As a kid JW I never had just plain old fun. Now as an exJW adult I try to have fun and enjoy my kids. Go to Girl Scout meetings with daughter and yes, even buy,sell and eat Girl Scout Cookies.
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a part of ourselves we neglected
by rodnico inmy mother is coming to visit me next week.
i haven't seen her for over 4 years.
she thinks that somehow i am a completely different person since leaving the organization.
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more tales of the abused
by littleangrypolishgirl ini was raised a jw since childhood.
besides the emotional trauma that comes with being an outsider from the rest of the real world, my father was phsically, mentally and verbally abusive to my 2 younger sisters and i. apparently my mother seemd to be so brainwashed with the ideas of respect for headship and all the other bs she didn't do anything about the abuse.needless to say my father was also an elder, sheperding the flock while at home beating his children senseless.
after 20 years of this and all 3 children leaving home by the age of 16,something finally clicked in her head.
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mommy1
Dear LittleAngrypolishgirl, I am so sorry about your sister. I am glad you found this site, hopefully you can find some comfort in knowing there are people out here that care. Best wishes to you.
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to scream or not to scream
by Incense_and_Peppermints injw women have a greater need than jw men to stay ever vigilant and attentive of the watchtower's back and forth rules and regulations which they have the nerve to teach is "new light" from god.
depending on the "new light" from the governing body, if she doesn't scream during a rape, she will be charged by the elders as an adulteress ... someone who may have actually 'enjoyed' the violent act because of her silence.
if another jw woman was raped in 1969 and she didn't scream, she would not be disfellowshipped.
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What a terrible thing to put on a witness woman who is about to be raped. If I don't scream I will be disfellowshipped, if I do he will blow my head off?
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ABUSED/HARRASSED
by THERESA in; my mother is jw i was 15 years old at the time my mom would go house to house with the wife of the brother and my dad went to work sensce the morning to night this happened over the summer (by the way i never was interested in this religion i thought it was boring and i didnt accept alot of things they did) well anyways back to that summer i was at home alone mom with the sister ,dad at work and the husband of the sister hernandez went to my house told me he wanted to read me the bible we sat down on a table we had outside and started to read the bible as he read he pulled out his penis to me i was in shock and scared i ran inside the house locked everydooor when my mom got home i told her what happened and she called me a lier you acusser you have the devil in you those were her words i told my dad he did nothing sensce my mom was very controlling with him, the next several days he would call and harass me and go knock on all the windows of my house when my mom was with his wife, 5 years later i got married and my hubby and i started to study with them there was a part where the brother said that in the jw they wer clean and perfect and that nobody did anything wrong so i brought up the padst and told them my story the did a little investigation and found 5 other girls who by now were now married and they decided to do a little court and the only reason why they didnt df himn was because i could not describe his penis if it was circumsise or not at that time ididnt even know what that was now i do because i have my kids i told myself how could this religion allowed someone like this be teeling the word of god and putting god first and then doing something so terrible!
now my brother is baptised he dont talk to me anymore because i wont forget about the past and i commit to the jw well his lost .
all my life i felt that my mom never loved me.
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It is somthing how they can shun you for celebrating holidays and trying to be a good human being and yet the sicko that exposed himself to you is their"Brother"! My Dad took video about 12 years ago of when the kingdom hall was getting remodeled. I came to visit my Brother and he showed me by accident the "kingdom Hall" video and right there in front of my eyes "Brother Molester" comes right up to the camera and says "Hi (my Dad's first name) How ya doing?" My Dad wasn't home when I saw this tape so he doesn't know I saw it. So I know where my Dad's loyalty is. I never told him I saw this tape because well How do you ask your father "HEY Dad, how come you were taking video of the guy that molested me, and yet you have no video of your own daughter?"
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The "mini-god" Elder syndrome...
by dustrabbit inprofessor: since you stated in another thread that your dad sees himself as a "mini-god", it got me wondering.
does jehovah, if he actually exists, views the gb/the elders and other religious leaders along with jesus as "mini-me"s, as in the "austin powers" characters?.
the dustrabbitedited by - dustrabbit on 4 july 2002 7:47:42.
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mommy1
While I was growing up My Dad would always threatening to call the Elders if we didn't behave. I was so afraid of the elders as a kid, My Dad thought the elders were "mini-gods".
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ABUSED/HARRASSED
by THERESA in; my mother is jw i was 15 years old at the time my mom would go house to house with the wife of the brother and my dad went to work sensce the morning to night this happened over the summer (by the way i never was interested in this religion i thought it was boring and i didnt accept alot of things they did) well anyways back to that summer i was at home alone mom with the sister ,dad at work and the husband of the sister hernandez went to my house told me he wanted to read me the bible we sat down on a table we had outside and started to read the bible as he read he pulled out his penis to me i was in shock and scared i ran inside the house locked everydooor when my mom got home i told her what happened and she called me a lier you acusser you have the devil in you those were her words i told my dad he did nothing sensce my mom was very controlling with him, the next several days he would call and harass me and go knock on all the windows of my house when my mom was with his wife, 5 years later i got married and my hubby and i started to study with them there was a part where the brother said that in the jw they wer clean and perfect and that nobody did anything wrong so i brought up the padst and told them my story the did a little investigation and found 5 other girls who by now were now married and they decided to do a little court and the only reason why they didnt df himn was because i could not describe his penis if it was circumsise or not at that time ididnt even know what that was now i do because i have my kids i told myself how could this religion allowed someone like this be teeling the word of god and putting god first and then doing something so terrible!
now my brother is baptised he dont talk to me anymore because i wont forget about the past and i commit to the jw well his lost .
all my life i felt that my mom never loved me.
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HI Theresa,
I was molested at 11 by a "brother" and I know how shocking it is when something so sick happens to you by a "perfect" brother. My Father did believe me when I told him, but ,he didn't go to the police. Just the Elders and well no witnesses so they didn't do anything. Describe his penis? Did this "brother" show his penis to the judicial comittee? They just seem to give the man the benefit of the doubt. I had a judicial commitee with as I mentioned in another post where one of the elders rubbed my feet while I told him about losing viginity. This is a great site to go to where other people have experienced similar things. Best wishes to you..
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Why dont JW's have a youth group?
by In_between_days insomething that has been alarming to my jw family is the amount of teens ("young ones") that have bailed out of the organisation, never to return.. they use the excuse, as would most jw's that "satan is getting them - he knows young ones are vulnerable.".
if you want my opinion, young people are getting far more educated - they are becoming far more broad minded than they were say 10 or 20 years ago.
because of the slow yet sturdy slackening of the "no college" rule, many more young jw's are attending university or college than ever before, and with further education comes more knowledge, more interaction with reasonable and intelligent conversations with educated people and most importantly -use of the internet ("satans latest tool, as put by a jw i talked to recently).
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Musky , I asked my Mom about The youth book study we used to have and she said it was just an idea five or six sisters had in order to get the kids together. I asked her why they stopped and she said one of the sisters husband [elder] felt that it was the fathers responsibilty to study with their own kids. She said one sister got very upset because she was a single Mom. They just stopped having the kids study because of all the conflict. It was such a nice little group. Moms got along and kids too. We were all around 8 to 12 years old.
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JWs Assigned to Fetch Lost Sheep Here?
by HomebutHiding ini have been pondering the whys of jws who regularly, and not-so regularly post to the board.
the possibility then struck me that maybe they are assigned--have special dispensation--to associate here in order to retrieve any "misguided" or "lost" sheep and bring them back into their fold.
or are they, thenselves, on the edge, wanting the freedom we now have?
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Hey Flowerpetal.. I am glad you visit and post here. Sorry if I offended you with my "counting time" post. I just remember going out in service with a pioneer one summer and she said she would write letters to worldly Dad and count the time.
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JWs Assigned to Fetch Lost Sheep Here?
by HomebutHiding ini have been pondering the whys of jws who regularly, and not-so regularly post to the board.
the possibility then struck me that maybe they are assigned--have special dispensation--to associate here in order to retrieve any "misguided" or "lost" sheep and bring them back into their fold.
or are they, thenselves, on the edge, wanting the freedom we now have?
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Maybe they ease their conscience by counting time here as field service.
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JW Dad talks to me,talks to me not
by mommy1 inmy jw dad calls me every once in awhile and is very friendly.
i have even went to his house for dinner,went shopping with him and his wife.
then months go by and i call he is cold and distant.so i figure he doesn't want a relationship.
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SpiderMonkey, You are so right. It's like they bait you. I recently went to my brother's Jw wedding. I couldn't decide to go or not to go. I went because my brother begged me to go and I know if he wasn't raised in it he would not be a witness. I went in and talked to everyone amd the ones that knew I was disfellowshipped were all nervous talking to me. I even wore a pantsuit. I know the jaws were flapping at the reception.