F_A, I'll try to put it in a nutshell. I have a tendency to be verbose. :)
We moved in w/ my parents to help them out. I was under the impression that they needed help around the house (some, not as much as they indicated, however) and we figured living near other JWs would be beneficial to all of us, spiritually speaking. I was under a lot of stress trying to maintain our household and trying to maintain my parents' (not because they expected it, but because I was trying to please everyone and they were allowing it to go on) and ended up having a mental breakdown. Over the next several months meeting attendance dropped off dramatically. We'd not been in service more than 2-3 times in about 2 years by that point. We never had support, nobody ever offered to take the older kids, nobody ever worked with us. We just got sick of working a whole street by ourselves and dragging 3 kids to every door. That's just unreasonable.
Anyway, we consider the memorial of 2011 as our last meeting as a family, even though I went one last time when my dad was announced as disfellowshipped. We moved out of my parents house (and across the country) in July 2011. We haven't been to a meeting in our new city at all.
How we got to that point took a very long time. I'd been questioning since my daughter's birth in 2001, but we kept going. In 2005 we were fading but had spurts of doing "better" spiritually and then in 2007 or 08 my brother & his wife just left abruptly and having talked w/ them both, though more specifically my sis in law, I KNEW we would follow suit at some point. Shortly before my brother left, my aunt also left, but she didn't share that with me right away. We all know the standards, and I don't blame her for keeping quiet about it at first.
After the advent of the study edition of the WT (I thought, What are they trying to hide from the public??), the drop in Awake mags (why drop one? is this a sign of the org failing?), ending the bookstudy (fam worship night? yeah right! who does that?! And removing the ONLY meeting we were even regular-ish at that we'd also been taught forEVER that it would be our only tie to the cong since the Big A is just around the corner?), and then the new song book (GAG! Need I say more?!), I REALLY began to question the validity of the org. Why all these changes in quick succession??
Oh, another change that I thought was bizarre was the blood fractions. We can take parts, but not whole?? What???
Currently, only my mother & my in laws (3 people) are still in. I suspect my husband's brother is on the fringe, but he hasn't really come out about it.
So anyway, Baltar447 and I made it out as a family and I'm so glad. He struggled a bit with holidays this year, but I pushed it. I really wanted to do them and I felt like celebrating holidays would be a way of ripping off the bandaid, so to speak.
If you're interested in more detail, I have several posts up on my blog already. This is the first one.