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  Describe What a Jehovah's Witness Elder Is Like

  by minimus in

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  i know what they are supposed to be like.

  but at this point in time, do you think the elders look joyful?

  are they serious bible students?

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  scarredforlife

  I agree with Splash. That has been my observation in the past.
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  I have an honest question!

  by FL_Panthers in

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  it's with regards to disfellowshipping.. is disfellowshipping a legal procedure?

  like is there something i can use to prevent this from happening to me if it does happen.. no jokes about me being a bad little boy.

  i need honest answers to this.

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  scarredforlife

  I agree 100% with Troubled Mind. You are at a perfect age and time in your life to do this! Concentrate on meeting new people and making new friends. There are all kinds of volunteer opportunities and other activities where you can meet new people. Consider seriously moving to a new town maybe even a new state. YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT! In 2 years , you can have a whole new life . You will hardly remember the life you left behind.
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  What was the most rebellious thing you did while you were a devout jw?

  by DuvanMuvan in

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  i was just thinking about how humans being imperfect and satan's influence was the root of everything bad that anyone has ever done.

  well i know that apparently everyone is vulnerable which got me thinking about what "bad" things people have done while they were a jw.

  i'll start it off.

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  scarredforlife

  I was a good little JW. Until I was about 15 and I stopped going to meetings and then I went to COLLEGE!!!!!!!! And then when my father died very suddenly I refused to agree for my mother to have a JW funeral.( My parents had become pretty inactive while I was in college). When the JW elder and his wife came to our door to give his condolences and possibly to plan the funeral with my mother, I went outside and met them coming up the walkway. I told them to LEAVE and NEVER COME BACK TO OUR HOUSE AGAIN!!!! And they didn't. No one else ever knew that they had come. Including my mother. Come to think of it that is the most rebellious thing I ever did. And it had decades of consequences. All the way up until now.
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  Finally free of JWs!

  by Julia Orwell in

  1. jw
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  we moved house and no active jw knows we live there.

  it's in another congregation territory too so when they finally come knocking, they won't know i'm a dirty apostate when i tell them to put me on the do not call list.

  problem is, the local discount supermarket across the highway is frequented by jws from my previous previous congregation!.

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  scarredforlife

  I think you can become totally free. You must make new friends and build a whole new life. It will eventually be a distant memory and you can just hang on to what you have learned from it.
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  My daughter asked me why we don't go to meetings

  by JWinprotest in

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  last night, completely out of the blue, my 6 year old daughter, asked my wife and i why we don't go to meetings anymore.

  she actually said that she misses them.

  i know, where have i failed!!!.

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  scarredforlife

  As someone who was raised from birth as a JW, I would say it's very possible that your daughter is full of fear that she and her parents are going to die at Armageddon very soon. Her grandmothers may be making the fear worse. Children do hear what is being said at meetings. Horrible, horrible religion.
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  I've been sad all my life since my parents got into the JW's

  by Star tiger in

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  these evil manipulative b*****s have ruined any normal life i could have had, are there any other people that have shared the same experience, my wife does not understand as she has had nothing to do with this evil cult, i welcome your comments!!

  thankfully my wife puts up with me but she will never understand!!!.

  star tiger.

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  scarredforlife

  forgive & forget and move on. Time waits for nobody.

  Good advice. I'm still working on this. Don't take as long as I have.

  But, yes, I do understand that feeling of sadness and isolation. And I think it is directly related to being raised a JW. It's good to get on this forum and talk about it and release those feelings and anger.
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  How many received the memorial invitation?

  by IMHO in

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  how well is this territory being covered?.

  how many on here (active jws excluded) received an invitation?.

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  scarredforlife

  I did not. I haven't seen a JW or any sign of them in 3 years.
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  Is everyone on here disassociated??

  by happi2b in

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  so i don't understand it seems to me from the posts that i have read just about everyone is disassociated.. just wondering if that's true or if i am not the only one on here still within the organization..

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  scarredforlife

  do believe what is being taught is truth even if sometimes there is some lies within it.....Happi2b

  Happi2b, You do realize this makes no sense , don't you? Step back and think about what you are doing and saying.
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  The Effects of JW Child Abuse into Adulthood

  by PublishingCult in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  my two oldest brothers, jim and ron, were coerced into baptism when they were but 10 and 11 years old.. .

  they were indoctrinated heavily, of course, and they tried to toe the line and be good little jw boys as best two unruly fatherless boys could.

  the nature of a boy won out and they both got into some mischief about a year later.

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  scarredforlife

  Thanks for sharing about your brother. I was a born-in, beginning in 1956, about the same as your brother. I understand everything you have told us. I am very sorry for your loss. Thanks for calling it what it is: child abuse.
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  IM SOOO ANGRY!!!!!!!

  by bez in

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  i have not posted for a while and have actually not been on for a while but i have had to post cus i am just livid!!!.

  me and my husband and 2 children stopped going nearly a year ago after numerous issues, and basic doubts.

  while we were in the cong i had an 'incident' with a brother who claimed to love me and wanted to leave his wife for me.

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  scarredforlife

  You've gotten great advice here.

  The best way I found and its at times a hard thing to do, is stay clear of any JWS all together, they will only degrade you,

  malign your character and show copious amounts of disrespect.

  I was a born-in also. You just have to go on with your life and put all those JW people that you have known in your past. Look forward not backward.