Wasanelderonce: I am sorry to hear what is happening to you. It happened to me, too. After I got disfellowshipped I heard through the grapevine of a rumor that was going around the congregation. It was blatantly untrue, but seriously...the elders and congregation members DO NOT want to know the truth. What they really want are reasons to believe that when someone leaves the congregation, they have turned "bad" and are "sinning" and all kinds of stories so that you will FIT INTO THEIR MOULD of what happens when members leave. After all, are you not a follower of Satan now?
The rumors provide a sense of "told-you-so" to all the remaining members. The elders happily enable the rumors to instill even more FEAR in the remaining members.
I had a good laugh --- and ignored the rumors.
Then I moved two provinces away.
Best thing I ever did.
satinka