Posts by ladonna

I am really surprised at how much we all have in common with each other. The feelings expressed by all so far have each mirrored the other in feelings of opression.

I left the borg rather young, but a while before I did, at age 15 I was brought before the elders on a false charge of fornication.
I was supposed to tell them "the story". There were 5 men present. No women. They asked questions that were extremely intimate in nature and all I could feel was sheer fear of these men.

Eventually I was believed but that led to a horror story of it's own that I seldom thinks of.
I felt so insignificant at that meeting; so opressed; helpless.
In fact, I think back and nearly all the males in authority actually scared me.

Later as an adult, I look at my family (prior to my shunning) and see my mother as a trodden down woman with little say in the life she chooses to lead. I have questioned her on women not being useful for anything in the WTBTS and have received answers such as "The bible says that the man is the head of the house so that applies in the congregation as well".

I give up.......I could go on and on, but the rest of the ladies have summed up my feelings as well or better than I could.
Thanks to all others who have shared.....great thread.

Ana

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open marriages, anyone have experience?

by Pierced Angel in

well, my husband found out about my affair (yes, i gave in to the temptation with the soccer player and while it was fantastic, it's over now) and it's been a devestating time, we almost got divorced, but we're working through it.

i knew telling friends and this board wasn't going to help me fight his romantic advances, but i tried.

it was a one time thing that would have continued, but i wasn't too careful about the clues (guilty conscience i think).

ladonna

Veggie,

Comf is right!!!!! The bible did set the standards.
Sheesh, I'd hate to have been one of Lot's daughters. Ughhhhhh....

Ana

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Post below to USA & Canada, Australia etc too

by Celtic in

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see post below

ladonna

ERrrrrrr Celt,

Where is the post????

Ana

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Happy New Year To All :-))))

by ladonna in

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happy new year to all our friends at jw.com........ to see your card try one of these ways.

click on the link below.

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ladonna

Happy new year to all our friends at JW.Com.......

To see your card try one of these ways

click on the link below

. http://www.ohmygoodness.com/cgi-bin/g-card.pl?011226ANANQBFDWBH5

or copy and paste the entire line into your browser's window

for AOL Users and for those who could not click on the above link, click below

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Love Michael and Ana~ladonna and Aussiemanhunter

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Anniversary!

by TR in

just celebrated our 18th year as a married couple.

went out for a nice dinner, then gambling at a casino!

actually put some extra cash in my pocket for my troubles.. tr.

ladonna

(((((((((((HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MR & MRS TR ))))))))))))))

All the best for the rest,
Ana

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10 REASONS WHY JWS STAY IN THE TOWER

by Victor_E in

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reason 1. jws use a cultic language that keeps them in a constant state of social hypnosis.

transformational grammar teaches that our language directly affects our subjective experience.

in working with some former jws i had to confiscate certain words and have them create substitutes for something that was more neutral.

ladonna

Erich,
My replies to you are not a personal attack whatsoever. I am not in the position of playing either victim or rescuer and have no desire to be either. I do not judge others on their popularity either.

Therefore, may I ask, was your son born into the JW's? By that I mean was he raised as a JW from a baby, or very young child?
Naturally this may be personal and you may not wish to answer and that is your right.

Ana

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10 REASONS WHY JWS STAY IN THE TOWER

by Victor_E in

jw
friends

reason 1. jws use a cultic language that keeps them in a constant state of social hypnosis.

transformational grammar teaches that our language directly affects our subjective experience.

in working with some former jws i had to confiscate certain words and have them create substitutes for something that was more neutral.

ladonna

Erich,
You said,

You are no democrate at all! Go to your friends Saddam Hussein or Osama bin Laden!
If one day, I'd got confrontated with guys like you, I'd forget all my christian principles. I'd be the first JW since 2000 years who would fight with the gun in my hands(!) against guys like you. One Nazi-dictatorship, one Hitler, and one Stalin, and one Pol Pot is enough. We do not need more killing fields with defenceless lambs !!
Coward!

Erich, I have known Vic for some time and can tell you that you know not of whom you speak.
The man you claim as a coward and one you could easily take up arms against is gentle, kind and giving. He would help any in need and give anything of himself. So, crawl back into your hole.
In fact, did you call yourself a coward? You did sign off with that title.

Anewperson,
You wrote,

Sounds logical but is incorrect. When INFORMED many do leave.

Anew, this is totally, totally incorrect. When informed, the great majority run from the information or informant. They do not want to know they have been, as "Waiting" put it so well, "conned".

Vic,
Great post as per usual,
Ana