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  Life after meetings

  by GoUnion in

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  what are the positives in your life since leaving jws?

  mine would be a healthier lifestyle mentally and physically.

  i'm free to do what i want and can make my own decisions, is this good for me will it help me or could it hurt someone else?

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  I have been out since 1979. I got a B.A. degree, traveled without having to attend an assembly, got my daughter un-indoctrinated. She has a degree in chemistry and a wonderful husband. My granddaughter and great granddaughter have had NO exposure to the JW's except that my granddaughter attended a couple of meetings when visiting her grandfather (from whom I have been divorced since 1981). My granddaughter, after attending a meeting, said, "They're insane!" Bright girl!

  I have read many self-help books and got a handle on my feelings and priorities. I had a lot of jobs, one of which is providing me with a good retirement income. I do what I like, and like what I do.

  Leaving my first husband and the JW's was the scariest thing I ever did. I almost didn't survive emotionally, and my daughter was used as a pawn to control me. But I can say the outcome was all worth it.

  Congratulations on a new and better life!
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  I am DF'd now... Decisions, decisions...

  by Comatose in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i was df'd a couple weeks ago.

  i live in a place where i didn't really have new friends at the kh, so my day to day life isn't changing.

  i'm just me living life like i was 2 weeks ago and 2 years ago.

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  Mum

  How old is your daughter? If she's a toddler, I think you should behave as if everything is normal. I would take them to her grandparents' house and behave normally, but I would not leave her to them because, as I heard Dr. Laura once said to a caller with a JW mother-in-law, to them ultimate salvation can only come by being indoctrinated.

  If she is older, does she believe the JW doctrine herself? Does she want a relationship with her grandparents? If she has not been duped by the JDubs, I would instruct her to let her grandparents ramble, to tell you what they said, and then instruct the grandparents to back off if they want to see their granddaughter. Your daughter's feelings need to be considered. If she doesn't want to be preached at, I wouldn't force her.

  Most of all, educate your daughter about brainwashing, cult-think versus real thinking. Help her to have an open mind and to accept people where they are and not try to change them, but, at the same time, not allow them to change her. Encourage her to reach her career and educational goals and offer her what help you can. If you can't help her when she is having a problem with school or psychological issues, please get outside help.

  All the best for a happy future! Welcome to freedom!

  Mum
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  this is how witnessing is being done nowadays

  by losingit in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have a non jw friend that knows about jws only bc i related toher my experience leaving this abusive cult.

  anyhoo, she went to starbucks yesterday and there was an older man on his laptop.

  she sat next to him while she did work on her tablet.

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  Mum

  hamsterbait: Do you mean a verb and a pronoun - initials FY?
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  The End of Circuit Overseers

  by wisdomfrombelow in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i am sure that the term "circuit overseer" will be gone soon.

  they seem to be changing vocabulary and the presiding overseer is now the "coordinator of the body of elders" and all "district overseers" will be gone in a few months.

  they used to be called "circuit servants" but they will never re-hash an old term so they will make a new term.

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  Bishop, i.e., what it really is?
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  Joining a Church and advice from co-workers!!!!!!!!!!

  by Jon Preston in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so im obviously out mentally....i havent da-ed but i cant care less!

  but.....my co workers are encouraging me to find and join a church.

  this person is particularly "wisdomonian" meaning she seems to solve and assist many an ailing indicidual in my field.

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  Mum

  I believe the Church of Christ, like the JW's, considers itself the only "true" church. That mentality needs to go. Give yourself time to explore and learn before you commit to a particular denomination.
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  What if I am a disfellowshipped public school teacher?

  by bsand20 in

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  2. friends

  could a parent put in a complaint to the school district and request that their child be transferred out of my classroom because i am exjw?

  if they give me the jw school brochure (do they still do that?

  sorry its been 16years since i've been out) can i just tell them i'm familiar with their teachings or should i just pretend i'm new to their teachings?....i'm a freshman in college so i have still a long ways before this situation is presented, however i"m trying to get prepared for it.

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  Congratulations on choosing higher education and becoming a teacher! The advice you're received so far is excellent. It will be great for those JW kids to have a teacher who understands them and has compassion for them. Let your students know you're there for them if they need someone to talk to. Best wishes for a great future!
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  What do you love about being a JW?

  by FL_Panthers in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as the title says, share what you love about the truth!.

  we know that the gb or anything else in the truth is all true and nothing is false!.

  love u guys xxx.

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  Mum

  1. Fairy tales; 2. Delusion; 3. Ignorance; 4. Gossip; 5. The fact that the "end" came in 1975, and, as Forrest Gump says, that's one less thing.
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  My Window Cleaner

  by happy@last in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my window cleaner is a jw and as i am always working when he comes to my house i haven't seen him or spoken to him in years.

  the other day i was in my local town and went into a cafe for some lunch.

  who is sitting there but my window cleaner and his wife.

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  They don't even see their arrogance! In my experience, ignorance and arrogance go hand in hand. What a pathetic excuse for a human being, to say nothing of what a poor excuse for a "Christian"
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  Brotherhood or sisterhood that is the question.

  by sparrowdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in a cong of about 70 publishers only about 50 regularly attend.. out of those 50 the majority are women, some single but a fair few whose husbands don't come anymore.. the only men that do attend are the elders, ms and a couple who tag along with their wives.. so in total there are probably only about 15 males in attendance at best.. we have had several local needs over the recent past encouraging sisters to turn over their male return visits.

  to bros, and for bros that go in fs to ask to speak to the man of the house (but i am sure that is the same everywhere).

  my question is are men more likely to wake up first and if so what could be the reason for this?.

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  I have been in other churches besides the JW's. In all of them, there are more women than men. The oppression of women might make them turn to religion. Women feel more responsible for their children's spiritual life as well. I remember someone who had lived in Latin America describing a scene of women going to church while the men watched. I don't know if this phenomenon exists in Buddhism, Hinduism, or other religions which predominate in other parts of the world.
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  hello

  by fakefading in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello my fellow "apostates".

  just wanted to say hi.

  i'm still in the borg but mentally out.

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  Mum

  Welcome to the forum! You're doing great so far - baby steps.