.. so i've been out (inactive) for over a year a half now and decided i wanted a relationship with a non-jw, obviously.
i'm in my late 20s and never really had a girlfriend.
it doesn't help that i'm an introvert and not a very social person, add to that the guilt and control issues i have from jws and i don't think i have many outgoing attractive qualities.. i have been on dates with about 4 girls so far, one i approached randomly and the others from online dating.
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mamalove
I have often thought that I might try online dating if I wanted to get out there. I don't have experience in it, but some of my friends have. They go on lots of dates. All I can think of is that perhaps your pictures need to be flattering and your profile make you seem interesting.
Being an introvert, I think that social settings can be a struggle for some. Are you a good conversationalist? If not, perhaps work on conversation skills, be interested in other people, practice on old ladies on the bus, etc.
Second, girls like confidence, not arrogance. We like guys that have their act together, and that we can respect.
I could go on and on about this stuff, but first dates are fairly important on making a decent impression. Do you have any gal pals that you can get some honest opinions from and maybe they can help? If you are tired of online dating, perhaps just try to live life, observe people, go to places that you like to go, and maybe the right girl is there too? Just be patient and love yourself and nurture your inner person to figure out how to be your authentic self.
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Hello - new
by freshstart inhi, just wanted to introduce myself.
born-in, as was my husband.
we were both baptized as teens, married when we were teens (he was early 20s) and we were both the "perfect" witnesses.
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mamalove
Welcome! Looking forward to more of your story, how you woke up, how your family treats you and how you have found a good place. :)
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I'm sorry, but I have to say this re Kim Kardashian (fluff thread, sort of)...
by AGuest inbut i do so to be fair (may you all have peace!):.
if she were my daughter, and kris humphries said to her what he said to ms. kim, when she voiced her concerns (again) about not wanting to move to minnesota (which she did before getting married and he "pretended" to accept), i might tell her he's the wrong guy/man, too.
no, i don't believe in divorce "just because,"... and don't know that i would tell my daughter to divorce him (she made her bed, so to say), but.... what did he say?
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mamalove
I think Kim just felt like it was time to get married, settle, have a big wedding, all of that. I think her hubbster had some advice to catch this train and ride it to the bank, the notariety would be very valuable for him if it did not work out. They are both probably pretty pompous, and being married is hard, especially at first. People with lots of money may possibly feel it is easier to get out of a marriage than a person with less money, so it was a call she made to get peace. She might be really hurt and have done it out of anger too. Maybe they reconcile? I think they will.