And for those of you who are still in the organization, I will tell you, anything said behind closed doors to a committee of elders, or a judicial committee, is then leaked to the whole congregation. The elders joke about it in car groups with the MS, they tell their wives and family members. They even make fun of the situations and people involved as if it's some kind of joke.
I knew of a teenage son of an elder who knew everything that went on in the elders' meetings - which person got counseled for what, how they responded, and so on.
I knew of a mother of an elder who also knew everything and she made sure to spread it around.
The elders also make comments (within the elder/MS body) about sisters' boobs and other things.