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Does anyone know about ADD in adults?

by Mulan in

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i really need some help guys.

my youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying .

young woman, 22. she has add and talks all the time!!

Mulan

Thank you for all the good suggestions.

She is a very smart girl, with a high IQ, but was labeled dumb, by
her teachers in elementary school, who hadn't heard of dyslexia, I think. By the time she reached middle school, the family had moved to
a big city, and she was found to be very bright, but had spent her early years being ridiculed by everyone. She literally has no friends. It's a good thing she has three sisters, and a future sister in law, or she wouldn't have any bridesmaids either.

Anyway, I think some of you have hit the nail on the head about her lack of self esteem. I will try to work on my attitude towards her.
Her parents love her very much, but they know she is a bit hard to take too, and have said a couple of things to me, about giving her time.

An example of one of her annoying habits: I am in the kitchen cooking, and she comes in and asks how I am, for the 10th time today. I look at her and I say "still fine". She asked me that 5 minutes before. When I walked into the room where she was, she asked me again. I ignored her. So she followed me into my computer room, and read my email over my shoulder, commenting on things written to me. I was worried she would do that today while I was reading these posts.

Anyway, Jan and roamingfeline, Lindy, joel, Zazu, all made really good suggestions. Venice, I forgot your Mom had it too. She is NOT like that. And as for her illness, when we were in the emergency room, she was telling the nurse how to insert the IV. I wanted to scream at her to shut up!! The nurse said "excuse me?" I started laughing, it was so funny. And I said, "ignore her, she tells everyone how to do their jobs." But, the RN didn't think it was funny.

I am going to work on building her self esteem, if I can stand it.

Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)

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Where Does The Writing dept. Get Ideas?

by CoolBreeze in

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ever read a wt or awake and wonder where the heck did they come up with that?

i think i figured it out.

this makes almost as much sensre as the stuff in those magazines.

Mulan

I know one thing they do is recycle old articles. We have a friend who was once in the writing department, and he recognizes articles he wrote all the time, from the 70's, no less.

They have been known to plagiarize too.

Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)

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Does anyone know about ADD in adults?

by Mulan in

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i really need some help guys.

my youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying .

young woman, 22. she has add and talks all the time!!

Mulan

ADD is Attention Deficit Disorder. There is also ADHD, which adds hyperactivity to the mess.

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Good Bye Everyeone

by proplog2 in

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i am against official censorship.

i feel it is each individuals responsibility to walk away from groups that you find offensive.

although i am an a-theist i am not a-moral.. in greek mythology you have prometheus and epimetheus.

Mulan

I will miss you.

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Does anyone know about ADD in adults?

by Mulan in

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i really need some help guys.

my youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying .

young woman, 22. she has add and talks all the time!!

Mulan

I think when she was a child, she took it briefly, but it reacted badly on her. I've tried to give her some herbal ones, that are similar, but she won't take them. Says she can't take that combination of herbs. She works at a hospital, in the lab, so also knows everything there is to know about medicine. (NOT)

Thanks for your input. At least it seems this is the problem.

It occurred to me a year ago, that she is very much like the boy who was his best friend while he was growing up. That fellow now won't have anything to do with him, because we aren't dubs anymore. So, maybe he substitute a girl for the guy.........but he doesn't have to MARRY her. Oh well. I think it's a done deal.

My other sons are saying he is going to contaminate our gene pool.

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Does anyone know about ADD in adults?

by Mulan in

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i really need some help guys.

my youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying .

young woman, 22. she has add and talks all the time!!

Mulan

I really need some help guys.

My youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying
young woman, 22. She has ADD and talks ALL THE TIME!! She
knows absolutely everything about everything, in her mind, that is.
There is no conversation that is sacred to her. She butts in and gives her two cents worth, no matter what. They have been going together for more than two years, and we have really tried hard to like her. My husband spent some time with her Saturday morning, and after they left the house, he said she is still just as annoying as the day we met her.

I have just been listening to her tell my son how to get hired by
the police force. She has NO knowledge of that subject AT ALL, but
is advising him anyway. He has applied to several, and hasn't been
hired yet. I think he will eventually, but is just still too young.
He has all the educational and physical requirements, and passes all
the tests, scoring very high. I wonder now if this gal is sabotaging
the oral exams with her stellar advice to him.

Anyway, the advice I want is how do I deal with her? She has the ADD and dyslexia, so doesn't read well. I've thought about buying her books on social manners, but she wouldn't be able to read them. I've told my son that she isn't as smart as he thinks she is, and he acknowledges that too. He actually has gotten her to stop interrupting when we are trying to talk to HIM.

A cousin of mine has a daughter with ADD and says it is part of that disorder, and to cut her a lot of slack. But, I just want to scream when I talk to her. She just knows everything............and to make matters even worse, she is a 'Christian', who is worse than any JW I've ever met.

I really like her parents and her sisters, who are all nothing like her. I wonder where she came from. If he was marrying her younger sister, I would be ecstatic. For the life of me I don't see his attraction to her. If she were a pretty girl, I would understand better, but she is quite plain. My other sons married women who are a lot like me, but this one is a mystery. And my son and I are very close, too. We are smiling and supportive through all of the wedding plans, and helping financially, because her family are Pastors, and so poor you wouldn't believe it.

She was telling me the other day how to do the rehearsal dinner, as though I had had no other sons who got married, and had never done this before. Duh!! She tried to make the invitations for the bridal shower my daughter is giving this weekend, until my daughter told her very nicely, that her responsibility for the shower, is to show up. Period.

I wonder how she will be able to keep her mouth shut during the minister's portion of the wedding service. I'm afraid she will interrupt him and tell him something he "doesn't know."

So, any advice on dealing with adults with ADD? Or is it another problem?

Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)

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How Should I Do This?

by Wolfy in

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okay....in a few weeks we(wife & kids) are going to visit my parents.

they have been jw's for a long time.... a little back-ground info...a couple of years ago i said the hell with being a jw..grew a goatee (wife said it made me look evil..:) and wanted nothing at all to do with being a jw..elders actually left me alone for the most part...talked to my parents...my mother kinda freaked but my dad said basically that he understood and that i gotta do what i gotta do ..said if he could help i could call...cool.

i have changed alot in that couple of years on the inside..how i feel and think...i am re-examining everything related to jw's and have found many very disturbing facts..i want to talk to my parents about them but i am not sure how to go about it...my mother is the emotional type..doesn't get to deep if you understand my meaning...my dad on the other hand was an elder for many years and is an analitical type person...very down-to-earth.....anyways...does anyone have any suggestions how i can talk to them about what i have found out without them freaking out and calling me apostate?.

Mulan

Hi Wolfy, I think noidea gave you some good advice. Talk to your Dad.
Since your Mom is emotional, you will likely get nowhere with her. I know several women like her, who won't see anything I tell them, becaue they are JW's for emotional reasons, that have nothing to do with logic.

Just be nice to Mom, and talk to Dad. Maybe he can get through to her.

Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)

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To Lauralisa

by OrangeBlossom in

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welcome to the board, lauralisa.. you've been through so much and i'm glad you found us.

you mentioned that your husband got custody or your children.

did you get them back after you left the borg?

Mulan

Jurs, did you know you can edit your post? On the right, there are little graphics, of papers, and the first one is the edit link. You can go back in and fix things.

Lauralisa, you have really been through a lot. I applaud you for your attitude, and your survival. It's so nice that you and your ex are on good terms, and it sounds like their home is an amazing place.
Welcome to this board. As to worshipping Jehovah, many of us here, have sort of lost our faith, but it can be recovered too. Just realize that the JW version of worship is not what God requires. He is a loving God, and can't expect so much of us, if he is really loving. I stopped calling him Jehovah long ago, because that is not my God. Now I call him God, or Father, if anything. Maybe that will help to get rid of the JW connection too.

Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)

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The Truth about Venice

by Maximus in

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... all right, folks.

venice is calling in the heavy artillery.

i also have mafia connections who are not named guido, but knee-cap charlie and sal the stiletto.

Mulan

I thought about making this a separate thread, but didn't want to draw too much attention to it, so will say this here.

Maximus, you mean well, but I DO know Venice, and this was all a great fun thing for all of us. She is a very free spirit, who laughs at herself all the time. She is more like her Mom, who laughs all the time too, but her Dad is really serious, and she isn't like him at all. Venice has threatened me online, and said funny stuff to everyone, but she isn't mad. I'm not saying she didn't get embarrassed, but I don't think she had hurt feelings. If she was really upset about any of that stuff, I would have had a phone call, believe me. Or lots of emails about it.

Oh, I know she will get even with me, and try to embarrass me too, and my daughter, when we are camping later this summer, but it's all in fun. And we can take it too.

I do agree it's time to let that story die. I brought it to the top last night, just in fun, but I'll stop doing that.

Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)

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Funny story about VeniceIT

by Mulan in

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by popular demand, i am yielding to pressure, to tell a story about our very own veniceit.. in march, venice and her parents were visiting us here in washington state, and we all had dinner at our daughter's home one evening.

(my daughter posts here as princess) princess's son, 4 years old, was quite taken with venice and was showing her around the house.

he was going up the stairs ahead of her, and turned around, face first at her rather, ummm, er, ample?

Mulan

OH NO! NOT AGAIN! WHO PUT THIS BACK TO THE TOP?