Posts by satinka

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I've decided to take the plunge, but....

by ColdRedRain in

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don't tell my girlfriend.

secretly, i've had feelings for a person she doesn't know about.

we've been seeing each other for the past 3 months, and so far, he's been the best thing that's ever happened to me.

satinka

You dated a guy for three months?... and next month you are getting married? That's awful fast, isn't it?

And you just told your gf?

You co-dependent or something?

Slow down, man!

satinka

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here i am - born in truth, hard-core spiritual everything all my life, early reg.pioneer, ms, elder, assembly parts, tour at bethel, etc, married now...... i'm trying to examine jw teachings a little closer...... i've spent the last two weeks reading many many posts, info , references on where ex-jw's are coming from.

i'm kind of concerned about a few things lately..... honestly - some points make sense to me - some don't - here are my general thoughts:.

-wt getting un membership for access to library - doesnt bother me - some passports and other governement documents have similar forms and requirements..... -blood issue - some counterpoints to the jw 'rules' makes sense (original intent of scripture is unbled animals, white blood cells similar in mothers milk) etc -however a lot of 'apostate' reasonings and proof are inaccurate.

satinka

makersmark,

Members on this forum take potshots at the JWs because we can... now.

While in the organization, we were mute...stifled...suppressed...constricted...restricted...voiceless...compliant...sheeple I see by your comments, in your role as elder, you would still like to tell us how we "should" live...by jw standards...shut our mouths, stay mute...stifled...suppressed...constricted...restricted...voiceless...compliant...sheeple

Now, we are on this forum among like-minded people where the healing process is enabled. We are free to speak our minds and express what is in our hearts. On this forum we are validated and allowed to grow and heal. We can be ourselves, not some jw robot.

I no longer listen to elders because Ihave left the jws --- and I have left for valid reasons. I don't have to explain to you why I left. Suffice to say, the reasons were valid. I wanted to grow and find out who I really was aside from my muteness.

If there is a "potshot" tone to us, look in the mirror, because I see it in you, too.

satinka

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Another" Windowless Kingdom Hall" thread..

by Snoozy in

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well, i have talked to a few people and no one knows of any kingdom halls that have no or little windows.

does anyone here have an address or picture of one they have seen?.

i tried doing a search but it looks like the only one commenting on them are ex jw's... any info anyone?.

satinka

Windows got smashed/vandalized often at KHs---you know---the old persecution complex. I used to attend a windowless KH.

satinka

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Things I'm grateful for....

by Lunatic Faith in

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i only recently decided to change course in my life but am surprised at the daily reminders of what i have to be grateful for.

by this, i mean, things i have spent my life worrying about, or torturing myself with, that is no longer a concern:.

no more door-to-door humiliationno more guilt about not doing enoughi can get rid of most of the dresses in my wardrobe since i didn't like them anywayno more nylons rolling down my abdomen and causing my thighs to itchno more required reading and preparationno more talksno more conventions and all the headaches connected to themsummer is wide openweekly planning is no longer contingent upon meeting nightno more miserable weekends of morning service and morning meetingwhat are you grateful for?.

satinka

I'm grateful that my new life is free.

I'm grateful that I am free to dance.

I'm grateful that I have a partner who loves me.

I'm grateful that I am free to be me.

I'm grateful that I am free to ask questions and receive answers that don't insult my intelligence.

I'm grateful that I own my free will now.

I'm grateful that I have money to spend on myself and I don't feel guilty for doing so.

I'm grateful that I feel good about myself; I like what I see in the mirror.

I'm grateful that I don't have to hide who I am from my workmates.

I'm grateful that I am free to take higher education.

satinka

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What Would You Like To Ask Any Poster Here?

by minimus in

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i'd like to ask undercover why he has so many responses that are similar to what i think?.

finally free, are you really as cranky as you seem?.

satinka

I'd like to ask some posters why they leave the JWs --- but still stay with the JW beliefs. Do you still really think its the Truth TM ? R-e-a-l-l-y? 'cuz I seriously don't get it.

And what keeps you from going back if you still really think its the Truth TM ?

I mean, each to their own... None of my business.

satinka

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Tattoo - Regret it or love it?

by mythreesons in

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i've been mulling over "getting ink done".

anybody here have any thoughts.

do you regret it?

satinka

Brotherdan: I loved the tattoo commerical!...especially the part about the trip to Jamaica!

mythreesons: I have a tattoo on my ankle. It's posted here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/179386/35/Post-a-Picture-Thread-Nice-to-Meet-You

I love it.

satinka

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How is it f'n possible JW's biggest religious increase 4.4%

by troubled mind in

just saw that on the evening news .

are they all having babies now or what ?

is there any stats on how many have left ?.

satinka

http://abcnews.go.com/US/american-religion-national-council-churches-reports-pentacostalism-gains/story?id=12931023

satinka

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Time magazine-JW's high turnover

by Lunatic Faith in

i know this is a couple years old but i found it referenced on another site and had to share it--assuming it hasn't already been shared.. www.time.com.

satinka

Great article. Thanks for sharing, Lunatic Faith

I see DannyHazard made reference to the two-thirds turn-over of JWs in his comments to this article:

http://abcnews.go.com/US/american-religion-national-council-churches-reports-pentacostalism-gains/story?id=12931023

satinka

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Toxic Relationships

by serenitynow! in

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i have had it with my mother.

i've spoken on the board before about her.

she is fanatically religious, often keeps me on the phone for hours while she talks endlessly about the bible.

satinka

Hi Serenity Now,

Thanks for sharing your story. Glad to hear you are on a growth path. You may notice that as you grow, your relationship with your mother will change. If your mother fears growth (sounds like she does), then you will naturally experience resistance. But, if you are determined to keep growing, nothing will be able to stop you.

I am sorry to hear that your mother has so few feelings (like never being able to cry). That's harsh. But then she believes in a harsh punishing god, too ... so why would it surprise me?

None of us have to end up like our mothers...Keep up the great work! I'm cheering for you!

As always, great comments, Lady Lee! I value your wisdom...

satinka

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A Lurker taking a step out of the shadows

by AlmightyDog in

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i have been lurking on this site and others for a couple of years now, and i feel it is time to step out and say "hello!

" when i first began investigating my beliefs, it was innocent enough.

i had been reading an article on scientology, thinking; "wow, these people are just plain nuts!!!

satinka

Welcome to the forum, Almighty Dog!

I liked Terry's post.

When Faith is more of a Loyalty issue than a Reality-match you have entered the valley of the shadow of cults.

Good point, Terry! Unfortunately, many people never make it out of the Valley of the Shadow of Cults

The reason is the FEAR that the JW religion instills in its members. Fear is a paralyzer. It keeps people immobilized.

satinka