My Mom left eight years after I did. I was part of many reasons she did. It was very difficult at first to have a relationship with her. She and I had to get past the anger I felt about how she had treated me when I first got Df. and how she and Dad didn't get help for me when I was molested by a brother at the hall. She had terrible guilt and emotional problems for a while. We worked through everything. I understand now what she went through and how controlled she was with my Dad. Words can't express how glad I am that at least my Mom doesn't believe that crap.
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Have you known anyone who left JW land after or because of you ???
by run dont walk inunfortunately, i come from a family which is still all in jw land, i would love to be able to convince them all to get out, but i probaly have a better chance of winning the lottery, but i'll keep trying.. how many of you here had some from your family or close friend leave the jw's after you did ???
and why did they leave ???.
how did it make you feel ???.
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Why would JW's take money from someone they shun?
by unbeliever inthis happened a long time ago but i have a friend (da'd) who is shunned by his family.
his sister asked if he could give her money every month so she could continue to pioneer.
he is very well off and could afford to give her the money.
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mommy1
My JW brother was married over a year ago. I went to the wedding but wasn't allowed to reception. My sister-in-law has never called or talked to me since. But she did cash the nice wedding check I gave her and my brother. My brother has only talked to me a couple of times on the phone since his wedding. that was only because our Grandmother had died and he needed directions to the funeral home. I didn't even get a thank you note. I know they sent some out because my cousin and aunt got thank you notes from the wedding. Never again will I give them anything.
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Class Distinction Within The JW Community?
by Latin assassin from Manhattan inhas anyone noticed that jws who appear to be higher up on the 'socio-economic' ladder get special treatment at the kh?
no matter how many khs i've visited, i've noticed that jws who are not well off socially/financially/physically are treated with less respect/dignity than those with a business of their own, or just a higher quality of life.
i've been to many 'gatherings' where jws filter themselves out according to race or socio-economic standing.
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mommy1
I know in the hall my family went to there was. When my Mom first came in the early seventies she said everyone was loving poor or well off. They would have bridal and baby showers and not put their names on the gifts. they would just write from "one of your Sister's" on the card. They would have covered dish get togethers and picnics. then in the early eighties the area we lived in started to be developed and with it the affluent witnesses started moving in. Before everyone in the congrgation was invited to everything wedding,picnic or what ever. Then it changed to invitation only.
My Mom said she really started to have doubts around that time about the love in the congregation. She still remembers the last hall picnic she actually was invited to and how they made her feel like crap. We didn't have any money at the time, and my Mom made potatoe salad as a covered dish. then sister moneybags says to my Mom "Is that all you brought, you only brought this?" My Mom said she was so embarrassed . We were so poor at the time she did the best she could. My dad would not let her work and we had nothing to eat hardly.
Thankfully a little after that my Mom told my Dad she was tired of not having any money and went to work. She gained her independence and started thinking on her own. In the late eighties she left Dad and the Jws. By this time I had been out for about 8 years or so. It's been great to have a Mom for the last 13 years. We were talking the other day about when she started to have doubts about the org. and she mentioned that picnic as one her doubts Lack of love and compassion in the congregation.
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Alone in a house full of people
by LovesDubs infor those of you still married to a jw...have you ever felt like you were living alone even tho there is a person on the other side of the bed?
i sure do...he has this whole "secret life" and all his jw friends and jw relatives and wont have anything to do with my friends or my relatives, even tho most of them never were jws....so we dont do anything together as a couple.
i mean zip.
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Lovesdub,
I hope that you will find the strength to leave. If you never were a witness would you put up with this treatment from him? I have been DF for a long time and my Jw dad still knows how to put the digs in me. I'll love you as long as you are a witness guilt trip. It can make you real sick if you don't do something about it. Look at how much pain you are going through because of this abuse.
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Christian Longo testified on Court TV today
by Mulan inchristian longo, the disfellowshipped jw, who is accused of killing his wife and three children, is testifying now (9:50am pst) on court tv.
he is explaining the teachings of jw's.
the commentators jump in occasionally.
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My Jw Dad just called me and asked me if I knew about this case. I said yes. He was watching it on tv and was wondering if I was watching it. I sais I watched a little and found it too horrible. My Dad says well he was disfellowshipped see what happens when you don't put trust in Jehovah. I said Dad it has nothing to do with being a witness or not this guy was pure evil. I haven't heard from my Dad in six months and then he calls today to tell me this.
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Christian Longo testified on Court TV today
by Mulan inchristian longo, the disfellowshipped jw, who is accused of killing his wife and three children, is testifying now (9:50am pst) on court tv.
he is explaining the teachings of jw's.
the commentators jump in occasionally.
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mommy1
What a monster. He's so matter of fact. He must really believe that his wife and kids will be resurrected. I just happened to be flipping channels and heard the word kingdom hall and stopped and started watching. Had to turn it off J ho or not just too upsetting.
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I lost my baby
by kelpie ini come to you with a heavy heart and tears in my eyes.
tuesday 27th may 2003 at 12.30 am, i misscarried my first baby.
i was 9 weeks pregnant.
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mommy1
Kelpie and Rick,
Sorry you lost your baby.
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JW High
by Yerusalyim ini keep hearing rumors that there are locations throughout the country where the witnesses have their own schools, kinda like parochial school.
has anyone else heard this?
what's the deal?
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My brother was pulled out of high school by my stepmother and homeschooled when he was around 15 He is 22 now and doesn't even have a GED diploma. He works for an elder's lawn service and still lives at home. The reason my stepmom pulled him out of high school was because he wanted to be on the basketball team and he asked and begged her. The coaches even tried to talk to my stepmom on my stepbrothers behalf. So she just took him out of school. I am glad I was out of the house when my Dad married that witch.
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What do you think when you go by a Kingdom Hall?
by TresHappy ini drive by a kh every day, since it's very close to my work route, and i was wondering if anyone else secretly cheers that they don't have to go back into one of those things.
when i see a few cars parked there on the weekday, i am so thankful i don't have to go out and talk that stuff to strangers.
any thoughts?
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mommy1
I go by one hall almost everyday. Most of the time I don't even think of it. If I do look over at it and the kids aren't in the car, I might say a few curse words or just say thank goodness I am free. It depends on the mood.
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I am shocked, disgusted and I feel violated
by berylblue ini have spent the last few days reading all the information about the wts on the internet.
i am shocked.
appalled.
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mommy1
Berylblue,
Welcome. I know what you mean about being shocked,and violated. Especially since they claim to be so Godlike. I hope you will find peace with yourself as I have just recently found myself.