Lady Lee, I cannot imagine the pain you and the other victoms in your family have suffered. I'm guessing the indifference/abondonment by your mother was actually worse than the actual sexual abuse in some some ways. A mother is someone a child expects to be there to love and nurture. I don't mean to offend you but it is clear your mothers own desires were first and foremost on her priority list. Even animals wil die trying to protect their young from preditors!
As a mother I can't wrap my mind around wanting a particular man more than you love your own child...........then repeating...........and repeating. IMHO she has serious pathology. You are a testament to the human spirt to have overcome your background. I hope you are finding satisfaction and happiness in your life now.