My kids are 9 and 15 and the 15 year old has left although his father makes him attend meetings.
My husband's kids are 10 and almost 16.
I have 50/50 custody but have always allowed the kids to make decisions. This includes religion and they have know that always. But my ex has a house and I only have a small apartment.
My husband was blackmailed into giving up custody.
My son (who is 15) stays with his JW dad because they play video games together and they are within walking distance to the school.
My daughter lives there because her JW dad has promised her the entire top floor of the house with ensuite bath... and scared the life out of her that if she lives here she might die at Armaggedon.
My husband's kids are fully, hardcore indoctrinated. He was Congregation Coordinator and indoctrinated them like nobody's business. On top of that, his ex wife has manipulated them beyond belief with the full backing of the elders and Bethel.
My kids have adjusted to the divorce and remarriage because they have been allowed to adjust naturally. His kids have been ruined.