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  JW funeral and I am DF'd

  by Vivamus in

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  i have not been a very active poster lately [have you missed me?].

  there has been plenty of drama in my life the last few weeks, and my time has been absorbed by it.

  my grandma is seriously ill, and has but a few more months to live.

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  Viv - yes honey - you were definitely missed. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((VIV))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  Sit with your family in the hall. The elders are not gonna take on a whole family at the front of a hall when there is preaching work to be done from the pulpit! Their making an issue out of it AT the hall would not serve their purpose of using every occasion, even funerals, to suck people into the void.

  Sounds like your family is with you - put a deaf ear to the elders honey.

  Thinking of you ..... be good to you sweetheart.

  Mimilly
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  Why do men have nipples???

  by Celtic in

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  i always did wonder about this, i mean, what function do they have and further, if, just supposing that we are made in the image of god, does god himself have the equivalent of nipples?

  any insights proffered?

  celty .

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  Mmmmmmmmmm men's nipples. Toys! They exist to be licked and nibbled - a sexual connect the dots.

  Mimilly
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  TRICKY SITUATION

  by bay64me in

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  i got new neighbours a couple of months ago.

  to get straight to the point, i'm sure the husband is knocking his wife about.

  i can hear him shouting and screaming and loud thuds and bangs, sometimes late at night and even last week he was so loud that he actually woke me up at 7.30 in the morning with his behaviour.. i really feel intimidated by him.

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  bay64 - I'm glad you called the authorities and was reassured that you would remain anonymous. I 'lived' my reality too, as a kid. What bothers me is that you said you have no 'proof' that he is knocking her around. Why do YOU need proof to call? You yourself said that the woman came out into the night and screamed for help!

  dsgal - just because 911 calls are traced does not mean that you cannot remain anonymous. You tell them you fear so and so and why.

  Simon - It is up to the police to gather the evidence. Just like it is 'our' responsiblity to protect children, it is also our responsibility to protect those who are unable to stand up for themselves in domestic violence cases. If the poster had suspected a child was being beaten - that the child had run out into the night screaming for help - would you suggest taping so there would be 'evidence'?

  You never did answer the questions about 'what if it was Ang being beaten'. What would YOU want someone who heard to do? It's always easier when it's in somebody else's home. That way we can put up some kind of barrier and convince ourselves that it's their problem. It is society's problem, and we are ALL responsible to help those who need protection. The reason I asked you about what if Ang were being beaten - it breaks those barriers down. The rules and responsiblities are no different for those we do not personally know. It comes down to the golden rule.

  It's always frightening being the one to report it. BUT - how does the victim feel? How scared is the victim? That puts it into perspective.

  Mimilly
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  TRICKY SITUATION

  by bay64me in

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  i got new neighbours a couple of months ago.

  to get straight to the point, i'm sure the husband is knocking his wife about.

  i can hear him shouting and screaming and loud thuds and bangs, sometimes late at night and even last week he was so loud that he actually woke me up at 7.30 in the morning with his behaviour.. i really feel intimidated by him.

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  dsgal - the problem is that you're assuming that a serious attack or death won't occur by calling a non-emergency number. Domestic violence is unpredictable and is the call that cops fear the most for that reason. It can turn nasty and deadly in a second.

  No one can ever assume that a death or serious attack will not happen.

  bttt Call 911

  Mimilly
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  DO YOU HAVE ANY GOALS?

  by minimus in

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  one thing a jw has to have is a goal.

  a goal for getting to the meetings, a goal for answering at the meetings, a goal to pay attention at the meetings.....a goal to go out in field service, a goal to talk at the doors, a goal to place literature.....a goal for everything under the sun!

  do you find that you are sick and tired of goals and need a breather, or have you set new goals?

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  ditto Perry.

  My goals:

  1. breathe, survive, continue beating the emotional odds against me

  2. find decent employment

  3. divorce hubby and move on already

  4. return to school for psychology or education degrees and work with youths

  5. move to a rural enough area that I could have some space to run and more animals

  6. hopefully have a healthy relationship with lucky gentleman

  7. continue being a good mom to my girls and grandma to any grandchildren I may have

  8. to have made a difference by the time I die

  Mimilly
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  TRICKY SITUATION

  by bay64me in

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  i got new neighbours a couple of months ago.

  to get straight to the point, i'm sure the husband is knocking his wife about.

  i can hear him shouting and screaming and loud thuds and bangs, sometimes late at night and even last week he was so loud that he actually woke me up at 7.30 in the morning with his behaviour.. i really feel intimidated by him.

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  ISP - call about the noise? WTF? What about the woman being beat to shit? If a call is gonna be made, why not just tell it as it is!

  SIMON - I'm disappointed in you. For someone who has been running a site with numerous survivors I would have hoped you had learned a thing or two about what abuse does to a person. You said something like - don't worry - it's her issue if she stays? And tape recording? The police would just looooove that one - here she is tape recording a possible death and didn't call instead? What if Ang was being beaten up? What would YOU want someone who heard to do? Just tape record it? Hope she can reach a phone and call herself?

  Domestic abuse is NO different than child abuse in that if you know about it - REPORT IT. Otherwise - you're nothing more than an accessory.

  Mimilly
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  TRICKY SITUATION

  by bay64me in

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  i got new neighbours a couple of months ago.

  to get straight to the point, i'm sure the husband is knocking his wife about.

  i can hear him shouting and screaming and loud thuds and bangs, sometimes late at night and even last week he was so loud that he actually woke me up at 7.30 in the morning with his behaviour.. i really feel intimidated by him.

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  Mimilly

  Sorry - I don't see any 'tricky' in this 'situation'. That woman came out on her front yard calling for help. No one has to know you called. It warranted a call to 911. How would you have felt if you went out at night on your lawn calling for help with no one answering? Helpless, useless and not worthwhile. She was being beaten up. Not much chance for her to dial those three numbers is there!

  I grew up in a home just like this. The entire neighborhood could hear my father beat the living shit out my mother - and I. The neighbors knew - cos I could hear it when I was outside on the street or in another house of a friend's, and at one time, we were asked to move.

  Enough of this crap that the woman probably will or won't do this or that. You help! You call! It's bloody simple. Does Battered Wife Syndrome ring any bells? So she goes back - it's her fault? So you've been abused - you're not going to help, yet listen to her screams?

  I was terrified of my father. At 14, I was the ONLY one to defend my mother and on many occasions, stop him from killing her. Was that easy for me? NO. But someone had to do it, and none of the so called adults in my world did a damned thing. I hate them for that.

  There is NO tricky to this situation. You damned well call. If you need to remain anonymous, you say so and why. Also - this is NOT a situation where you call the police for disturbance of the peace. The police need to know, for their own safety that it is a domestic violence situation. They will often arrive with backup now.

  That woman cried into the night. Little does she know that someone heard her and kept silent. How the hell would that make YOU feel?

  Tricky my ass.

  Mimilly
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  How will you commemorate the anniversary of 9/11?

  by Kenneson in

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  1. attend a prayer service.

  2. stay at home and watch the t.v.

  specials.

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  Quietly remembering the day no one could possibly forget.

  Mimilly
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  ZERO FOUND THIS-ELDER'S MEETING

  by ashitaka in

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  zero did all the work and found this.

  just wanted to post it on a thread, because some lurkers might not want to go off site to look at stuff.

  hats off to zero.. .

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  Absolutely incredulous! The GB really do exist in a vaccum don't they! The amount of crap and attempt at complete control is going to backfire.

  I mean, really, what are these old men thinking - and doing? What are these geezers DOING with their time and money to be SO out of touch with reality? Anyone wanting super control over people can do it, but these guys have even lost touch of that!

  I'm so glad I'm out. It's been ten years now, and it's threads like this that bring a rush of relief over me, as well as utter sadness for those chained to the mother ship with super-glue on their blinders.

  I can't help but keep shaking my head at this. But it's good. What better way for the tower to tumble than by being caught in their own words and practices.

  Mimilly
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  So I was put in the back of a police car....

  by Mimilly in

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  oops.... should start at the beginning of a story shouldn't i!

  i've been lower than a serpent's belly as of late.

  finances just got a whole lot worse; argued 5 times with monopolistic telephone company who took my payment (money from 'hubby') yet didn't re-connect me; went searching for my resume on hubby's computer and found child porn instead.

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  outoftheorg - no probs hon. I scared myself. I sincerely thank you for your honesty and concern. It just comes down to different strokes for different folks. One recipe doesn't fit all - but I certainly saw the concern in your post, and didn't doubt it for a second.

  hugs,

  mimilly