Posts by LyinEyes

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Lookin' for a little advice tonight...

by wasasister in

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i heard from an old friend today - she is a young woman i knew from my last congregation.

i was asked to attend her bible study because we shared a profession and it was thought we would have something in common.

in fact, she was a very shy young woman shy and attractive, but not in the traditional, flashy way of many witness girls.

LyinEyes

I have often wondered about a certain young brother who is literally throwing his life away in the congregation we were in . He has so much ahead of him, or at least he could have, the elders have told him to basically stop his education and pioneer.

I have wanted so bad to let him know what I know about JW now. But for reasons of my own at this point I dont want to get the elders on my family, this mainly involves issues with my husbands work.

I have thought of putting somethings in writing, the old fashioned kind of writing, pen, paper and a stamp. Maybe you could put the web addy of SilentLambs on a piece of paper and mailing it to her.

You could type a concerned and loving Friend, and leave it at that . In my case I am thinking of next time I go to town, mailing it out of the little town I live in, that way , LOL it cant directly be traced to me.

I know alot of folks would say, you should just speak up and go directly to her. But honestly, she may not be ready to even consider anything "apostate" , since she is such fear of Jehovah God right now. But if she has the addy , she may turn to it , after waiting a few days or even weeks.

Since she is not living with the abusive mate anymore and her child is safe, waiting for her to respond on her own might be a good thing for her. You could check back with her and see how she is .

Might not be the best solution , but could be a first step in you helping your friend. It is sad we have to still be in fear of the harm they can do to us. There are so many things I want to tell certain ones face to face , but right now is not the time. Like I said, our livelihoood depends on a good relationship with many brothers in good standing. But it will happen , it will all come out in the wash, so to speak for us, and we will deal with it then. We have only be out a year and are still recovering from it all. It is ok to take small steps at first.

But as some have mentioned, if you feel she is in a bad mental state, please encourage her to see a doctor, even take her if you can. Her life may depend on it. Only you know her and it is your judgement call. I wish her peace, poor lady,, i suffered from guilt so long... I hope she can see the light someday.

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First Mammogram

by WildTurkey in

many women are afraid of their first mammogram, but theres no need to worry.

by taking a few minutes each day for a week preceding the exam, and doing the following practice exercises, you will be totally prepared.

and you can do this right in your own home!

LyinEyes

Ok I NEVER want to have that done now!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wild Turkey, arent you coming upon the age for a prostrate check????HUMMMMM

Let me give you a few tips on how to prepare for that, you know to toughen you up........................................................... well, I will just show you.

Why are you looking so nervous??? Practice what you Preach Brother Turkey.

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HOW DO YOU ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM?

by bay64me in

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question for ex jws.......what do you really enjoy doing, now that you have the freedom to do it?

LyinEyes

Good question!!!!!!!!!!!! :) LOL Outlaw ,, I agree......

I love the freedom from guilt, that is the best thing.

I love the freedom of not having to go to the meetings and field service and other endless forms of sacred service.

I love the freedom to not care what others think about me .

I am not d/f or d/a ,,,, YET!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can only imagine that there will be even greater freedom once that takes place. I am sure it will sooner or later, but not a big concern to me now.

I love the freedom to think on my own, even if it is totally wacked......... it is my mind and I have a right to be there!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTBS holds no mind control over me anymore, but I am still picking up the pieces in my recovery. But it is nice to have the freedom and the TIME that I need to do it, my own way.

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Our Hangout

by WildTurkey in

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LyinEyes

Please excuse my wild apperance, I had been dancing for 4 hours. The guy in the red shirt, is not Wild Turkey, that is one of the bouncers. He looks like he has been drinking alittle too , huh? This is Wild Turkey...........

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What was your dream?

by ashitaka in

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did being a witness hurt, hamper, or help your dreams?

did you want to be a dancer?

an actor?

LyinEyes

Being raised a JW, you were supposed to DREAM of being a pioneer , if you were a girl. If you were a young boy, you at least got to dream of greener pastures... Bethel. In high school, I was taken under the wing of my art teacher, she thought I had talent, and even a flare for commercial art. She encourage me to reach out for this and she would help me to do so. I will never forget the well planned out speech I gave her on devoting my life in the field service, blah blah blah. All the while I was saying this I had to fight the lump in my throat and the pain in my heart. I was also involved in Journalism and took pictures for the school paper. I had to stop that because the football games which I was to cover, took place on meeting nights. Oh well, another dreams smashed. Later I got involved in a local horse back riding club. We did rodeos and I was a very good barrel racer.I started to win ribbons , jackpots and trophies. I was even the queen of the riding club for a little while... Yeah you guessed it ,, another dream smashed , crushed along with my heart and I just stopped trying after all of that. Thanks to the C.O. , that came around just to take the life out of us, he told my Dad that we could be using that time to futher our field ministry. I hated that idiot. Like I said , I gave up on trying to dream of being anything I wanted to be anymore. I just did what I was told, this continued for my husband and me for the last 17 years. If we dared to venture out to try something new , it was quickly extenquished, like a burning fire. BTW he wanted to be a fireman, and was at the top of the list to start training. But somehow he ended up pioneering. My heart breaks for him , for myself, for all those who had a dream and had it snatched away. How cruel. Now I am telling my kids they can be anything , ANYTHING , their hearts desire.

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Could God and Satan be the same in power?

by LyinEyes in

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please bear with me , i have never known any thing other than what the jw have taught me all of my life.

so all these ideas, theories come and go , and many times , they are just plain stupid.

my mind goes way off into left field never to return , which is probably a blessing.

LyinEyes

Please bear with me , I have never known any thing other than what the JW have taught me all of my life. So all these ideas, theories come and go , and many times , they are just plain stupid. My mind goes way off into left field never to return , which is probably a blessing. But I was wondering , is it possible that Satan , (if there is a Satan) is more powerful than what the Bible tells us. Right now I am doubting the Bible as being truly inspired of God. So I am wondering if , the Bible writers have the whole universal controversary issue completely wrong. Maybe there is more to it than the Bible tells us. I mean it might explain why Satan has been allowed to continue on in his missions. I know the Bible says he was thrown out of heaven and all, but how can you truly beleive that to be 100% true. Any thoughts on who you may think Satan really is, was and what power you think he may have. I know someone said to me that at one time Satan was just as powerful as Jesus at one time. What do you think?

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What do you listen to?

by terafera in

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what song do you put on when you're sad?

is there a certain song that never fails to tear you up and why?.

what do you listen to when you're in a good mood?

LyinEyes

I just remember someone speaking of you playing the piano , Farkel. I would love to listen to you.

I love , I love, to hear an artist play live music. I would probably fall on the floor , holding a pillow tightly, crying ever so softly , ( hope you would have some kleenex) that piece of music does it to me ever time. Learning to play the piano was one of the things I wanted to accomplish in the "new world". Well poo, guess I will just have to learn myself, cant wait on God to help my untalented self now. Lets see, if I start now, I am 35, by the time I am 100 I should be able to play Mary had a little lamb. That is if I am still alive, and not riddled with arthritis.

It must be a wonderful feeling to be able to express yourself thru the piano or the musical instrument of your choice. It just seems like it would take you to another dimension, and give you such a feeling of power . I hope someday Farkel, hubby (wild turkey) and I can hear you play.

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What do you listen to?

by terafera in

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what song do you put on when you're sad?

is there a certain song that never fails to tear you up and why?.

what do you listen to when you're in a good mood?

LyinEyes

The Rhapsody that Farkel spoke of is the MOST beautiful piece of music I have ever heard.

I also love the soundtrack to the movie, "Somewhere in Time", composed by John Berry I beleive.

Makes me think , if there is a heaven, that music would be playing there. Simply beautiful, take your breath away stunning music, it touches your heart and soul. You should go out and buy the soundtrack , it is like a tonic to ease your soul , I use it to go into a peaceful place , right before I go to sleep sometimes.

And Coon,,,,, ditto on all you said too. Merle Haggard is one of my favorites. The Tim McGraw song, Remember me , I think is the name, That one tears me up , the video to it also. And the other one he sings, about , She cant be really gone ? Love it.

Wow I go from the Dixie Chicks to the Rhapsody,,,, ( yeah the Dixie Chicks have a few heartbreaker songs too LOL) .... as my kid would say.. "It's all good!!!!"

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