Thanks to both of you... I have always been open with the kids and they know I'm there for them unconditionally. It's just hard to be patient but what you're saying rings true. :)
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I Guess I Don't Matter
by headisspinning ini'm pretty upset.
my sister just asked me if my ex bothered to mention that both of my kids were announced as publishers last thursday night.. nobody said a word to me.. i just called my ex and told him that i was pretty furious - at least he apologized which i have to say, i have heard the words 'i'm sorry' from him about 5 times in the 14 years we we married.. anyway, i'm sad.
the kids didn't even bother to tell me... i would like to think that means it's not important to them... but with a sinking feeling i think that i'm what doesn't matter..
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So an elder stopped by today...
by Igot2bme ini got a visit from an elder today and he brought over an invitation to the memorial, i excepted it and he said he wanted to come over for a shepherding call.
i told him monday would work for me.
so him and another elder will be here on monday at 7:30 pm.
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I would cancel if I were you. Show up at the Memorial but get out of it. They are going to DF you otherwise.
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I promised I'd update again when my book tour got close, so...
by brizzzy inhi, guys .
http://girlsguidetohomelessness.com/upcoming-events/.
book launch is in just under two weeks and there's the tour dates/locations so far.
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I can't wait! Go BRIANNA!
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I Guess I Don't Matter
by headisspinning ini'm pretty upset.
my sister just asked me if my ex bothered to mention that both of my kids were announced as publishers last thursday night.. nobody said a word to me.. i just called my ex and told him that i was pretty furious - at least he apologized which i have to say, i have heard the words 'i'm sorry' from him about 5 times in the 14 years we we married.. anyway, i'm sad.
the kids didn't even bother to tell me... i would like to think that means it's not important to them... but with a sinking feeling i think that i'm what doesn't matter..
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I'm pretty upset. My sister just asked me if my ex bothered to mention that both of my kids were announced as publishers last Thursday night.
Nobody said a word to me.
I just called my ex and told him that I was pretty furious - at least he apologized which I have to say, I have heard the words 'I'm Sorry' from him about 5 times in the 14 years we we married.
Anyway, I'm sad. The kids didn't even bother to tell me... I would like to think that means it's not important to them... but with a sinking feeling I think that I'M what doesn't matter.
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Do You Wear Exercise Shoes? What Kind?
by White Dove ini have sketcher's shape ups tennies (mimics walking on sand) and sketcher's tone up sandals, which are like walking on tiny balance balls.. i wear them all the time and have seen a huge difference in my legs.
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do you wear shoes like these, too?
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My husband went to the Running Room and they watched how he walked and did a full assessment of his stride. They then recommended the perfect shoes for him. I think it all depends on the person, their stride, their weight, any inbalance etc. (He ended up with a pair of New Balance).
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Did I handle this okay?
by headisspinning ini finished 'crisis of conscience'... i am just reeling.
if any one book has changed my life, then this one is definitely it.
it's incredible really - two weeks ago i was so confused and disturbed and felt like my whole life had been turned on it's end but that book made such a difference for me.
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Thanks Mr. Flipper... You were one of the 'ones' I was hoping to draw out.
I have a bit of a plan on how to appeal to my mom... she knows I have had very 'vulnerable and desperate moments'... I plan to keep all of that in mind when I execute my 'rescue plan' ... of course that might take several years... sigh...
Julia
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Did I handle this okay?
by headisspinning ini finished 'crisis of conscience'... i am just reeling.
if any one book has changed my life, then this one is definitely it.
it's incredible really - two weeks ago i was so confused and disturbed and felt like my whole life had been turned on it's end but that book made such a difference for me.
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I really value ALL of your responses...
And Jeckle... thank you...
If I could make a list of the people who have helped me the most so far... well, gee, I don't need to because most of you have already replied!
(One day I will warrant replies from Barbara, YNot etc.... LOL!)
xo
PS. Ohhhhh and I can't wait to get a reply from the one and only Outlaw! :)
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Did I handle this okay?
by headisspinning ini finished 'crisis of conscience'... i am just reeling.
if any one book has changed my life, then this one is definitely it.
it's incredible really - two weeks ago i was so confused and disturbed and felt like my whole life had been turned on it's end but that book made such a difference for me.
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Thanks to all of you - I made notes of all the books. I am going to read Ray's second book and then work through the rest.
It's funny. I never had a favourite WT book or publication. NEVER. It was always a huge chore to me. But all of a sudden for the first time in my life, I actually WANT to learn the TRUTH. Funny that!
As some of you know we are in the process of moving. Guess what I did? Threw out a huge load of WT literature. Admittedly, I did keep one copy of the YPA books, the Bible Story book and the Greatest Man books... I think those may have some value for the kids. I will have to go through them again.
But all those WT/Awake! magazines, Revelation books etc. ... they are GONE!
I feel cleansed!
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Did I handle this okay?
by headisspinning ini finished 'crisis of conscience'... i am just reeling.
if any one book has changed my life, then this one is definitely it.
it's incredible really - two weeks ago i was so confused and disturbed and felt like my whole life had been turned on it's end but that book made such a difference for me.
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You got it right... my mother is shunning me but we are allowing her to see the baby.
She was very actively involved in destroying what was left of my husband's reputation when we first got disfellowshipped. Honestly, it was slander. She finally was reprimanded by one of the elder's who personally dealt with my husband's case and even that didn't stop her.
It wasn't until she found out about the abuse my husband endured as a child that she finally came to her senses.
Since then she has mellowed ... what she did is absolutely terrible but we do not want to hold a grudge and her attitude towards us has changed so we are willing to let her see the baby.
I did bring up the 'vicious gossip' that was going on in an email to her. I didn't accuse her directly... but I think she got the point and knew that we knew she was involved.
I'm pretty forgiving and not cruel by nature so I am okay with letting her own conscience plague her for what she did. I guess it's kind of like 'turn the other cheek', right?
She just keeps thanking me for letting her see the baby - I think it's kind of funny because I haven't changed and I told her that. Of course (if she's being decent) she can see him. It's HER that is being hardcore and ridiculous, NOT me. Not even my husband whose name she dragged through the mud.
I told her that we will be in town in May and that they can come and pick up the baby and take him out for a few hours. Our contact will be brief and limited.
I don't think she would dare bring any issues up... if she does ANYTHING inappropriate that will be it... and I think she knows that!
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How Many JWs Have You known Who Have Commited Suicide?
by Was New Boy injames olsen and richaed wheellock both bethelites.. rich templet.
rich and james out of guilt, richard out of depression.. james and rich were both under 30 years old.. after richard wheelock (a bethel heavy) killed himself the society changed it's stand on whether suicides could be resurrectioned or not..
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I know of several.
One was a 17 year old boy who hung himself.
One was a 36 year old man (inactive) who drowned himself. (We grew up with him).
Another was a 40 year old man, again drowned.
My best friend overdosed at age 16 (survived).
My ex husband overdosed at age 14 (survived).
My sister and I have both attempted twice (obviously survived but it was close).