You could just go for coffee or a drink. Be honest about your situation (and, if you are, you can only go out with "worldly" girls) and tell them you are hanging back until you can be mentally free. I think most young women would find that endearing and sweet.
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by OneDayillBeFree inive had many single sisters (even the hot ones that horny brothers like to circle around during intermissions at assemblies/conventions) come to me recently asking if im single, what my spiritual goals are and how high in the ranks i am.
i just tell them that im not interested in relationships at the moment and that my focus is on other things.
they usually get the message and leave me alone.. but i lie.. .
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I feel like I'm prejudiced sometimes...
by cognac inand it makes me sick.
i mean, i watch this big, black woman on youtube sing with this incredible voice and all i think is sadness cause i feel like she abuses her kids.
that's so awful.
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Thanks for that great song, Hortensia.
Prejudice is a part of human experience. We have all had experiences and indoctrination that makes us prejudiced in one way or another. As a woman and as a physically challenged person, I have experienced prejudice. As a white Appalachian American, I have been taught prejudice. As Dr. Laura would say, "It's just a feeling." As long as you don't act on it, you're fine. Meanwhile, you can try to reprogram yourself.
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Our Blondie Has A Torn Memiscus.
by LoisLane looking for Superman inblondie posted her watchtower comments for today and her last paragraph was asking for help, suggestions.
she is in pain from her knee injury, is on steroids and possibly going to have surgery.. she is asking if anyone here, has had the same problem, and if so, what did they do and how was the outcome?.
just lois.
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Stay off that leg! Take good care of yourself and get well soon!
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JWs still in that believe and are lurking
by cognac injust wanted to say hi.
i understand how you may feel.
i remember lurking here years ago cause i didn't want to tell the elders on myself and have a judicial committee if i could figure a way out of it.
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Mum
Hi, lurkers. Hope you are learning a lot from this site.
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When have you been 'encouraged' by a brother or sister to do something you didn't want to do, or didn't feel able to do? And how did you FEEL afterwards?
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I was "encouraged" to:
Go out in service on my only day off (felt guilty)
Get baptized at 17 (which I did, to my eternal regret)
pioneer (I didn't, but put in more than the 10-hour goal, but wasn't inclined to be a salesperson then or ever; felt like I was woefully inadequate)
lose weight (by my JW elder husband, which I did, but developed "yoyo syndrome" and felt anxious and disapproved of)
not take college courses (which I did, but by that time, I realized I was doing the right thing for myself and my child, and did it and enjoyed it)
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The Irish have now become pagan, some Catholic bishops believe.
by Sol Reform inafter clerical sex abuse scandals / 'slave labour' at magdalene laundries (nun-controlled laundries) ?
and they're shocked?.
http://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/religion-and-beliefs/irish-have-become-pagan-some-catholic-bishops-believe-1.1440835.
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Pterist, I'm so sorry. I only know what I've seen on American news reports. I didn't consider it a small thing when MaiRead (sp?) Corrigan won the Nobel Peach Prize for her efforts at peace in Ireland. I also saw a report of adults harassing very small children walking to Catholic school. I also read Trinity by Leon Uris some years ago, and was heartbroken at what people, especially Catholics, were suffering.
I don't think of myself as a bigot or as ignorant or entirely uninformed. But, obviously, I have some gaps. Thank you for pointing this out to me. I'll be more careful about speaking in generalities, a practice which I abhor.
Best wishes,
SandraC
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Is Serena facing a JC?
by zed is dead inhttp://msn.foxsports.com/tennis/story/serena-williams-at-fault-for-comments-in-rolling-stone-about-steubenville-rape-case-062513.
zed.
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As a child, I had a neighbor and two relatives who claimed to be JW's. None of them were, by the JW definition. They thought they were because they had been convinced that the BS was right. What puzzles me is why anyone would want to be ID'd as a JW when they're living their life in freedom.
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Human Prehistory 101
by frankiespeakin inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mm-ixk1grye.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8183hpma2_i&feature=endscreen.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t9nw66rcmhg.
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Thanks for those, frankie.
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The Irish have now become pagan, some Catholic bishops believe.
by Sol Reform inafter clerical sex abuse scandals / 'slave labour' at magdalene laundries (nun-controlled laundries) ?
and they're shocked?.
http://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/religion-and-beliefs/irish-have-become-pagan-some-catholic-bishops-believe-1.1440835.
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Catholics and Protestants in Ireland are so un-Christian in their hatred for each other that I would much rather be pagan if I lived in that country. I like fakesmile's assessment of it as religious McCarthyism. Maybe they'll bring back the Inquisition so they can absolve all the pagans, then kill them while they're still in a state of grace.
My daughter saw a bumper sticker once that sums up the attitude of some of us. It said, "Dear God, please save me from your followers."
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A VERY Few Good Men!
by SophieG ini know there are so many heartbreaking stories on here where people have suffered at the hands of tyrant elders.
i have my own stories too.
now looking back i realize that those type of elders probably had authentic assclown personality syndrome to begin with and being in a position of leadership just made it worse.. .
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You were blessed to have that kind of support. I'm happy for you that it helped lead you into a better life.