I've made this point before but it bears repeating.
The Watchtower, with its extreme standards, injures
families and hurts kids.
Parents have a responsibility to teach and safeguard
their kids. Basic parental authority is legitimate
and correct. Watchtower extremism damages and erodes
proper parental authority. How so?
First, because Witness children are taught that hypocrisy
is a correct approach to life. For example, field service
is a "vital, life-saving work". Yet, the reality is
strolling from door to door, talking about the weather,
taking coffee breaks, getting warm in the van, and
above all, ACCOMPLISHING NOTHING. Much the same goes for
meetings and those long painful conventions - endless
repetition, mindless instruction, and no one really
paying attention. Sex? Nope, there's TWO chapters in the
Your Youth book on the dreaded masturbation! Sorry, but you
can't use that thing between your legs til marriage (ten years,
perhaps?). You may as well throw in some corruption and cover-ups
by the elders, that's common these days - and kids may know FAR
MORE about it than you do, believe me!
The parents authority is bound up with being Witnesses.
After a few years of this, Johnny says to himself
"My parents are ****ing crazy! This is stupid!".
and then:
"My parents are religious fanatics and idiots! They
don't know what love is/how to have a good time/
how to live life".
Now, Johnny Witness may end up worse than non-Witness
kids simply because the extremes of Watchtower religion
have caused him to DISGARD PARENTAL AUTHORITY to a
greater degree THAN MANY NON-WITNESS KIDS WOULD.
I know this happens because it happened to me!
I NOW realize what a mistake I made following WT
dogma - and having my kid turn out worse in many respects
than her friends at school, who belonged to ordinary religions.
I also know that Pentecostals and many born again types have
MORE unwed pregnancy and moral problems than the average population,
partly for the reason I just explained.
Second, the guilt and extremes of Witness life cause some kids
to give up inside - a Witness kid might reason that they're doomed
anyway - a Pentecostal kid might say "I'm goin' to hell anyhow!"
The same principle either way - often leading to bad results.
I am trying hard to improve relations with my (grown) child.
Don't make the same mistakes I did and follow Watchtower
dogma to your family's injury. These propagandistic
extremes preached by the Watchtower can lead to painful
outcomes. Moderation and reasonable authority are to be
preferred.
metatron (Oh, for a time machine!)