Had "the talk" when I was 11. But it wasn't as specific as it could have been. My dad told me what the male organ was, but only mentioned the female organ in a non specific way. I don't even think he used the word vagina. He just said the male organ fits naturally into the female genital area or something like that. A few years later, after hearing/seeing stuff in school, and health books, and putting 2+2 together, I was able to figure out that the a woman's belly button does NOT develop into her vagina. Believe it or not, that's the impression I had for a while.
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SEX SEX SEX SEX & MORE SEX
by Perfection Seeker inok, now that i have your attention................................... it seems like most of the witnesses i know, and who have posted here, say their parents kept them in the dark about sex.
do you agree?
my parents never discussed it at all- in fact- if they did- or saw a love scene on tv- my mom would always say "thats disgusting' (yeah, right mom) .
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jw marriages age differences
by invisible inof 3 that straightaway spring to mind:.
dg (m) 64 e (f) 27. bm (m) 49 d (f) 18. pl (m) 43 e (f) 18.
2 of the above were also 'arranged' marriages, do you know of any other instances of extremes in jw marriage age ranges?
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In the congregation I grew up in there was a couple where the wife was 20 years older than the husband. However, I had no idea till they both died within a week of each other. First the husband died. Then sadly the wife died. She was in the hospital when her husband died, and people say she just gave up when she heard the news. Anyway, I guess I missed the husband's funeral, but when I went to the wife's funeral, I read the obiturary and was a little surprised to see that she was 75 while her husband was only 55. And apparently those were accurate ages. People told me that the wife got some heat for "robbing the cradle" when they got married about 30 years before. I think she had been married before. Personally, I don't think age difference should matter either way as long as they both are mature and well aware of what they're getting into.
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THE "FORWARDER'S" 12 STEP PROGRAM
by revdrjohnson inthe "forwarder's" 12 step program - everyone say it with me .... .
i will not get bad luck, lose my friends, or lose my mailing.
lists if i don't forward an email!.
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<p>That's great. I think I'll remember to send that to the next person who forwards me a chain letter.</p><p>On second thought, maybe preemptive action would be good. I can send it to everyone in my address book. And tell them to send it to everyone in their address book. And tell them to do the same. If we keep sending it, then everyone in the world will know not to forward.</p> </div>
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Does anyone here workout on a regular basis?
by Leander ini just wanted to get a little dialog going with some of the members here who workout.
i know reborn works out quite a bit and i've been doing fairly well as of recently in getting back into a regular exercise regimine.
so far i've worked out everyday for the past 17 days, i usually try to do weight training at least 3-4 times a week and i usually do some cardio everyday.
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I started doing weight training 3 days a week about a month ago. I had been riding my bike to work (8 miles round trip) since May 2001 on days it wasn't raining and through the winter whenever the wind AND the cold didn't push me onto the bus. A month ago, I started increasing my bike riding. I had occasionally done 30 or 40 mile weekend rides, but started adding 13 mile extended rides on the way home, in order to get a cardio workout. Unfortunately my bike was stolen 2 weeks ago. And I wasn't motivated enough to use the cardio equipment in the gym/club to keep up. I just got a replacement last week. I'm going to get another for commuting and use the one I just got for exercise/recreation. I plan to do 15 miles 3 or 5 days of the week and 30 or 40 one day of the week probably the weekend. And of course I'd like to ramp that up. Yes I'm hooked to cycling. I'm getting a For Sale sign to stick in my car today. My goals: By the end of next summer, I hope to be able to do a century (100 mile bike ride). And be able to do a century at will on any weekend. There's a 36 mile mass group ride called BikeDC that I will participate go on this September. I'm also trying to knock off some weight or at least get rid of excess body fat. I weight about 220 now. I weighed about 180 when I got out of college 3 years ago. So I'd like to eventually get back to that or at least get rid of the extra fat in the stomach area and a few other places by the end of the year. If I put on muscle in the gym that might keep the weight up a little.
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Male and Female Friends
by StinkyPantz inmy husband and i have had sort of a disagreement of sorts.
he says that men cannot be friends with women.
he says that any man that appears to want to be friends with a woman really just wants to get in her pants, and if they end up friends it's purely by accident.
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I'm a man. I believe that it is possible for a man and a woman to be just friends. It is my opinion that it is rare that a man and woman can be best friends only, but I think it does happen. I also believe, like someone else said, that in some cases a man and a woman can be friends only and have sex and continue to be friends only. Some people can think of it as just sex between friends. Some people can't have sex without attaching many other complicated things to it. I think a man could be friends with a woman he is physically attracted to, but not pursue her sexually. Honestly, if I pursued every woman I was physically attracted to, I'd drive myself crazy. I see physically attractive women everytime I walk down the street or down the hall at work. Also I do think it can be a challenge to keep it at a friendly level. I know this may sound like something the JW's would say, but I think in general, that if a man and a woman spend a lot of time alone together in private places, there is the possibility that passions will be aroused. Whether that would ruin the friendship or some other significant other relationship, depends on the people. I don't have a lot of friends, but I do have some female friends. I enjoy the company of women more than that of men, as long as they don't demand that I talk as much as women, because I talk even less than most men. Admittedly that may have something to do with the attraction to women's physical or feminine qualities, however I can and do simply enjoy their company and conversation without any thought of taking it further. Maxwell
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Bicycling
by Undecided indo any of you like bicycling?
i just got back from a little ride around my part of town.
there is hardly any traffic since no roads go anywhere from this part of town, the residential part that is.
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I like bike riding. I've been riding for about a year myself as an adult. I'm 25, and I can ride about 40 miles comfortably in a day. One day I hope to be able to do the century. I live in the DC metro area where there's a lot of bikepaths and people on the roads are sorta used to seeing bikes. I ride the 4 miles one-way to work almost everyday.
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Lisa
It was as I expected. My wife called one of her friends who was at the meeting and she said they annouced it. I'll post details later in the personal experiences section. But basically I confessed adultery. I didn't commit adultery to get out of my marriage or to get out of the organization, however, it did bring other doubts to the front, and confessing gave me an easy way out and allows my wife scriptural grounds for divorce. I told the elders April 8 and on May 1, they annouced my disfellowship. The process took a little longer than I expected, but was relatively quick I think. So maybe May 1, 2002 should be a day I should write down and always remember.
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3 somes
by Leander inhopefully this topic is'nt to offensive for the people here.
but i've always been curious about it.
when i first graduated high school my first full time job was at a mailroom over at the northwestern memorial hospital in chicago.
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No, I've never been in a threesome.
Yes, I would like to try.
Don't have any particular people in mind, but I would like the other two to be women.
But, I might be open to being with a man and a woman as long as I don't have to interact with the man.Maxwell
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A big "thank you" to everyone here
by Simon inin the past i have sometimes felt like i have to be the 'bad guy', so to speak, because i need to lock or delete topics, deactivate people, try and stop fights and such like - basically, telling people off and not being 'nice'.. well, apart from the odd heated debate and harsh word (and disruptive 'visit') i have not really had a great deal to do for the past month or two and it has been very nice - a pleasure to serve.. so ... i thought i should say a 'thank you' instead of a "stop it!
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Let me add my thanks as well. This has definitely made leaving easier.
Maxwell
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Thoughts about Depression and Anxiety
by flower inthis is mostly directed to others that were born/raised in the cult.
more specifically those raised in the cult who also suffered from severe depression and/or social anxiety disorder or any other mental illness (other than the normal probs that come with being in the borg).
sometimes i wonder if its just me that doesnt feel like a person now.
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flower,
I was raised a JW. I've just left. Actually I expect that they will announce my DF tonight. But I've felt some of the exact same things. I felt like an outsider to the world and an outsider even in the congregation during my later teens and onward. I had a few good friends growing up, but they all faded out of my life. Not only do I feel like an outsider because of those circumstances, but I was shy and I was pretty much a nerd in high school and college. Still somewhat of a nerd, I guess . Like Matty said, we have to try and cultivate friends that will like us for who we are. Hopefully you have some resources for finding some people to get to know and make friends with. I'm in a big city, and although I may have some learning to go through with making true friends, I think I'll make it.
Fortunately, I do have a few hobbies and things that I like to do. Museums, bicycling, basektball, playing music are a few of them. If you don't know what you like, then maybe that's a good thing. You can be open to trying a lot of new stuff, which isn't a bad idea for anyone. You'll probably run into something that you like. And depending on what you try, maybe it'll be somewhere where you can meet some people. I go bicycling on the trails here and sometimes people will stop and talk at water fountain on the trail. Maybe I'll try to hook up with a bicycling club I've heard that people join a gym and they meet people there. If people ask my opinion on things I haven't done, I just say, I haven't done that before. Maybe they'll invite you to try it with them. If it doesn't scare you try it. On the other hand, if it does scare you, maybe you should still try it. Maybe one day I'll try snowboarding. I've never even seen a ski slope, but I'd try it if I had the right circumstances. Maybe I'll try ballroom dancing. I've never been a good dancer of any kind. But I'd try it.
I'm simply suggesting to be open to doing things you've never done before. You might find something you like, and you might meet some other people who like it too, who may develop into friends.
Maxwell