The problem for the WT is that most of us who have children old enough for college, remember very well, we were never going to need college. We are all now middle aged, and turns out we sure could have used that education.
It's like any dictatorship, or cult or anything, control get too tight, people are going to rebel. The control is getting tighter and tighter, the dogma is getting more fanatical, their equalling themselves to God and Jesus more pronounced. I do think for many, they are having trouble defending it, at least to themselves. The cogs of denial are starting to lose their spokes.
I wish you all the best, but I do agree with your gut, I would take her up on it, but I would tread lightly.