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  My 1st Unwitness

  by HappyGal in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i have seen the witnessing carts pop up around our city.

  there were no such carts when i left the jw's in the 1980's.

  since leaving the organization i have survived (and thrived) by: .

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  SafeAtHome

  Good job. Dropping just one news item would do more to get them to look something up, rather than arguing any doctrine or flip flops they have made. By the way, are you in the U.S.? There is a heat wave everywhere here and she left her kids in a van? Windows down or not, not a good idea!🌞
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  Elders harassing me

  by raven in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi everyone, it has been a while since i've last updated!

  (refer to my previous posts for the full story) here is a quick re-cap: 2 months ago my mother found out that i am living with my boyfriend, she told me i was discovered by an "anonymous" tipper who turned me in for "living in sin".. first of all, that is nearly impossible, the congregation i was in is 100's of miles away from where i currently live.. no one would have ever known i was living with my boyfriend unless i told them, which i never did, i cut off all communication with that congregation in part of my attempted fade which was blown into pieces and discovered.. anyways, my mom tells me if i don't go to the elders and confess like a good little sheep, then she is obligated to tell them.. ( don't see why, i don't even live under her roof ) well i never went to them because why should i?

  so they met with my mother and she told them i live with my boyfriend... let me remind you, this was two months ago.. i was told i was going to be df'd and that was that.

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  SafeAtHome

  Hang in there. It's sad, but your mother cares more about the brownie points she is making with the elders than her relationship with you. You have moved far away and cut ties with those people, why does she feel obligated to tell them anything at all about you. If anyone would ask about you, all she would have to say is you are doing well and leave it at that. She has betrayed you by giving them personal information. Good for you with the decision to NOT give her your new address. If the elders keep this up, if you do consult an attorney, have them add a stalking charge while they are at it. Be strong, be thankful you have a good BF (hopefully) and make new friends, do good things with your life. 🌈
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  So Today Was My Wife's First Ever Birthday Party

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.

  we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.

  we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.

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  SafeAtHome

  Man dubstepped, you are an AWESOME gift giver! Guys usually don't have a clue, but you tailored everything to what she likes and prefers. Don't want to generalize, but men just don't pay attention. After years of marriage most men, who are otherwise wonderful husbands, couldn't even say what their wives favorite ice fream flavor is. Your wife is fortunate indeed.
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  So Today Was My Wife's First Ever Birthday Party

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  she turned one today, and 36 earlier this week.

  we planned a big party, big for two people that have never thrown a party before.

  we rented a church fellowship hall because 1. it was nice and big and affordable and 2. it was kind of awesome to throw a party in a place we would have never ventured in our previous life.

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  SafeAtHome

  Totally awesome! Happy Birthday to your wife. Imagine what a fine "unwitness" it was for everyone there to find out just how controlling and whacko the JWs are! 🎂
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  My daughter graduated Bachelor of Arts with First Class Honours yesterday.

  by Xanthippe in

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  SafeAtHome

  I have a daughter so I know how proud you must be! Sad that very few who are in the borg experience such a proud moment for themselves or their children. You go girl!🌷
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  I'm back

  by phats in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi everyone, phats here.

  i haven't posted for about 2 years as things have been so busy with work + a nervous breakdown along the way so been on meds & all sorts but things but are now beginning to get stronger & the mists are clearing.

  business is great with loads of work.

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  SafeAtHome

  65! Looking and feeling fine! As someone here said recently, when they run into Witnesses they knew from long ago, those who grew up with the 1975 thing hanging over them, they look and project an old tiredness. I saw this recently at a gathering where I saw people I hadn't seen in 20 or more years. They were spouting the same old mantra....we really need the Kingdom, blah blah blah. They have become old, not preparing for an adequate retirement. I can't even imagine their mindset all these years being told it is so close, just around the corner.
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  I'm back

  by phats in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi everyone, phats here.

  i haven't posted for about 2 years as things have been so busy with work + a nervous breakdown along the way so been on meds & all sorts but things but are now beginning to get stronger & the mists are clearing.

  business is great with loads of work.

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  SafeAtHome

  Hey, just got back from a baseball game. I have been out since early 1985, was in since my parents came in when I was about 10, so was a good little JW for 25 years. All family on my dad's side were in. Started to fade when I got divorced. Ended up being the best thing to ever happen to me! Married a non-JW and began a new life. Haven't been shunned per se, but definitely been excluded from some family gatherings. This site keeps me up on the latest so I know what's going on with my still in relatives. All the older ones, parents, aunts, uncles are gone now. Remember, they weren't supposed to grow old in this system, but here I am with siblings and cousins growing old. We were the 1975 generation who were told we wouldn't even graduate from high school! How does this crazy cult still exist and suck people in?
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  I'm back

  by phats in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi everyone, phats here.

  i haven't posted for about 2 years as things have been so busy with work + a nervous breakdown along the way so been on meds & all sorts but things but are now beginning to get stronger & the mists are clearing.

  business is great with loads of work.

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  SafeAtHome

  Maybe your avatar is just too creepy! I will say you have an interesting background, sorry your wife is not on the same page though. Happy your daughter is out too. It can't be easy with so many JW relatives to deal with. Hang in there, at least when we need it, we have great support here on this forum.
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  Anyone in the UK know about this?

  by punkofnice in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  one of my jw spies told me that a us jw speaker was visiting the uk.

  some bigwig, on a tv screen, i believe.

  sorry, that's all i have.. anecdotal i admit, but i was told he said, "you british think you are superior.".

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  SafeAtHome

  The British are superior....most think Donald Trump is an idiot, as opposed to the nearly 50% of Americans who support him.😝
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  Where Have You Gone?

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  truly, i had wished for more .

  so very much more.. our love, so i believed, was beyond time and death.

  your promise of true love allowed this little man to soldier on despite his every reason to bid the world goodbye.. have i set my sights too high?

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  SafeAtHome

  Your words express exactly how I felt 32 years ago when my (ex) husband came home one night and said he didn't want to be married anymore. Of course, he just didn't want to be married to me anymore. I was thrown into such sadness, confusion and despair, as your words describe. Of course, life moves on, thankfully, and I am in a much better place now. No denying though, sometimes love stinks.💔