Posts by LovesDubs

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Discussion with The Elders

by BluesBrother in

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i spent a couple of hours yesterday going over things with a couple of elders, which was decent of them to give me a saturday afternoon.

they wanted to refer to the watchtower article to find points of agreement and common gound.

there were some of course since i still believe in god, creation and the bible (at least any doubts i had i was not ready to share at this time).

There was an elder and his wife whom I was as close to as blood relatives. Named my kids after them in fact. After I disassociated 7 years ago, they both became as wolves to me, turning on me in an astonishingly fierce way...and I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. Last year these people who have always been tight with my kids, and whom I have never kept from them, sent presents to the kids the last week in November. We already had our Xmas tree up and the kids decided to put the presents under the tree because it looked so bare. So...a week later this elder calls. Starts in right away with the "elder tone of voice" we all are familiar with...working me. He's like "What did you do with the presents D?" "Did you put the presents under the tree D?" " You know we dont celebrate Xmas D"...kept on and on like that using my name in this condescending shaming voice like he was talking to a little kid. Hes like "You never DID believe what we believe! You never WERE a Jehovahs Witness! You never STOPPED believing in pagan holidays! You dont even BELIEVE in God DOOOOOO you D?" on and on..I finally said...Look if you have something to say, say it to the kids because Ive had enough of this crap from you. I wrote them both a letter and told them in NO uncertain terms that what I believe is NONE OF THEIR DAMN BUSINESS nor was it any of their damn business when I WAS a JW and if they ever EVER express their "opinions" about me like he just did...again..to ANYONE...I will cut them off from my children like a gangrenous toe...and to make NO mistake about it...and that he and his Elder Voice could KISS MY ASS!

It felt SOOO GOOD. They have NO POWER OVER US

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My boy's football pic

by WildTurkey in

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LovesDubs

Looks like a football player dad :) Chip off the ol block! I bet hes good at it too!

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What's wrong with us in South Florida?

by Trotafox in

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i live in broward county, florida...unfortunate harborer of mohammed atta and other terrorists.. next door is (drum roll please)...palm beach county...home of the "we don't know how to vote" crowd.. also next door to (drum roll please)....miami/dade county....the "hanging chad" county.

and i work next door to the country's largest petroleum tank farm (port everglades...which also houses florida power and light company.).

and now, lo and behold, we are in the news again.

LovesDubs

"Were you at A Street or Melalucca? Do we know each other? I went to Boynton , then Lake Worth West and was with the Lantana group (using the Boynton hall).

Clue-- i lived on that witness street in Lantana: New World Ave, near the Fla state Hospital-Prison"

Ive only been down here since April of 99 :) Was DE-dubbed by that time so didnt have the pleasure of doing the halls here. I live near the hall by Lantana and Jog. You can hit it with a rock from my house....which I have done several times :) Is the Hospital Prison building that big salmon pink one just east of 95? They have several nice ball fields there now which I came to LIVE at with my kids all playing soft/base/coaches pitch ball.

Yeah its growing fast around here, but my husband is a home inspector so its a steady stream of work for him :) And my kids schools are all "A" class here, which is about "C" where I came from in Illinois, but what can ya do?

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What's wrong with us in South Florida?

by Trotafox in

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i live in broward county, florida...unfortunate harborer of mohammed atta and other terrorists.. next door is (drum roll please)...palm beach county...home of the "we don't know how to vote" crowd.. also next door to (drum roll please)....miami/dade county....the "hanging chad" county.

and i work next door to the country's largest petroleum tank farm (port everglades...which also houses florida power and light company.).

and now, lo and behold, we are in the news again.

LovesDubs

Hey Trot....waving from Lake Worth ~~~~~ FloriDUH

Im not as free to ROAM the swamps down here as kidless Ms. Venice is (LOL) but it would be fun to do lunch with "boat-a-yooz" some time :) I have a 14 year old son who is itching to learn to drive and all I keep telling the kid is DEfense!!DEfense!!DEfense!! I dont care HOW good YOUR driving is...you live in this state and the senior citizens will kill you in the Publix pedestrian crossing sure as yer Nike's hit the pavement!

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thank all of you for your help

by sister grace in

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this is my first time posting.

i have been reading all the post for about 6 months.

i now have gotten up enough nerve to post.

LovesDubs

Welcome Grace! (You too SPAZ :) Let us hear your story!

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I'm now an uncle!!

by Trauma_Hound in

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david alexander gomez .

born september 13th 2002, at 8:47am .

7.12 lbs .

LovesDubs

I say we get a DNA test to see if you are REALLY the uncle of this baby LOL! And next week you can go on Jerry Springer ROFL!

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We visited the assembly hall today!

by Golden Girl in

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continued from my post about hubby having cancer.

we talked to the dr that is going to install his porta vein for the chemo he is going to get.he mentioned special papers he will have to sign because of the "no blood".

well hubby freaked out.

LovesDubs

Hey Golden....so much DRAMA these people put us through dont they? Cripes. Perhaps you should talk to him about God reading and knowing hearts and how He hates hypocrisy. Would your being next to him at the hall being hypocritical in front of God get you into paradise from a JW point of view? Uh...no. The ONLY way that you could "be with him in Paradise" would be for you to totally be reinstated. He doesnt really think you could fool the elders into allowing that seeing as you have been out for what...27 years now? He should have thought about all this BEFORE getting this disease. It isnt fair for him to now put the onus on YOU to behave the way HE wants you to, laying all this guilt on you. Make sure he doesnt subsequently assign all his assets at death to the SOCIETY my friend. Make SURE you have a will that says that you are his beneficiary. My friend I was telling you about found out that her husband had left tens of thousands of dollars to the Society! She fought it in court. But he did that to be spiteful. They pressure these sick ones to hand over their "worldly goods" and they dont consult YOU about it so watch this carefully.

Yes..you can go to the hall with him. If that gives him joy, its a small price to pay for the time he has left. But bring a good novel. If this treatment his mother is suggesting doesnt work, and it wont, he is going to blame its not working on YOU. Thats how the game is played. "if only my wife had returned to jehovah then I would have been happy and this would have worked!" There was a man in our hall whose wife was a nonJW. As she was dying of face cancer, she repeatedly lambasted him for making her disease worse because he was a JW. He was hoping she would die before armageddon so she would be in the new system and so didnt concern himself with her at all towards the end. He just walked around "waiting on Jehovah". His actions made even ME furious and I was a JW at that time. He remarried a JW within months of her death. They are just WACKED. Hubby needs to concentrate on living and prolonging his own life and stop trying to live yours. He loves you...and you love him, but he must know he cant WILL you back into the society or GUILT you back there.

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CAUSES and EFFECTS OF APOSTASY

by Deli King in

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are you profoundly shocked and unduly disturbed when you see or hear of a dub you know yielding to doubts, cooling off and perhaps even becoming rebellious to the point of deserting the christian congregation and trying to draw others away with him?

according to wt jargon: .

the word

LovesDubs

"4). Most importantly, HAVE YOU STAINED YOUR INNER GARMENT? HOW? (LOL!!!)

JUST WONDERING?"

So they will know we are apostates by our skid marks? LOL!

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Do bad things happen because you leave the JW's

by mamashel in

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could someone please help me with some suggestions!!

my family has been out for about 4 1/2 months now.

we have been inactive for a few years off and on.

LovesDubs

First of all...Mr. HolierThanThou dude who couldnt KEEP IT IN HIS PANTS doesnt believe for one NANNOSECOND that this is the truth or he wouldnt have been boffing your daughter. So he can forget being credible on that count right off. Its unfortunate that she is pregnant but hey...her leaving the hall didnt get her pregnant and she is scared now because she KNOWS how judgemental those idiots can be there, especially the nosey elders wives. Since this guy is from another congregation, she has to face her own congregations staring hurtful eyes alone, and THATS what she is afraid of. She knows Satan didnt do this.

Id discourage boy friend from coming around AT ALL if possible. Nose his face out of the picture altogether and protect your grandchild from the JWs when she's born. She will see soon enough how the "friends" treat her and that will prove your point.

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In love and confused

by Ardilla in

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hey everybody!.

i wrote shortly before about this, and some of you gave me advices, which i really appreciated.

for one year he just flirted me like a child.

LovesDubs

Hi Ard :) You said yourself you didnt have much experience with men as a JW, and now that you are out, your body and your mind are sowing all those wild oats you have had cooped up in you all these years. And...they are aiming at the first thing that paid attention to you it sounds like. Hes a player honey. You know what a player is? He doesnt want to actually buy the merchandise, he just wants to PLAY with it to his own satisfaction and then put it back on the shelf. What he has done is show you that guys do find you attractive and you dont have to settle for some clown who is going to continue to cheat not only on his wife but YOU TOO and on the next little victim he flirts with. He isnt going to leave his wife. I know several guys like this...was the mistress of a married man for a few years myself 20 years ago. I had no aspirations of him leaving her and marrying me but it fulfilled something in me at that time in my life. Once I got past him, as you have to get past this guy, I was able to view life around me and I found a wonderful husband. (Hes a Jw but I can forgive him that flaw :)

Give yourself some credit girl, and go out there in the bright shiny world and find a fella. There are lots of singles groups and things you can do. Forget this loser. Sleep with him in your dreams if you must, but dont forget to throw Brad Pitt in there for good measure once in awhile for comparison :)