Posts by mommy1

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Reverse Shunning

by StinkyPantz in

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my mom calls every few months to "hear my voice".

whenever this happens i am very sad and very angry all mixed together.

i am torn.

Reverse Shunning

by StinkyPantz in

jw
friends

my mom calls every few months to "hear my voice".

whenever this happens i am very sad and very angry all mixed together.

i am torn.

My Dad and Brother do the hot and cold treatment with me. My brother's *itch sorry I mean wife totally shuns me. She got all pissed off one day when my brother was talking to me on the phone and she came home and caught him. I could hear her in the background "you can't be talking to her, I don't want you associating with her, get off the phone" My brother like the robot he has become said yes dear and then said he had to go.

My Dad calls me. I let him make the effort to call, I do not call him. Kind of my way of saying I don't need you and can make it without you.

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Reverse Shunning

by StinkyPantz in

jw
friends

my mom calls every few months to "hear my voice".

whenever this happens i am very sad and very angry all mixed together.

i am torn.

mommy1

My Dad and Brother do the hot and cold treatment with me. My brother's *itch sorry I mean wife totally shuns me. She got all pissed off one day when my brother was talking to me on the phone and she came home and caught him. I could hear her in the background "you can't be talking to her, I don't want you associating with her, get off the phone" My brother like the robot he has become said yes dear and then said he had to go.

My Dad calls me. I let him make the effort to call, I do not call him. Kind of my way of saying I don't need you and can make it without you.

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Stupid places to leave magazines & tracts

by Nosferatu in

jw
friends

what were some of the stupidest places either you or another jw have left tracts or magazines, hoping someone will find it and want a bible study?

mommy1

I was at the mall about five years ago and someone had put Awake magazines on the windshields of about half the cars in the parking lot.

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Have YOU Ever Met Up With Anyone Famous

by RAYZORBLADE in

have any of you on this forum, ever met up with anyone considered famous?

i've met a great deal of people over the years.

one of my most memorable: dennis leary, drinking a few pints with him as he sang "margaritaville" from the jukebox.

mommy1

I have waited on Hulk Hogan a few times. Nothing exciting.

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What Things Used To Bother Your Conscience???

by minimus in

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friends

we were always being told that we must be careful not to "stumble" others.

we were instructed to think about the consciences of others.

was there anything that used to bother your conscience that now doesn't?

mommy1

When I was a child my conscience would bother when I would say the pledge at school or celebrate holidays at school even though my teachers knew I was a JW kid none of them ratted me out to my parents.

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Memorable Field Service Moments

by Loris in

for the most part field service is a dull event-less drudgery.

but there are those rare times that something happens that makes it almost worth the effort.. while living in the state of washington i was privileged to meet a rare sister.

she was funny and a bit off the wall.

mommy1

I was about five or so and threw up on someone's porch. Nobody was home and I still remember my Mom trying to sneak the hose around from the side of the hose to clean it off. We still laugh about it when we go by that house.

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Have you known anyone who left JW land after or because of you ???

by run dont walk in

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friends

unfortunately, i come from a family which is still all in jw land, i would love to be able to convince them all to get out, but i probaly have a better chance of winning the lottery, but i'll keep trying.. how many of you here had some from your family or close friend leave the jw's after you did ???

and why did they leave ???.

how did it make you feel ???.

mommy1

My Mom left eight years after I did. I was part of many reasons she did. It was very difficult at first to have a relationship with her. She and I had to get past the anger I felt about how she had treated me when I first got Df. and how she and Dad didn't get help for me when I was molested by a brother at the hall. She had terrible guilt and emotional problems for a while. We worked through everything. I understand now what she went through and how controlled she was with my Dad. Words can't express how glad I am that at least my Mom doesn't believe that crap.

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Why would JW's take money from someone they shun?

by unbeliever in

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friends

this happened a long time ago but i have a friend (da'd) who is shunned by his family.

his sister asked if he could give her money every month so she could continue to pioneer.

he is very well off and could afford to give her the money.

mommy1

My JW brother was married over a year ago. I went to the wedding but wasn't allowed to reception. My sister-in-law has never called or talked to me since. But she did cash the nice wedding check I gave her and my brother. My brother has only talked to me a couple of times on the phone since his wedding. that was only because our Grandmother had died and he needed directions to the funeral home. I didn't even get a thank you note. I know they sent some out because my cousin and aunt got thank you notes from the wedding. Never again will I give them anything.

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Class Distinction Within The JW Community?

by Latin assassin from Manhattan in

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friends

has anyone noticed that jws who appear to be higher up on the 'socio-economic' ladder get special treatment at the kh?

no matter how many khs i've visited, i've noticed that jws who are not well off socially/financially/physically are treated with less respect/dignity than those with a business of their own, or just a higher quality of life.

i've been to many 'gatherings' where jws filter themselves out according to race or socio-economic standing.

mommy1

I know in the hall my family went to there was. When my Mom first came in the early seventies she said everyone was loving poor or well off. They would have bridal and baby showers and not put their names on the gifts. they would just write from "one of your Sister's" on the card. They would have covered dish get togethers and picnics. then in the early eighties the area we lived in started to be developed and with it the affluent witnesses started moving in. Before everyone in the congrgation was invited to everything wedding,picnic or what ever. Then it changed to invitation only.

My Mom said she really started to have doubts around that time about the love in the congregation. She still remembers the last hall picnic she actually was invited to and how they made her feel like crap. We didn't have any money at the time, and my Mom made potatoe salad as a covered dish. then sister moneybags says to my Mom "Is that all you brought, you only brought this?" My Mom said she was so embarrassed . We were so poor at the time she did the best she could. My dad would not let her work and we had nothing to eat hardly.

Thankfully a little after that my Mom told my Dad she was tired of not having any money and went to work. She gained her independence and started thinking on her own. In the late eighties she left Dad and the Jws. By this time I had been out for about 8 years or so. It's been great to have a Mom for the last 13 years. We were talking the other day about when she started to have doubts about the org. and she mentioned that picnic as one her doubts Lack of love and compassion in the congregation.