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Eating Disorders and the JWs

by the_raisin in

hey everybody!

so i was wondering something... am i the only who realized that eds ran rampant throughout the witnesses?

i remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies.

saltyoldlady- whoa!!! Your daughter does indeed sound like a Superwoman! That's nice though, that she wants to adopt. And good, I thought I may be imagining things for a while there. But I'm glad to hear she's not a slave to this horrible disorder :)

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Eating Disorders and the JWs

by the_raisin in

hey everybody!

so i was wondering something... am i the only who realized that eds ran rampant throughout the witnesses?

i remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies.

the_raisin

Hey everybody! So I was wondering something... am I the only who realized that EDs ran rampant throughout the Witnesses? I remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies. I know I was guilty of this (trying to fit in was definitely my lowest point).

So where do EDs fit in? Well, I'm not blaming the society entirely, but it defenitely was a catalyst for my anorexia and bulimia. Seeing all those super thin sisters really did me in when I realized I was too 'buxom' to completely fit in (my 'buddies' were all insect-thin... and I hardly ever saw them take a second helping of chicken like I did while at parties and gatherings :p). I'm still dealing with it... at my lowest weight, I could hardly function(and realizing that the red goopy stuff in the bowl is blood... shudder... and sad thing is, this was when I was out of the organization. The scars and comments many people made still hurt to this day, and I still battle it out with myself.

I know of two other young women, and one male, who did in fact suffer from EDs, even if they denied denied denied. Hearing them through the thin bathroom walls was no picnic. And no, I didn't snitch on them... I didn't want to be snitched on either.

So yeah, was it just a problem related to my community, or is this something widespread? I wonder, because as we all are aware, any sense of identity is stripped away from you, so maybe weight is something that they can control?

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The meetings used to make me physically sick.

by FifthOfNovember in

jw
friends

it's 9:10 sunday morning.

i'm dressed already, and just finished rushing through my watchtower a few seconds ago.

now i need to wait for my ride to pick me up (i couldn't drive yet).

the_raisin

Well, as a child it used to happen before going to school :p/

I was quite familiar with the feeling by the time it came around when I began dreading meetings :(.

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it really WAS good friday!

by chickpea in

jw
friends

i am one final exam away from my aas in cam.

with a guaranteed spot in the therapeutic .

massage course next fall, required in this .

the_raisin

oooh congrats!!!! :D happy friday indeed!

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Cruel Hearted People

by EXMS in

i can't believe how people in the "organization" can be so cold hearted.. .

last october, i got an invitation to a friends wedding where i grew up in portland, oregon.

i now live in san diego, california.

the_raisin

I feel for you. Pretty sure all people who have left the 'truth' receive this cruel treatment. I don't have a satisfying answer, just my guess: they like to feel superior. I know I did when I was in, the feeling of 'power' through the 'knowledge' that only we were bestowed upon was a high like no other. Obviously, these petty people don't deserve any of your time. You sound like an awesome person, someone who doesn't deserve this treatment.

Wanted to say also that, like you pointed out in your story, their incredulous faces make it worth going to some events they host. When they realize that one is not disease-ridden or a drug addict, or a total homeless drug-addict, STD-carrying, hateful, jealous-of-them person, their faces show it, and their actions turn quite ugly.

I wish you the best. Again, people like this? They don't deserve you.

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Hi I'm new.

by sweetmochasista in

hello all.

i'm not really new i registered about three years ago but never had the guts to post.

i'm still in but want to be out..

the_raisin

Hi! Nice to hear from you! And jamiebowers is right, don't let that bully take control over you! You have our support and good thoughts :) be strong!

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What is the best thing to say to a JW

by I quit! in

jw
friends

i you run into a jw on the street handing out magazines and have a brief encounter with them what do you think the one best thing to leave them with in the hope of getting them to start thinking for themself.

do you think it is best to tell them about a website?

a false prophecy or what?.

the_raisin

Well, when I used to preach, I dreaded conversations because I was always afraid someone might tell me to f off :p

So, if any of them actually gather the courage to talk to me, I'd be polite. I wouldn't accept anything, but still, being nice don't kill me.... right?

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Any Mexicans on this board?

by Bucholz in

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friends

hello guys, i've been a lurker for quite some time and am a little curious to know if there are any people from mexico regurarly posting on this board..

the_raisin

My old congregations were full of us!!! My dad is Mexican, mom Cuban, but yeah, I definitely consider myself more Mexican (I was living in Mexico for two years as a nine year old with my grandma :p cows!).

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Need awesome suggestions!

by the_raisin in

jw
friends

for the last four days, every morning i take donut out for her walk, i always find jw's preaching door to door across the street.

i always cross to them, and wait with dread at what i think is inevitable: they will try to preach to me.. but it never happens.

four days, seen three diifferent groups, nothing.

the_raisin

the max- awwwwww

FifthOfNovemeber- Yes, I understand that. But there's a difference between 'ignoring' and flat out being mean. Trust me, I've dealt with snubbers, and this was snubbing. Looking at you and smirking or giggling AS they stare at you? Yeah, that's not ignoring me. Really rude, and disconcerting when it's coming from older women.

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In general, what is the ethically correct response if a minor tells you someone is molesting him/her?

by InterestedOne in

i was thinking about what the elders are trained to do versus what i personally would do if a minor confided in me that someone was molesting him/her.

i'm not sure what the ethically correct first response should be.

my first thought is to contact some kind of law enforcement that specializes in investigating situations like this with people experienced in getting to the truth of the matter.

the_raisin

Hi OP, I honestly would contact Child Services, or at the very least, the cops. This actually happened to my family.. the little girl my mom babysat was found to be molested (the little girl's mom claims this, not my mom), and for some really stupid reason, my sibling was thought to be guilty (even though my sibling rarely saw the kid due to school and was always locked in their room up in the second story anyway). There was a huge fallout between families, and the mom, stupid woman that she is, went to the Elders to get some 'justice' for her baby.

What ended up happening was the Elders questioned everybody involved in this situation, they never once contacted any authorities, they reached the conclusion that just because my sibling had openly said they disliked the little girl, that was not enough evidence (that and the fact that my sibling was around ten, and again, she RARELY was home.

I don't get the mom at all. There were other two other people she could've accused that WERE around the baby, that being myself and my brother(it was neither of us. My mom was actually worried about something like this happening, so she never left the baby out of her sight or alone with anybody that wasn't herself. And no, wasn't my mom, because as evil as I think she is, all of her kids were molested as babies. She went to therapy and for a long time, researched this subject. Ironic that it happened yet again and one of her own was accused of it.))Turns out, that after this whole fiasco that affected my sibling deepling and to this day has scarred them emotionally (to the point where my siblings HATES children, never wnats to be around them, doesn't even want to pick their niece), the stepfather might've done it. Might've, because the stupid mom didn't want the authorities involved, so there was no way of phsysically proving it was him (though it was suspected all along). My mom updated me on this situation, and the mom left the stepfather. But that family still resents us, probably because it opened a whole can of worms that they wanted to ignore.

And yes, the stepdad was a JW, baptized, a regular publisher, and was sustaining the mom and her other kid from a failed marriage.

Again, no authorities were ever contacted, no therapy was provided for the abused child or their family. My sibling did get help, and so did my whole family. This thing that happened could've been avoided if there were better suggestions, instead of the whole 'let's not bring the cops into this because it makes the organization look bad'.

Assholes.

the_raisin

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