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  What's Your New Years Resolution............

  by ladonna in

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  no, i haven't told you mine because i need some ideas from you guys .

  giving up spending so much time on the forum????.

  nah!!!

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  ladonna

  Celia,
  A couple of days ago I wasn't in the country ....so I didn't see it.
  Doesn't matter anyway!!!!

  Ana
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  What's Your New Years Resolution............

  by ladonna in

  1. jw
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  no, i haven't told you mine because i need some ideas from you guys .

  giving up spending so much time on the forum????.

  nah!!!

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  Jolly,
  That's a really great NYR

  Mommy...ummmm...yep, that's more like a prophesy, afterall, ya can't keep it there .

  Joelbear....So far you have won my vote and motivated me

  Darkhorse,.....You come in a close second!

  Still....I kinda like the idea of Dave's.....

  Ana
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  EVERYONE CAN'T BE IN THE FRONT ROW!

  by Kay Francis in

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  in the organization, we had [have] limited choices of who can be our friends.

  oftentimes, we had [have] to deal with many people we did [do] not like and pretend to be their friends.

  of course, we also had [have] to deal with people who carry a lot of baggage and it was difficult.

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  Kay,

  Thankyou for such an insightful post. I have personally had seasonal, people- spring-cleaning sessions, so I understand exactly what you mean.
  This sounds awful, but hell, it's necessary. I just drift away quietly without hurting feelings.

  Ana
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  What should he do? Can you help?

  by Billygoat in

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  this post is triggered by freepeace's post on alcoholic relationships.

  i'd like to share a story of a friend of mine with the hopes that you can provide some advice or insight.

  he knows i'm a part of this board and understands how much support/encouragement/advice i get here.

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  Andi,

  There has been so much great advice already that I feel I have little to add.
  However, Kammy is Kammy, and David is David. A marriage, relationship, engagement, partnership, whatever we may like to term it, does not one person make.
  Kammy and David are each individuals with individual weaknesses and strengths.
  Kammy is showing a definitive leaning towards an addictive personality and David is showing his total dislike of this personality type wrapped up in glossy paper as the woman he loves.

  David has a choice to "not" get any further involved with Kammy as Kammy also has the choice to be involved with smoking "pot".

  That is freedom of choice. Kammy has her choices and David has his.
  I totally agree a councilor would help, but I also question whether Kammy really wants a councilor to help her get off of the "pot".

  If David really dislikes Kammy's drug dependancy; tells her so and she still continues, he should leave. Otherwise he must ask himself if he is co-dependant on Kammy's behavior patterns to the degree that he would sacrifice his own belief systems.

  Just my 10 cents worth.

  Ana
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  What's Your New Years Resolution............

  by ladonna in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  no, i haven't told you mine because i need some ideas from you guys .

  giving up spending so much time on the forum????.

  nah!!!

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  ladonna

  Cello,

  Great!!! Nah....I don't fancy eating more fruit

  Errrrr Dave,

  How about you add "Paws" to your list???

  Ana

  edited to add the paws!
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  What's Your New Years Resolution............

  by ladonna in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  no, i haven't told you mine because i need some ideas from you guys .

  giving up spending so much time on the forum????.

  nah!!!

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  ladonna

  No, I haven't told you mine because I need some ideas from you guys !!!!!!

  So what is it? Giving up spending so much time on the forum????
  Nah!!!
  Ana...wishing all a happy new year.
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  Whats your favourite red wine plus describe its ..

  by Celtic in

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  palette?

  fruity, berries, elegant, rich etc etc.

  whos got the best red wine in the world?.

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  ladonna

  Sorry Celt,
  I'm white all the way.

  Give me a good Semillon Blanc...MMMmmmmmmmmm.

  Ana ...hick
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  To: Ex-JW Women - Your Side

  by Amazing in

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  ex-jw women: i, and i assume other ex-jw men, would enjoy hearing your views, opinions, feelings, analysis, and conclusions about your jw experience.

  how did you feel about your husband, fathers, brothers, elders, ms's, and other women in the organizations?

  did you generally feel oppression, and why?

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  I am really surprised at how much we all have in common with each other. The feelings expressed by all so far have each mirrored the other in feelings of opression.

  I left the borg rather young, but a while before I did, at age 15 I was brought before the elders on a false charge of fornication.
  I was supposed to tell them "the story". There were 5 men present. No women. They asked questions that were extremely intimate in nature and all I could feel was sheer fear of these men.

  Eventually I was believed but that led to a horror story of it's own that I seldom thinks of.
  I felt so insignificant at that meeting; so opressed; helpless.
  In fact, I think back and nearly all the males in authority actually scared me.

  Later as an adult, I look at my family (prior to my shunning) and see my mother as a trodden down woman with little say in the life she chooses to lead. I have questioned her on women not being useful for anything in the WTBTS and have received answers such as "The bible says that the man is the head of the house so that applies in the congregation as well".

  I give up.......I could go on and on, but the rest of the ladies have summed up my feelings as well or better than I could.
  Thanks to all others who have shared.....great thread.

  Ana
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  open marriages, anyone have experience?

  by Pierced Angel in

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  well, my husband found out about my affair (yes, i gave in to the temptation with the soccer player and while it was fantastic, it's over now) and it's been a devestating time, we almost got divorced, but we're working through it.

  i knew telling friends and this board wasn't going to help me fight his romantic advances, but i tried.

  it was a one time thing that would have continued, but i wasn't too careful about the clues (guilty conscience i think).

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  Veggie,

  Comf is right!!!!! The bible did set the standards.
  Sheesh, I'd hate to have been one of Lot's daughters. Ughhhhhh....

  Ana
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  Post below to USA & Canada, Australia etc too

  by Celtic in

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  see post below

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  ERrrrrrr Celt,

  Where is the post????

  Ana