Posts by LovesDubs

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A Major Dream Has Been Fulfilled!!!!!

by XJW4EVR in

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it has always been a dream of mine to transfer to, and graduate from the university of southern california.

last year i applied, and about two weeks ago i was accepted.

that was cool, but i had no way of paying for it, and the financial aid i applied for would not cover enough of the tuition, and other fees.

LovesDubs

That is sooooo cool!! I love hearing that somebody's LUCK has changed and something GOOD happened to them!

Never stop learning :) I hope this leads to even BIGGER and BETTER things!!

hugs, LD

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Is Jehovah a chick-magnet?

by PopeOfEruke in

growing up in a divided household, i remember wondering about my jw mother and how she would dress up to the 9's when going to the meetings.

nice dress, makeup, hair done, perfume.. it would drive my non-jw father crazy and i swear that dad was jealous of jehovah.. i also personally felt that mum was dressing up almost as if for a "date".

it was somehow weird, almost sexual.. was my mum dressing up for jehovah?

Look at the guys vs women ration in the JWs. The women FAR outnumber the guys in there. I used to dress waaay up when I was a single JW. No doubt about it. To make the brothers cry and piss off the sisters. After I got married, flats and 3/4 length dresses and baby bags and infant puke on my shoulder were all the rage.

As for Jehoover..he just laughs at all of us. Including that brother who has been wearing the same tie every week since 1977.

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Doofy/Creative Upcoming convention titles

by Threestars in

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c'mon--let me see some creativity here.

i've been out of the loop for a while so help me get started.... for instance: "blind leading the blind" district convention!.

LovesDubs

Who is this JESUS?? And Why is He Horning In On My Homies?? Sayeth Jehoover

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Doofy/Creative Upcoming convention titles

by Threestars in

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c'mon--let me see some creativity here.

i've been out of the loop for a while so help me get started.... for instance: "blind leading the blind" district convention!.

LovesDubs

Paying Jehovah Back With Your Good Shit (Subtitled : "Hey, we got you out of work on Friday didnt we? You ingrate!" )

Afternoon Delight starring Jehoover and His Minions

Getting off Your Ass In This Time of the End

Stay alive til 2075!

Paradasaical Bling and Other Good Shit Awaits You!

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Ok here is my problem.........

by fifi40 in

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i just read some of the thread about keeping our kids away from jws and their teachings.......this is my situation and any helpful advice would be appreciated.......... i have a 14 year old son.

his father and i have not been together since 1999, when i was disfellowshipped.

we now share custody.

LovesDubs

Im firmly of the opinion that if you dont start having conversations with him right now that you will lose him. And since you guys basically "brought him up" as a JW you know his exposure to other ideals and thoughts on religions are slim to none and so his view of it is entirely one sided. He will get baptized and he will have to shun you mom. You cant just sit there and try to avoid hurting somebody's feelings. This isnt about DAD. This isnt dissing DAD. Dad has a right to follow whatever religion he chooses but the key word is CHOICE and nobody can make a life altering decision like being baptized without knowing what the options are and FULLY understanding exactly what he will be committing himself to and the DANGERS of doing so.

You are his mom first and foremost. It's your job to protect him. You know more about this religion he is affiliated with than he does. Dont you think that if he got baptized and then found this stuff out later himself and wanted then to leave or got disfellowshipped that he would say Mom you knew this all the time and DIDNT TELL ME?

Just keep emphasizing that this isnt about Dad. Its because you love him and dont want to lose him and that is where he is headed with the JWs. Emphasize too that NOW is the time that he should be doing his research before they can keep him from doing so. He is in the ripe age where they are Im already sure, pressuring him to get baptized and dont think for a minute that that isnt what Dad wants him to do.

Dont let the shoulda woulda couldas eat you alive in a couple years because you pussy footed around this. Dont end up like the mourning moms on this board who are dying inside because they have lost their babies to the borg honey.

hugs, LD

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You'll NEVER guess who just called me!!!!!!!!!

by FreedomFrog in

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my mom!!!

she and the rest of my family have been shunning me since dec. 24 of last year.

she told me at that time to never call her because of my new "religious" lifestyle.

LovesDubs

I love the way that conversation went. Love is winning in her heart. I sure hope she continues to let it and doesnt let the Borg pressure her into shunning you. Im sure she felt great relief that she reached out to you and instead of meeting her with accusations, you reached back!

oooh...warm fuzzies of hope!
LD

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Mormon program on PBS

by LovesDubs in

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i watched this program...it was amazing.

you will be astounded how similar this organization is to the jws if you have not already come to that conclusion.

you can watch the whole program online.

LovesDubs

I was making "god that sounds familiar" and "thats EXACTLY what the JWs do" as I watched it with my JW husband. I was astounded that he sat through 4 hours of that! I thought it was trying to be "kind" to the whole concept of being Mormons and their basically good intentions, and I thought it also exposed stuff theyd rather not talk about like the slaughter of all those people on the Meadow by Mormons. That broadsided me...that I thought they were anti violent like the JWs and yet didnt hesitate to bear arms and not only be DEFENSIVE but OFFENSIVE in protection of their faith. They showed how awful being on those missions can be...and some come back disenchanted and some come back solid in the faith. I loved loved loved that that woman who was writing about the LDS Church who was called into her Mormon version of the JC...with that SINGULAR chair in the middle of all those men...(at which point I said "thats EXACTLY how the JWs do it") and she said that the "kindness they were extending her hurt more because she knew the kindness was covering up the VIOLENCE of their excommunicating her."

God...how accurate is THAT to all of us?

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Mormon program on PBS

by LovesDubs in

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i watched this program...it was amazing.

you will be astounded how similar this organization is to the jws if you have not already come to that conclusion.

you can watch the whole program online.

LovesDubs

I watched this program...it was amazing. You will be ASTOUNDED how similar this organization is to the JWs if you have not already come to that conclusion. You can watch the whole program online. I watched it WITH MY HUSBAND for the last two nights! In light of my brother and his family having become mormons...I wanted to bone up on what I THOUGHT I knew about them...i learned a lot more! I highly recommend it.

Loves FRONTLINE + American Experience: Mormons | PBS

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I went to a JW "memorial" (funeral) talk on Saturday

by cruzanheart in

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just when i think that i will never set foot in a kingdom hall again, the father of a dear friend of mine died.

now, this friend and her husband stood firmly by our side during the hubbub surrounding my dad's suicide and the funeral we decided on (no kh, no elders, no half hour infomercial), and she was having problems with her own family, so i decided to go to his funeral talk as support for her.. nothing dramatic happened, really, but it was a good reality check.

jennie, our 13-year-old daughter, went with me and almost fell asleep from boredom and the fact that the elders were too cheap to turn the ac down to a comfortable temperature on a warm texas saturday afternoon.

LovesDubs

Mimi..you said "firmly determined" and immediately in my head I started singing "FIRM and DETERmined in this time of the ennnnnndddddd..." LOL! God just shoot me.

Anyway... Im happy that you went to the funeral and werent afraid of whether or not they would accept you. Its a blessing in disguise that they were so cold in fact for your daughters sake. I bet if you were still attending meetings someplace that sistah would have been all over wanting to know what happened to your dad :)

Hypocrites....the emperor still isnt aware that he has no clothes on.

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I'm Really Depressed

by onlycurious in

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my oldest daughter is a tough one.

she is a real sweetie with everyone else but a real kick in the pants at home.

geez, sometimes she knows exactly what buttons to push.

LovesDubs

Ok stick your right index finger into your mouth. Now...bite down. HARD. Did it HURT? Well of course it did honey because you're HUMAN. God I cant tell you how many times Ive lost it with my kids and said stuff and did stuff I regret and for years afterwards thinking about it still makes my stomach knot up. But the kids dont feel the pain that we think we inflicted on them. We do because we love the little buggers and are always trying to protect them from abuse so when we do it ourselves...well its just inexcusable and unforgiveable. To us anyway. You said you were sorry...dont beat yourself up about it. Teenagers are put on the planet to push the envelope and test our metal. No doubt about it. I have an 18 year old boy an almost 16 year old girl (add PMS) and a 12 year old boy and my mind as this board knows...is turning to MUSH with all the pressure that ensues. But on the other hand, kids have to learn somehow what the boundaries are and if they are pushing you to saying and doing things you ordinarily wouldnt then a point has to be made that they are out of line. If you poke a bear and poke a bear and poke a bear and he turns around and rips you up you cant be pissed off at the bear.

She might not think so but perhaps your telling her Fuck YOU! struck a cord somewhere deep down and she will remember that she was biting the hand that feeds her and think twice about it before doing it again. She will remember how she acted towards you when she is confronted with seeing herself in her OWN kids. That...is the sweetest revenge :)