Posts by wednesday

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was this place scary the first time?

by jurs in

here and there a newbie will post and its obvious that they think that this site is for jw's and not ex's.

did any of you ever come across an apostate site on accident?

what about the first time you came here?

wednesday

When i first found this place i was very afraid. But i began reading the stories and noticed so many were just like me. i actually arrived here through SilentLambs. I began posting fairly quicly. I think one of my first posts was about "are u still bothered by demons?" i got a big response and the general tone to the thread was many seemed to be worried about my mental health. now i found that odd, as one of the huge teachings in JW are about demons. So i was a little taken back to viewed as nuts for beleiving in them. But i got over it, and received some support via e-mail from others who had similar experiences. I intensly dislike the foul bad mouthing of people. But i have been on discussion boards before, and this one is pretty tame all things considered.

My biggest worry is who is watching these boards. I know some jw do and they do have a list of e-mail addys of known apostates. I worry about my privavy somewhat. but i also see simon does as much as he can to make this a safe place so i continue to post. I am very impressed with the skill of some posters ....myself, I can barely type myself(LOL)

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WTS Secret Police

by Pleasuredome in

heres a story of what happened to me at a district convention this year.. an unbaptised publisher and i travelled to wolverhampton district convention in england.

this wasnt our district but id been on holiday and had missed my own district convention (how unspiritual of me).

so me and this friend decided to go to this convention and was also hoping to meet a friend there.. on the saturday morning we were delayed in traffic and we eventually arrived at 11.30am, paid our 3 for parking (i wonder if they had the use of car parks for free?

wednesday

In the early 90's i was at district convention and since i knew some of the attendents and such personally, i came to find out that a bomb threat had been called in to the convention. There was enemorus security and everyone was on edge. this was in Ft. worth.tx.

Edited by - wednesday on 24 October 2002 17:47:10

29

Can we talk about something deep?

by kenpodragon in

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friends

the other night my mom called me to just talk.

my mother is a jehovah's witness still, so it is not unusual for that to be obvious in the conversation.

now i love my mom very much, and enjoy any time i can spend talking to her.

wednesday

My sons and i talk about everything. even when i was an active jw, i liked talking to them. Pehaps u could ask mom for "baby advice". that should get her going. I now it does me.The baby is going to be a big pull for her. If she is a typical granmother, she'll compromise to see her baby. The baby can provide hours of converstaion.

I am so gald i am inactive and don't worrry about my kids celebarating the holidays or not. i even had pictures taken last year at my sons house with a xmas tree in background. (hope no one ever sees those).

Just wanted to say, u seem like a very well grounded person and how lucky your baby is going to be .

wednesday

32

Women Only, Please.

by Robdar in

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friends

has anybody on the forum ever had a hysterectomy?

i am getting one this winter.

i am scared shitless.

wednesday

I had a total hysto wheni was 31. sort of young. they put me on estrogen right away, but i became depressed anyhow. Also i gained 10 #. However, with exercise and all that probably coud have been avoided. I really needed the hysto-had a huge fibroid tumor in unterus. Felt phsysically better right away. Emotionally-well it varies with each person. expecially if u are rather young-as i was-u may need some help. it is a big shock to your body to remove ovaries at 31.

just my experience

133

Why Im ignoring my friends.

by refiners fire in

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ive basically kept this under wraps in so far as this board is concerned, but ive decided to tell about it because, frankly, im under stress at the moment,am posting (when i post at all) a bit strangely and i wish to explain why im hardly posting, nor am i hardly responding to emails or chat requests from my friends here.

i apologize for the latter.

in a nutshell, my wife is sick, shes been sick a year now and the situation is getting worse.

wednesday

RF,

My sincerest hopes your wife with be feeling better soon.

wednesday

32

So depressed...(world conditions)

by DanTheMan in

today was one of the hardest days i've had yet since leaving jw.

i was barely able to work, and i have a knot in my stomach.. i look at the world situation and i feel so hopeless and helpless.

knowing there are millions of people outside of the u.s. that, if you were to put a button in front of them that had a label below it that said "kill every man woman and child in the u.s.a." that they wouldn't even hesitate to press it.. i wonder where it will end.

wednesday

I do understand how u feel Today i saw2 jw's in my docs ofice while i waited. They were preparing for thursday night meeting and had bible in tow. how smug thay looked-like little robats, so sure of what the future holds. Even my son who hates jw and left a long time ago and was never baptized is so fearful of going to war. he was in KoSoVo and saw things he did not ever want to see again But he said that if he has to he will go and fight and kill some of those bas***ds before he will let them destroy our way of life. As his mother i say"NO!" but those people are determined we are the enemy and want to hurt us.the reason-Religious zeal.

which now makes me worry that jw are right that all religion will be destroyed.

I have not helped here-i feel just as worried about this as many others. The thought of my son giving his life well makes me want to go in his place. I have lived and raised a family. I wish i could do it for him-so he can raise his family.

wednesday-who has not been any help i know

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Ever Been Hypnotized? Part 2

by SYN in

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(part 1).

argh!

the posting edit-box ate all my quotation marks!

wednesday

SYN,

I am reading and enjoying your story.

wednesday

Sorry about double post-the dingo did it.

Edited by - wednesday on 21 October 2002 15:26:44

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Ever Been Hypnotized? Part 2

by SYN in

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(part 1).

argh!

the posting edit-box ate all my quotation marks!

wednesday

SYN,

I am reading and enjoying your story. Looking forward to part 3.

wednesday

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Social retards

by Simon in

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i've been thinking a lot recently about the interaction between people in the exjw community and it seem to me that the "jw experience" (sounds like a theme park ride doesn't it?

) polarises behavior somewhat between two extremes:.

we know in the jw scheme of things that friendships are very 'superficial'.

wednesday

Yes, i think in a number of cases the WTBS makes us social retards. I knew one sweet girl and her family and she sat and cried one day that she dind't even know how to give a party and decorate and all due to all party decoratiions being looked on as being like the world. Also, having been df it really does somethig to your mind to not have social contact. if u are really trying to get reinstated-well u can have no worldly association no one in the WTS will speak to u. It can make u crazy. plus if u are marked, which so happens after reinsatement-well u will have no freinds at all. so it can affect your social skills. Not knowing how to give a BD party-or a holloween, how to do xmas well it really puts u at a disadvantage.

One other thing i wanted to add, i really found i have PTSD from the JC meetings. Anytime i received an evaluation at work or counsel, i just about freaked out. Felt like i was in front of the JC and decisions were being made to oust me.

Edited by - wednesday on 21 October 2002 14:23:8

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Can they change? CofC, and ? about ISPs

by Brummie in

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i'm in the questioning mood so here goes:.

1, can paedophiles change for the better?

if they change should we forgive them?

wednesday

Brummie, u say u were counseling this man. Are u a therapist? are u required to report this info he disclosed to u?I think select people can be helped. The child must always be protected first-but if the molester wants help, i think he should be given it. I feel like if a person has molested once and gets help and never does it again help should be given to them. There must be sanctions on this person, but perhaps they can be rehabilated. However, if a person molests more thatn once-they should throw the book at him and the full penalty under law.They should not ever get another chance.

Did u stop seeing this man due to his confession?What did u tell him to do? There are dedicated persons in the psychiatric world that will work with this element and try to help. If only this person could have been helped when they were a child-b/c frequenlty molesters have been molested themslefs as children and received no help. That is why it is so important to find out and help children of molestation as quickly as posssibe. Before they go on to molest another child.

I speak from personal experience-i was molested as a small child .For me it has resulted in years of depression and low self esteem and self hatred. Finally i received help and i am much better.

My father, the molester, never admitted it his entire life. I was so fearful of him i blocked it out until he was dying.My father was bipolar and drank. he was an angry man. He tried to help me a lot in my 20-i think in some sort of effort to make it up. I really feel for him it was a one time deal and i don't think he ever molested other children. but he would have never went to therapy. however, if i had remembered the molestation as a child, i probably would have reported him. But that was many years ago, rape and child abuse were not hot topics as they are now. probably no one would have believed me.